She’s no longer “dating down” since he now earns the same as her. And, who knows, may continue on that same upward trend.
Women generally will not do this. This isn’t an Asian thing. This is a female thing. Its as true in the US as in an Asian country. This has been the case for years as more women than men graduate from college now.
https://nypost.com/2019/09/25/women-are-struggling-to-find-men-who-make-as-much-money-as-they-do/
Men generally don’t care how much a girl makes. The boss marrying a secretary is practically a trope but it has a basis in truth and there are many real world examples to back it up. What men generally won’t do is marry women older than their early 30s at the very oldest and many won’t accept a woman older than her 20s.
She and her friends can call it “dating downwards” all they want but the truth is that anyone dating shallow people like her or her friends are dating down.
I guess the old reasons for dating such as love, etc. are now passe. Do you now have your net worth tattooed on your forehead?
“Even when they dined at fancier food establishments, Elton would offer to foot the bill.
“Getting the bill made him more motivated to do better in life because he needs to keep up with the ‘new standard of living’,” she explained.
Double his earning power So Elton knuckled down and doubled his earning power within a year, in order to “reach the same standing” as his partner.”
Oh, sounds like a nice low pressure relationship.
“Find someone who loves you, someone who is dedicated, persistent and funny,” she advised.
AND treat them the same way as you want them to treat you. If you are his queen, he is your king.
Seems too many relationships are one way or at least nothing approaching 50-50.
She did a good job, as a wife. She gave him the support to do better and he, like a good man, responded by doing better.
A lot of women, especially younger women, had better start getting use to the idea of “dating down” because with the percentage of college graduates at 60% female and tipping upwards, statistically, a lot of women will simply not be able to find men who are their equal education wise and possibly income wise.
We've always known and more or less accepted that homely guys with a big paycheck were considered irresistible by women, but having women getting good-paying jobs has a different effect on dating - now, supposedly good husband material has to match or exceed the wife's pay or get lost.
I've always known that American women are mercenary, but this change in status is mind-blowing and will work effectively with abortion and the Pill to eliminate children from the allegedly productive.
It doesn’t say what kind of job this woman has, she is probably college educated. With that said, a lot of hard working men have high skilled construction jobs that pay very well. They might not have a four year degree, but they get paid more than those with a degree.
Something tells me these chicks are very insecure. I hung out with a chick for a while who told me she liked dating younger men because older guys were “set in their ways.” She was totally insecure.
Of course i was 3 years older than her.....
All we are saying..is give poor guys a chance.
“The general perception was that she was dating down, which she defined as dating someone who earns less than her.”
Men like that must be hard to find ... A SEXIST WOULD SAY
It’s not “dating downward” if you are buried in student loan debt and the “downward” sucker is not.
Welcome back Baby ... to the poor side of town.
The current state of play is that government, major corporations and major institutions systematically discriminate against men. (And white/white adjacent people.)
Women have five choices:
They can stick with their high intensity, high earning careers and readjust their financial and lifestyle expectations on a partner. I know a scattering of couples who have done this, and they seem happy with the choice. In most cases, it’s simply the way the careers worked out, but they are committed to each other and take that in stride. And in a few cases, when the woman is the higher earning spouse, it is the man who steps back, sacrifices the career, takes a job with greater flexibility, and follows the wife when she gets a promotion and/or is transferred. There’s no reason this can’t work if couples talk it through carefully. But both partners will have serious social stereotypes to withstand.
They can practice hypergamy and become the disposable playthings of high status men who will soon toss them away and move on to the next hot young thing. Then they can become cat ladies.
They can remain single and validate themselves as high earning worker drones and high end consumers. And then become cat ladies.
They can settle for going gay. The statistics indicate that this is not a promising strategy for a stable, long-term relationship, but I do think the current uptick in homosexuality is driven substantially by young women, and occasionally young men, who are disgusted with the toxicity of the current sexual culture and who have given up.
Or, last but not least, they can reject the current cultural indoctrination to prioritize career at all cost and to regard men as the enemy. Look to find a good man, committed to marriage, early, when the women are still in their peak years of physical attractiveness. Get married and stay married, with both partners prioritizing the marriage and talking through the tradeoffs as they arise (and which change from time to time).
The last group is still quite large, but it is held in contempt by our toxic popular culture. It is very much silenced in social media and the worlds of film and tv. But it’s still there. On my optimistic days, I think smarter young people are beginning to figure this out.
Many women like ‘broken men’ because they think they “can fix him.” If you’re dating some guy with a nothing job and he loves you, it isn’t hard to push him to do something towards getting a job that pays more.
It’s fine if she wants this. But I’ll bet you one look at her credit card balance will also tell the other side of the story.
Run! (She lied to him.)