Also, were there any stipulations/intent included with the original inherited property (even if verbal)?
If a man has decided to adopt a woman’s child for his own, that child should be treated equally to the blood children.
Maybe the husband can give the adopted daughter a cash equivalent settlement that is equal to her share, if the land is that important to be kept in the family.
That would be reasonable, imo. It doesn’t deny the daughter a share of the inheritance and it keeps the land in the blood family.
I disagree on this one. You can’t expect a step parent to love/value somebody else’s kids as much as they love/value their own.
1. He inherited the land. It’s his separate property to do with as he desires.
2. Any man who marries a woman with children from another man is making a serious mistake. She will always put her children first. You are just a paycheck for her. If she inherited the land, she would give it solely to her biological children and cut out any step kids, without hesitation or condemnation.
3. He should cut out the step kid.
you can’t marry into a family bringing children with you and expect him to give up HIS children’s inheritance.
yeah something is being left out of this story!
I am sure the land is not the ONLY part of the inheritance, and he simply wanted that particular part of his inheritance to stay within the family.
people disinherit their biological children all the time, let alone non-biological children.
Let him write his will however he wants. There is a reason states allow you to choose who your financial heirs will be.
Give her cash or property equal to her share of the land.
“And he said, “There was a man who had two sons. And the younger of them said to his father, ‘Father, give me the share of property that is coming to me.’ And he divided his property between them. Not many days later, the younger son gathered all he had and took a journey into a far country, and there he squandered his property in reckless living. And when he had spent everything, a severe famine arose in that country, and he began to be in need. So he went and hired himself out to[a] one of the citizens of that country, who sent him into his fields to feed pigs. And he was longing to be fed with the pods that the pigs ate, and no one gave him anything.”
Once upon a time, during mother's day dinner, with parents, grandparents, children and grandchildren at the table, a dispute among the grandchildren arose. Each was clamoring for “stuff” the grandparents owned, to which they each believed they were entitled. “I should get the silverware, because I used to help grandma polish it”; said one. “I should get the 1972 cutlass, because I helped grandpa wash it”; said another. The clamor continued as I sat in dismay, before standing up from the table with the retort; “You selfish, inconsiderate people! Our grandparents are very much alive and sitting at this table while you selfishly devise arguments on how to divide the spoils of their death and do so right in front of their faces. You should be ashamed of yourselves.”
After few years, two of my cousins devised a scheme to have their mom divorce their dad because he was squandering the family money, through a few investments. This was the same dad who made VERY much money through investments. Mom did indeed divorce the dad. His heart was broken after so many years of marriage and ultimately drank himself to death. He did not have drinking problem before the divorce. The family was divided in greed and hate. The truth of the matter was not about what the parents did with their own money, the heart of the matter was that the kids wanted to get their inheritance, even if it meant destroying the marriage. Not one of those four kids have ever held a full time job. Their entire life was paid for by the parents.
I guess my point in all of this is that I see a generation of entitled post-pubescent infants who clamor for what they did not earn and it destroys marriages and entire families.
Today, the estates have been settled for the grandparents and the parents, who have all died. The remaining grandchildren have no relationships with each other and it is not bearable to sit with any of them, even now, many years later, because they still gossip, ruminate and slander each other for the “injustice of it all” and each complaining about not getting the “fair share”. It's disgusting.
Any family member who dares to bring up the gimme dat play while I am alive and healthy, will immediately receive a stern warning to never discuss the subject to me or anyone else ever again, or that person can be certain that there will nothing...NOTHING...left to him, or her.
Agree
Like it or not he earned what he has to give it’s his option.
Wife should have established rules to fully include both step kids before marriage. And yes, the husband is acting poorly here. But why are the kids even involved in it at this point?
“The couple plans to sell their current home and use the money to build a new home on the inherited 33 acres. Rochelle told Ramsey that she contributes to nearly half of the family’s income, which makes the situation regarding her daughter even more unfair.”
There’s always more to the story. They are basically turning it into community property, but the husband wants to cut his stepdaughter out.
Also, they are in their 30’s, the will they write today, which should be written to provide for their minor children, will likely be redone entirely different 40 years from now when their kids are middle aged. They may decided to leave the whole shebang to the one child who is not a wastrel or skip them all and leave it to grandchildren.
If the husband dies first, the wife can write a new will any dam way she pleases.
And of course, if yhey divorce in 15 years, she’s taking half anyway.
I understand leaving property to your children but not your stepchildren.
But, the wife says she’s contributing 50% to the house that will be built on the inherited land.
If the property will be left to his sons only, and not to her daughter, then she shouldn’t have to contribute.
If she contributes to the house, then doesn’t his inherited property become marital property under the law?
Maybe the step daughter and he do not get along. There could be a lot more than we are being told.
My middle sister stole most of our fathers life savings. She was also the executor of the estate and tried to steal some of the life insurance money. Insurance companies probably see stories like this all the time.
My aunt and uncle had a son-in-law whose father had his 2 brothers steal the money left for all 3 of them and divided it among the 2 of them.
I told my aunt & uncle about what was going on with his brothers estate and my aunt & uncle set up a trust for their 5 kids because of this.
That trust as discovered by their kids skipped them and gave the bulk of the money to the grand kids... My cousins could take money out to say repair the house or hospital bills etc. They still made out as the parents house was sold at $1.55 million and they divided that money up among the 5 of them and the other money divided up among the kids (I do not know when they get it). My uncle had some millions among a family business and stocks he owned.
Me? I will divide up the money equally to my nieces and nephews. I have 3 sisters and for 2 of them their kids get the money only when their parents are gone as my 2 sisters would steal the money if they could!
I expect my nieces and nephews to hurry them along with a pillow... : )