Posted on 03/19/2023 10:10:27 AM PDT by nickcarraway
DEAR ABBY: I lived in New York all my life. I moved to Florida a year ago because of my health and to be near my daughter and granddaughters. I have been depressed ever since I got here. I miss New York and my best friend very much. I can’t sleep. I sit and cry and I have no motivation to do anything. My daughter has been great to me, but when I try to talk to my husband about how I feel, he doesn’t care. He yells and walks away. I’m so confused. I feel I can’t move on. Can you give me any advice? — DISPLACED IN THE SOUTH
DEAR DISPLACED: Your reason for moving to Florida was a rational one. However, feelings are not always rational. Your move has placed you in a situation where the surroundings are unfamiliar and your support system (your best friend) is no longer there for you.
The symptoms you have described are those of a deep depression. Do not allow it to become chronic. Some sessions with a licensed mental health adviser may help you to adjust to your new circumstances so you can explore your options for more social interaction.
P.S. I wish you had asked me about the wisdom of relocating before you did it because I would have advised you to rent for a year to be sure you would be happy in Florida before making it permanent.
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You offer up the only reasonable solution.
Same with most all of those hackneyed and mawkishly over-sentimental "long distance dedications" that were heard on the Casey Kasem "American Top 40" radio show.
“She should stay with her friend in NYC from November to May and join her husband in Florida from June to October.”
Two of my wife’s siblings and their wives, split the seasons.
They had long term ressies at timeshares in Floriduh starting the first week in December and they returned to their MidWest homes after Easter. One couple stayed on the East Coast side and the other couple stayed on the West Coast side.
They talked on phones several times a week and met halfway for lunch a couple times each month. They did that back in the MidWest.
Covid B$ and the death of one of the wives stopped that process.
Or those Penthouse Forum letters.....”I never thought this would ever happen to me.......”
Well this person can die, problem solved..
“Half of New York and New Jersey live in Florida”
And vote in both states.
Most of those “Dear Abby” and “Dear Ann Landers” advice columns that appeared in most newspapers for much of the 20th Century are indeed fabricated or at best an amalgamation ............
I used to be an expert on bullshit. In fact, such an expert I could correctly identify it two out of three times.
Now days, everything is bullshit until proven otherwise.
See, I actually did get it for the articles.
The loud voices, the restaurants, the rudeness. It sure wasn't the south I was raised in where good manners were expected.
My niece spent her adult life in FL. Has family there. Retired from Florida PD and got a job and moved to Jackson WY. loves it there.
Dear Abby is now fake, computer made drivel.
Fort Lauderdale then had a lot more French-Canadians visiting from Quebec than New Yorkers.
You’d probably get the exact same responses from ChatGPT.
What #39 song was used for your long distance dedication? I'm pretty sure I heard it at one point for I listened to almost all those shows during the 1970s and 1980s. Even today, I listen to the repeats on Sirius/XM.
I hope that many millions of more come to feel this way.
There are a bunch of nice things about Florida, but there a bunch of crappy things too. The landscape is rather flat and boring, and it gets too hot in the summer. But in the winter time it is great.
Not to mention the Palmetto Bugs.
Dear Displaced: Slash your arms multiple times lengthwise.
That’s exactly where we are now. My wife was born in the SF Bay Area and, other than four years in Hawaii for college, spent her entire life here. We raised our family here in the Bay Area. Five years ago we bought a vacation home in North Idaho. When COVID hit, my wife’s office announced it was closing in two days, so my wife grabbed the dog and skedaddled to our vacation home before California shut could stop people from leaving the state (which they were threatening to do). She’s been in Idaho ever since. I like wintering in California since I grew up in upstate NY with long, cold, wet, snowy, dreary winters. She likes the winter. So we are doing exactly what your wife’s siblings are doing. We talk most days. She goes skiing. I go for hikes in the mountains around us. It’s not what I wanted, but it is working.
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