Posted on 12/23/2023 5:27:35 AM PST by lowbridge
They say not to speak ill of the dead, but a Michigan woman did so in writing a scathing obituary about her “violent, hateful, and cruel” mom.
Gayle Harvey Heckman accused her mom, Linda Lernal Harvey Cullum Smith Stull, who died Dec. 12, of condoning sexual assault against her, as well as lying about who her biological father was, the Sturgis Journal reported.
She revealed so many skeletons in the closet that the publisher removed the obit from the Three Rivers news site when readers complained about its shocking contents.
“Well, honestly, I wanted to write it for myself because I wanted to clear my name,” Heckman told the Journal on Thursday.
“For 24 years and before that, my mother has had to come up with a reason as to why her daughter isn’t in her life that doesn’t make her look like a monster. … I had to reclaim my name,” she told the outlet.
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“As a mother, Lernal was violent, hateful, and cruel. She physically, mentally, emotionally, verbally, and financially abused Gayle,” the print obit states, according to the outlet.
It also names one alleged abuser, an ex-husband of her mom’s whom the Journal did not identify.
“Lernal accused Gayle of ‘trying to steal her husband’ and proceeded to beat her senselessly,” the obit reportedly says.
“Gayle and her family forgive Lernal and hope that she has found peace,” it reads.
But the obit concludes, “Lernal will not be missed by Gayle or her family. They all understand the world is a much better place without her.”
Heckman said she found it cathartic to pen the vicious obit.
“I wasn’t trying to be hateful, I genuinely … don’t have any hate. I am angry,” she told the Journal.
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“but i also don’t understand the mentality of once a person is dead- they were saints.”
Indeed. My former landlord was one of the 9/11 victims. He was in the tower that was struck by the second plane. And was trapped up there until the building came down.
He was a real lowlife, jerk of a landlord. Invaded our privacy by barging in our place without giving notice or even knocking on the door, withholding and opening our mail, etc.
My uncle and cousin once saw him try to peep through our front door window. Failing to see anything, he then pressed his ear against the door in order to try to hear what was being talked about inside (he and his wife lived in the apartment below us, a 2 family apartment house). He wouldn’t make repairs or improvements to our apartment. We called the housing authorities on him a few times.
But worst of all he froze us every fall and winter by giving us little to no heat (you can be damn sure he kept his apartment nice and toasty warm all day, every day at the same time).
Whenever the subject of 9/11 comes up somewhere on the internet, and if I happen to share my negative stories about my former landlord, there are times when I’m called a liar. Either I’m making up my experiences with him or he was never my landlord, or i never knew him, etc. Evidently, being a 9/11 victim conferred upon him a sainthood status and could have never done wrong in his entire life.
You are probably not in the right. Read below.
By providing college money for other kids but not you. By purchasing winter coats/clothes for other kids but not you. By buying cars for other kids but not you. By providing down payments on houses for other kids but not you. Get it?
*just repent and try to get to know Jesus, that he remembers you, when you meet him. The past is passed*
If Jesus wasn’t there for her how would he remember her?
You just did. :-)
I can understand her. I’m still affected by what happened to me when I was a child.
That’s right.
That is true.
It kinda is. Let the world know what a scumbag they were. While I was raised by loving parents I have met too many people over the years who weren't. You just don't "get over it". To give then sympathy just because they died is bullschit.
Did she have the stones to tell these things to her mom face to face?
If not she’s a chicken shite.
Pathological family nembers need to be called out. They deserve it.
“I always say something good about the dead. This woman’s mother is dead. Good.”
Perfect
But leave the obituaries alone. Show respect for ourselves if not for the departed.
Actually, I understand her anger and frustration. Anyone who would wonder if her dead mother would do anything different, doesn’t understand that the mother didn’t care what the daughter thought, and would have only reinforced her treachery by the response.
My father turned into an evil old man, was a pedophile whose line was “ i’ve never been arrested “; and if you met him casually, you’d like him and think that the rest of us were crazy. That kind of Evil.
“How does a parent “financially abuse” an adult child?”
It doesn’t say she was abused as an adult. The mom could have spent money set aside by someone else for a collage, spent the child support payments on herself, taken and/or sold gifts given to the child.
If we could write Hillary Clinton’s obituary, what would it say? 🤔
Not more than I do. The premise is that everybody that fails tried, which is stupid. We all know plenty of people that don't try to do their best or don't try at all. That's human nature. Just look around you.
“ If we could write Hillary Clinton’s obituary, what would it say? 🤔”
She seemed nice.
Once a person dies, libel laws no longer apply. Anyone can pay to publish a nasty obit about them if the newspaper wants to take the money for the obit. Why a person wants to pay to publicly denounce the deceased is about them. This is how this person dealt with the death of a difficult person. I do know someone who called his/her father “the devil”, but didn’t pay to put that in an obit. The obit may help subsequent generations understand the generation above them in the family history.
My mother was terrible also—classic sociopath.
However everybody knew it—you just had to encounter her for five minutes and you would know it.
Her list of former friends numbered in the dozens—each one had fascinating tales to tell.
All the relatives hated her—she had a gift for irritating people.
There was no point in publicly attacking her—would be beating a dead horse.
I guess I should thank her—she taught me how not to treat people—and that lesson served me very well.
Was the daughter excluded from her mother’s will?
I know a woman who died recently that lambasted her older sister in her will, listing all the things she did and how evil she was in the will, and then gave everything to her other sister..
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