I was fatally attracted to men with good looks, super-confidence and status - but they didn't make me happy: Dating coach tells single women it is time to ditch the addiction to alpha males and bag a beta if they want long-term love

UK Daily Mail ^ | March 19, 2023 | Mairi Macleod

[C19fan]

As a biologist, I know quite a bit about animal behaviour - I studied monkey mating strategies for my PhD - but I confess that I have made some poor choices when it comes to finding a mate of my own.

[C19fan]

Hard data from online dating apps and anecdotal social media, minimum acceptable height is now 6’.

[Phoenix8]

I’m not going to try and recall the exact numbers but I recall a study that was made from the UK.

The numbers of conquests for women and men don’t apparently match up. Men report 3x the number of encounters than women.

One of the sexes are lying. Some suggest it’s women who hide many clandestine encounters with “chad” types.

[alexander_busek]

Based on “right swipes” of online dating apps, men find a much larger percentage of women attractive than woman find men attractive.

Come on! Spit it out!

Men find roughly 50% of all women to be "above average," and the other 50% to be "below average" in appeal. This is a legitimate and mathematically valid assessment.

Women, on the other hand, find approx. 80% of all men to be "below average" - a mathematical impossibility!

Regards,

[Recompennation]

The you’re so vain type that Carli Simon sang about.
Alpha is on the inside not the outside

[mewzilla]

That’s not my definition of a alpha.

[DCBryan1]

Mairi Macleod

[bray]

Translation: I am a man hating shrew and am looking for another cat.

[John Milner]

I get a very strong Kathy Griffith vibe from that pic. Which is instinctively, a HARD NO!

[mewzilla]

👏👏👏

[alexander_busek]

Advice is good for men as well. That 10 you crave is not wife material. She will break your bank, your heart, and your desire to ever marry again arrogantly blow you off in mid-sentence, while you're standing there, asking her if you could buy her a drink.

Rather, it's the sixes and sevens you have to watch out for!

Regards,

[Jonty30]

Probably a combination of men plumping theur numbers and women not counting single encounters.

[Vermont Lt]

It would be a shame if young folks today actually had some basis on which they could learn about healthy relationships. If only there was some way they could see a long term relationship between a man and a women where they actually witnessed a commitment over time—the ups and downs; something they could model.

It would be amazing if young folks actually had people in their lives who could guide them on what it takes to engage in productive, long term relationships.

I guess they have the internet to answer those important questions; Not pesky parents who judge stuff.

[fwdude]

Just have them castrated, that should do the trick. Makes putting a collar and leash on them easier.

[central_va]

Yes, it is easy to confirm. Make fake male dating profile with everything the same and change only the height from 6-1 to 5-8. See what happens to the level of responses.

[ConservativeInPA]

It’s all BS. There are millions of years of evolution stuck in the deep recesses of our brains that leave very few without a mate. The ugly and stupid marry each other. The smart and beautiful marry each other. The people in the middle marry each other. Occasionally, some marry up or down and rarely some do not marry at all. Perhaps marry isn’t the best word these days. Mate and create offspring might be better for current times.

[central_va]

Advice is good for men as well. That 10 you crave is not wife material. She will probably be a prostitute and charge you $500/hr

Fixed it.

[Kharis13]

Advice is good for men as well. That 10 you crave is not wife material.

The perfect female 10? Two arms, two legs, and six million dollars.

[Navy Patriot]

That's why I post pictures of Women.

There is information in the way they present themselves, and I usually don't comment on the picture.

I agree with your evaluation.

[PGR88]

good looks, super-confidence and status is not what makes an alpha male, just sayin.

So true, but its the low IQ mating strategy.

[Red Badger]

Your mother was correct.

In a related field, electronics, I have found that the best technicians were not the ones who graduated at the top of their class, but the second tier, ‘B’ students.

The top students usually have a superiority complex and cannot do the actual work, preferring to ‘study’ the problems to death theorizing.

The ‘B’ students solve problems, quickly and pragmatically..............