Posted on 12/27/2022 10:56:30 AM PST by grundle
My husband and I spent our first seven years of marriage building our careers.
When our second child was born, we realized how expensive day care would be.
My husband decided to stay at home with the kids, and I grew my career — and our family thrives.
Sixteen years ago, my husband and I decided to make a big shift for our family.
Peter and I had spent the first seven years of our married life without kids, supporting each other in our separate career goals. When our son was born, we continued to balance it all, but when we welcomed our daughter almost three years later, the reality hit us.
We now had two children under the age of 3 and two demanding career paths — his as a classically trained chef who never had weekends or holidays off, and mine as a creative-agency founder just getting her company off the ground.
On top of this, we discovered that day-care costs for two were not cheap. As we considered our options, we recalled what my husband said jokingly when we became parents: "Whoever is making more money goes back to work."
Back then, I knew in a flash that would be me and I would love that. With our daughter's arrival, it felt like time to revisit the thought.
When we talked it over seriously, things came into perspective. We realized that in paying for day care for two, we'd be making only about $10,000 more a year by having two incomes. I knew I could find a way to fill that gap. And if Peter, who had always been a hands-on, nurturing parent, became a stay-at-home dad, the kids would have an incredible experience. It made sense.
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Cater from home.
I volunteered to my wife to do that and she laughed.
Oh well.
Pick a topic and state a position. No matter what you say, the naysayers will crawl out of the woodwork to disagree.
Agree Me. Moms teach the kids how to play poker to early.
To all you whiny FReepers that are full of crap:
I was a stay at home Dad for several years. My wife had an established job and making decent money. I stayed home, took care of the home front, and was going to college.
I’m not anyone’s bitch. I’m not a cuck. I’m not a beta. I am now working and the MRS. is staying home.
A stay at home Dad is 100% better than day care.
In old America, going back just a few decades, Mom didn’t have to work. Cars, homes, rent, food were all reasonable.
My folk’s first home was brand new and they did it on ONE income, and this was California!
The generations that followed simply got robbed and screwed.
Good post.
FR has become the all or nothing marketplace of ideas.
God bless your family.
Probably. But a stay at home dad is much better than a daycare.
A stay at home either is awesome.
God bless them.
When America started it’s downhill decline, was when things got so expensive, it took two incomes to raise a family, mortgage etc. That was right around 1968-1970....
And things went downhill fast in every direction since.
Ugh
Ugh ugh
Sounds like you’ve been the bit@h at some point. 🤔
Her career really took off when her company transferred her to Japan. It made sense for both of them. Their grandsons are seriously well-behaved, Dad is a great cook and my daughter's feelings of guilt are lessened big-time by a supportive husband.
It’s actually amusing how you completely missed the point about a father and home yet you were somehow so smug about it
Amen
It doesn't have to be an exclusively "feminine" thing to be a homemaker.
But it is the exception. If I proposed something like that to my wife, she'd laugh her head off. She would never consider that arrangement because she'd rather be the one at home.
Every exchange you have had on this thread you throw out strawman after strawman that no one said
that is what leftist do honestly
Most Americans particularly people who believe in traditional values and family structure like most of a sheer find it weird the man is a homemaker no that’s fine for you good luck I don’t want any part of it
I was in a relationship with an heiress
Mid 1980s and I still paid for most everything we did enjoy her families homes all over the world but that was about it everything else I paid for she didn’t have a problem with that even though she was a famous she kind of enjoyed the traditional southern Guy protective chivalry all that bullshit
Girls don’t want that they can marry a metrosexual hipster from Chicago or Ithaca
There will be old ladies walking around with clipboards on Jan 7 to make sure of that.
Trying to explain how this is somehow preferable to human history such recorded time is like when people want to ask you what is a woman or yes men can have babies or transsexuals or normal or why have borders basically all the nonsense woke people talk it is so nonsensical that the need to explain it or defend against it almost seems ridiculous
G war daddy what’s wrong with dad big Mr. mom I feel like if I have to explain it to your dumb ass then you were lost already
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