Posted on 12/27/2022 10:56:30 AM PST by grundle
My husband and I spent our first seven years of marriage building our careers.
When our second child was born, we realized how expensive day care would be.
My husband decided to stay at home with the kids, and I grew my career — and our family thrives.
Sixteen years ago, my husband and I decided to make a big shift for our family.
Peter and I had spent the first seven years of our married life without kids, supporting each other in our separate career goals. When our son was born, we continued to balance it all, but when we welcomed our daughter almost three years later, the reality hit us.
We now had two children under the age of 3 and two demanding career paths — his as a classically trained chef who never had weekends or holidays off, and mine as a creative-agency founder just getting her company off the ground.
On top of this, we discovered that day-care costs for two were not cheap. As we considered our options, we recalled what my husband said jokingly when we became parents: "Whoever is making more money goes back to work."
Back then, I knew in a flash that would be me and I would love that. With our daughter's arrival, it felt like time to revisit the thought.
When we talked it over seriously, things came into perspective. We realized that in paying for day care for two, we'd be making only about $10,000 more a year by having two incomes. I knew I could find a way to fill that gap. And if Peter, who had always been a hands-on, nurturing parent, became a stay-at-home dad, the kids would have an incredible experience. It made sense.
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While I’m bitching about everything
Where is supposing they are actually raising their children” frankly when I look around most middle and upper middle class couples I see out here in White Landia
Are not raising their kids they just have them and support them financially and send them to fancy schools but the actual raising like decent manners responsibility discipline there’s very little of that how many times have I’ve been in the grocery store and I see the mom tell the kid over and over and over to quit doing something and they never do a damn thing about it they just talk and the dad‘s are not much different as I push the stroller along or carry the baby bag in their skinny jeans while they get in their Volvo or they’re Subaru men with neck beards that exude estrogen like some sort of lemming jumping off the cliff of their hair follicles estrogen estrogen estrogen I’m a pussy but I make good money
I’m 65 but I can tell you this is a whole Nother world about what defines masculinity when I was young men were very masculine and you could get your ass beat for running your mouth and could listened and did not interrupt nonstop and we’re not spoiled even Rich kids
Break up the family anyway you can and you’ve got woke utopia one day
You have over done me....DH
Stupid autocorrupt
Should have said capable
I want validation and I want it now by God
A governess is better than daycare too slow heart disease is generally better than cancer
As you have said on this very thread with you bragging about how you wined and dined a "heiress" a guy is nothing but a wallet with legs.
Your seeing yourself as that is kind of sad.
And if you want to talk about "traditional" men used to be very involved with raising their kids. It was not until factories became a thing that men spent most of the day away.
I know when someone does not follow a logical lineal argument you throw out all these hypotheticals to try to refute the person you’re arguing with when that person never said those things maybe we should just call you disingenuous besides being a wimp or a wimpess
Thanks.
Along our way, we had and still have great family members and friends.
Good for them. They are a) heterosexual and b) married. - big pluses in todays world. Their choice of domestic duty makes good sense.
I suppose "Men are nothing but wallets with legs and should never try to be anything else, especially to their children or they are not men" is lineal. Not so sure about logical.
Why not go on welfare and BOTH stay home full time?
That’s awesome!
Thank you and God bless your family as well!
Amen to that. Fathers working at home, showing kids how to work. That was the way of life for a long, long time. That other dude is just stirring the pot.
“A stay at home mom is even better.”
Absolutely!!!
“He’ll always be her bit@h. And submissive. He isn’t the man of the house.”
The problem gets worse over time, trying to explain himself away as, who knows, a ‘day trader’ or something? Eventually you get friction, then worse...
Definitely Not Guilty, but still a bit too ‘high power’ for me. I prefer a wife that I don’t have to compete against on a daily basis.
“And I started screwing the real men at work.”
I suspect that’s why so many of those ‘non-traditional’ marriages fail.
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