Barely.
The wrack and ruin left to me without a will is going to be the end of me.
His son will likely come for what little I have left and finish me off.
I’m hanging on for the sake of my terminal dog and when he’s gone, there will be nothing left.
30 years of doing for him, just to be thrown to the wolves.
I know that it hurts I’ve been there too freaking many times Myself. From My Father’s death from a rare disease called Wegener’s Granulomatosis in a matter of weeks. He was as Christian as one could be and spent His 72 years on earth serving God any and every way He could. Before that My Fiancé slid off the road in a rainstorm, the car flipped over landing in a creek and She drowned, still strapped in the seatbelt. She was an excellent swimmer but She was knocked unconscious and couldn’t get out of the car. Stacey was 34 years old. I still think about Her every day. Next was Ken who I worked with in the water treatment plant for only about 8 months. He was the best Operator I ever knew teaching me things that weren’t in the books. He suddenly got liver cancer and in a few months it was everywhere including His brain. I quitmy job to be His unofficial hospice nurse and was giving Him morphine drops at 2am when He took His last breath. Ken was 52. Ken was the great-great-great grandson of the real Walker Texas Ranger. Ken always had a joke at hand or a family story. I still think about Him every day. Next, shortly after Ken was my 2nd Wife who was diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer shortly before we were married. After chemotherapy, a mastectomy and radiation it spread to Her brain and She died before our 1st anniversary. Deborah was 58. She’s on the every day list also. Next came Mom. She had bad dementia the last few years of Her life. She died at 92 in a care center. I could write a book about Her and Dad putting up with raising me but not in this Post. Again on the daily list. Then my Brother’s Wife of 54 years from liver disease. In the first 4 years of my current (3rd) marriage my wife lost her Uncle, 2 Aunts and her Mother. All were the typical Italian Catholic Funerals. I can’t remember how many Dogs I’ve lost.
So been there, done that and lost the T-shirt or Trophy.
I’m going to be blunt here Shari.
Suck it up and fight for what’s YOURS !!! You are stronger than this !!! You know it, I know it and Your FRiends know it !!!’ So kick that can of shit out of Your yard and down the road, hell kick it into freaking orbit !!! Fight for Yourself like You fight for Your Dogs 🐾 🐕🐾
Now on to business.:
Have You gathered up any of the Paperwork I told You that would be needed ? YES or NO ?
Have You made any NEW calls to any placess see on the List I sent to You ? YES or NO ?
Has this “son” actually tried to get ANYTHING or is this in Your head and You’re using it as a wall because Your give-a-shit factor is going further downhill ? The TRUTH in Your answer please.
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FReeper FRiends that have Posted on this Thread, Salamander and I need your help with an attitude adjustment quest. See the above Post from Salamander, She’s trying to GIVE UP !!!
TIA
FReeper FRiends that have Posted on this Thread, Salamander and I need your help with an attitude adjustment quest. See the above Post from Salamander, She’s trying to GIVE UP !!!
TIA
Salamander, it will go to probate and you should be favored for everything.
Please do not despair.
When Christ told us to turn the other cheek, it was to make room for HIM to enact justice on our behalf, not to be a door mat. Hear what I’m saying to you; if you humble yourself in this circumstance TO GOD, He will protect you and provide for you. Your husband’s family has nothing on the true, living God.
Dear Salamander, I know things look bleak now and you’ve faced quite a storm. You are amazing. Please, please don’t give up. There are many of us who love you and know the light you put out to the world. Please keep the faith.
I saved this from 2020 when I lost two people very near and dear to me and it helped. I hope and pray you will get some comfort from it. I love you, friend.
Beauty for Ashes
“…to give them beauty for ashes, the oil of joy for mourning, the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness…” Isaiah 61:3
TODAY’S WORD:
It’s easy to live discouraged because of disappointments and things we don’t understand. We worked hard, but we didn’t get the promotion. We prayed, but our loved one didn’t make it. We did our best, but the relationship didn’t work out. Life is not always fair, but God says He will take what was meant for your harm and use it to your advantage. He says He will pay you back double for the unfair things that happened. He says He will give you beauty for the ashes, but you have to let go of the ashes before you receive the beauty. You can’t hold on to the old and expect to receive the new. The past is over and done. That’s why it’s called the past. Quit dwelling on it, quit reliving it. You’re not going to understand everything that happens, but God has a purpose for it. He knows how to bring good out of it. So keep moving forward.
PRAYER FOR TODAY:
“Father, thank You that the past is over and done, and I can quit dwelling on it. Thank You that You had a purpose for the good and the bad of my past, and I can let it go and move forward. I believe You are giving me beauty for ashes. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.”
Dear Friend,
My heart aches for you, BUT GOD!!!!! God has never met a problem that perplexed Him. Why not cast all your cares and sorrows on Him and stand and watch to see what He will do? What do you have to lose? Prayers continue. What does a Father God Who loves you want for you? VICTORY!!! IN THIS LIFE! The next life is guaranteed victory, but so is this one . It’s just not guaranteed that the problems don’t arise. Ask God to take over for you. He will. Much love to you.
I have no advice...just prayers that God will hear your cries for help and wrap you tightly in His powerful arms where you will receive what you need to keep moving forward.
You have many FRiends who love you.
Shari, dear FRiend -
God works any avenue He can, including reaching out to you through the many Folks here, offering So Much good advice, that will help you IF you act upon it.
You have been through so much, so do rest, and Care for yourself, in order to rise stronger and ready to act.
Read through this thread, allowing the outpouring of support and caring to give you comfort and strength. Write down All the actionable good advice and then - start working through it as you are able.
Dear Lord, please hear our prayers for our FRiend, Shari, seeing her through this terrible time with Your guidance, comfort and love.
Tatt
"...there will be nothing left" I'm sure you know that isn't true. There are a million little lives out there suffering for a lack of love. People like you are a gift to them. A gift from God to them and us. Let time do its work dear sister. God will never leave you and neither will your eternal family. Don't you leave us.
I always recommend reading the Psalms.
I’d spend 20 minutes of my hour lunch doing that some days. Just to get through that day.
✝️🙏🛐
If he did not have a will at all, the surviving spouse is usually the one the court awards the estate to.
More prayers being said for you
Please Shari, heed the advice here. Look to the Lord to give you strength. We cannot guarantee lack of pain, just the strength to endure it.
Cry out to Him. He can help you in your grief and difficulties.
You know, I heard that great song today. I don’t hear it much anymore though it was a big hit at the time. Mariah Carey, “Hero”. Perhaps this is a message for me to give to you.