Posted on 09/13/2024 2:02:12 PM PDT by nickcarraway
Selena Gomez "can't carry" children due to medical reasons.
The Wizards of Waverly Place actress, 32, recently said she was planning to adopt a baby before she met her music producer boyfriend Benny Blanco, 36, who she has been dating since 2023. She has now revealed she has had to "grieve" her inability to naturally become a mother.
She told Vanity Fair: "I haven't ever said this, but I unfortunately can't carry my own children.
"I have a lot of medical issues that would put my life and the baby's in jeopardy. That was something I had to grieve for a while."
Selena went on about how she is still determined to become a mum in a "different" way: "It's not necessarily the way I envisioned it. I thought it would happen the way it happens for everyone.
"I'm in a much better place with that. I find it a blessing that there are wonderful people willing to do surrogacy or adoption, which are both huge possibilities for me.
"It made me really thankful for the other outlets for people who are dying to be mums. I'm one of those people. I'm excited for what that journey will look like, but it'll look a little different."
She added surrogacy or adoption would still mean she would be a mum, saying:
"At the end of the day, I don't care. It'll be mine. It'll be my baby."
In 2013, Selena was diagnosed with lupus and four years later successfully received a kidney transplant.
She told Time magazine about how she resigned herself to being a single mum before she got together with Benny: "I was alone for five years and I got really used to it. A lot of people are afraid of being alone and I probably tortured myself in my head for like two years being alone, and then I kind of accepted it."
Selena added she then "came up with my plan" — which was for her to adopt at the age of 35 if she "had not met anyone".
She said about things changing when she met Benny: "It just happens when you least expect it."
Selena took her romance with Benny, born Benjamin Levine, public in December, and he has told how his "next goal" is to have children with the actress.
He said on The Howard Stern Show: "That's my next goal, to check the box (of having a family.)
"I have a ton of godkids; I've got a ton of nephews. I love being around kids."
Yes, it can be reversed.
The hardest part is identifying the root cause. Once that is done, the next step is to own it.
Once you own it, you can change it. Forgiveness is the key to releasing or changing it.
Yes. All in all, people do best with their bio families.
A lot of who we are is biologically determined.
Saw it time and time again in family after family.
Gestational surrogate. Her egg and boyfriend’s swimmer. Do the Petri dish thing and find an available surrogate. That way it would actually be “her” child genetically.
Kind of like Rent-a-Womb.
University of Texas in Dallas
She may not want to use her egg as the DNA would continue her genetically inherited illnesses.
I’m encountering that with a woman with multiple blood factor disorders that cause strokes. She has both Factor Five Lieden and Von Willebrand Factor causing excess blood clotting and hemmorages as the same time. You cannot prevent one without exacerbating thr other. It’s a death sentence.
It’s causing multi infarct dementia at an early age.
Talk about feeling helpless.
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