You don’t believe a wedding is the bride’s day? Her wishes should take precedence.
Yes, the father is usually footing the bill. And he has every right to withdraw his money for whatever reason. Or for no reason at all. But absent a huge problem, the father should be the bigger person. And I don’t see a huge problem here.
As I noted earlier, something similar happened in my family. Everyone involved got out their entrenching tools, and dug in. “It was the principle of the thing.”
Now half my family will not talk to the other half. Old folks have died while angry at each other. All over something minor. But, yeah. It was the principle of the thing.
So, you believe that a self-absorbed daughter is entitled to whatever type of wedding she wants and that her father is somehow obligated to pay the bill?
If it wasn't so sad, it would be funny. She says she's independent but needs her dad to pay the bill. The girl has typical liberal thinking, "I have the right to spend other people's money any way I like." She's going to learn the hard way that the world (and her father) doesn't revolve around her.
I understand your perspective on family estrangement.
However there is a fallacious assumption foundational to the video and your argument.
A wedding is NOT the bride’s day.
The wedding is a celebration of family and friends about a rite of passage.
The idea that the wedding is “the bride’s day” has become seriously overblown. I don’t watch the “Say Yes To The Dress” sort of shows, but I see promos for them, and the level of self-centeredness is disgusting. This idea that “everything must be perfect” is another amoral attitude. Marriage is not just about the actual wedding, and to spend thousands on a “dream” wedding is an exercise in self-indulgence that often follows through in the marriage, with unrealistic expectations and resulting disappointment.