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After having our 2nd child, my husband and I decided one of us should stay home. Since I made more money, he became a stay-at-home dad.
Insider via Yahoo ^ | December 27, 2022 | Taja Dockendorf

Posted on 12/27/2022 10:56:30 AM PST by grundle

My husband and I spent our first seven years of marriage building our careers.

When our second child was born, we realized how expensive day care would be.

My husband decided to stay at home with the kids, and I grew my career — and our family thrives.

Sixteen years ago, my husband and I decided to make a big shift for our family.

Peter and I had spent the first seven years of our married life without kids, supporting each other in our separate career goals. When our son was born, we continued to balance it all, but when we welcomed our daughter almost three years later, the reality hit us.

We now had two children under the age of 3 and two demanding career paths — his as a classically trained chef who never had weekends or holidays off, and mine as a creative-agency founder just getting her company off the ground.

On top of this, we discovered that day-care costs for two were not cheap. As we considered our options, we recalled what my husband said jokingly when we became parents: "Whoever is making more money goes back to work."

Back then, I knew in a flash that would be me and I would love that. With our daughter's arrival, it felt like time to revisit the thought.

When we talked it over seriously, things came into perspective. We realized that in paying for day care for two, we'd be making only about $10,000 more a year by having two incomes. I knew I could find a way to fill that gap. And if Peter, who had always been a hands-on, nurturing parent, became a stay-at-home dad, the kids would have an incredible experience. It made sense.

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I agree with this article. A stay at home father is so much better than day care.
1 posted on 12/27/2022 10:56:30 AM PST by grundle
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To: grundle

A stay at home mom is even better.


2 posted on 12/27/2022 10:58:02 AM PST by AlaskaErik (There are three kinds of rats: Rats, Damned Rats, and DemocRats.)
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To: grundle

New age movie — the Breastfeeding Dad.


3 posted on 12/27/2022 10:58:56 AM PST by George from New England
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To: grundle

At least the kids will eat well. Mom at home is better though.


4 posted on 12/27/2022 11:04:09 AM PST by Poison Pill
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To: grundle

He’ll always be her bit@h. And submissive. He isn’t the man of the house.


5 posted on 12/27/2022 11:04:52 AM PST by DesertRhino (Dogs are called man's best friend. Moslems hate dogs. Add it up..)
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To: grundle

220-221, whatever it takes.


6 posted on 12/27/2022 11:05:38 AM PST by IYAS9YAS (There are two kinds of people: Those who can extrapolate from incomplete data.)
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To: grundle

7 posted on 12/27/2022 11:06:20 AM PST by billorites (freepo ergo sum)
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To: grundle
It is amusing how the replies on this thread see dad as nothing more then a wallet with legs.
8 posted on 12/27/2022 11:07:26 AM PST by Harmless Teddy Bear (The nation of france was named after a hedgehog... The hedgehog's name was Kevin... Don't ask)
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To: grundle

He’s going to join the HOA and start writing blogs next.


9 posted on 12/27/2022 11:08:20 AM PST by humblegunner
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To: grundle

My best friend is a stay at home dad. His wife is a teacher. Two kids, not toddlers. He does a little trading on Ebay, mostly Star Wars (he has the largest collection I’ve ever seen), and he has a couple of regular saxophone gigs.


10 posted on 12/27/2022 11:08:45 AM PST by real saxophonist (Hoplophobia will never be in the DSM, because the DSM is written by hoplophobes.)
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To: grundle

Whatever works....


11 posted on 12/27/2022 11:09:42 AM PST by Rummyfan (In any war between the civilized man and the savage, support the civilized man. )
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To: Harmless Teddy Bear

It’ll be ok as long as he does the shopping, laundry and has dinner ready when his “wife” gets home. LOL


12 posted on 12/27/2022 11:10:24 AM PST by DesertRhino (Dogs are called man's best friend. Moslems hate dogs. Add it up..)
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To: grundle

true, but from what i’ve read, they always get bitter...


13 posted on 12/27/2022 11:11:21 AM PST by Chode (there is no fall back position, there's no rally point, there is no LZ... we're on our own. #FJB)
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To: grundle

If they divorce, does he get at least half of everything because he had to ‘sacrifice by benefiting the domestic relationship by caring for the kids’ while she brought home the bacon, thereby putting him at an economic disadvantage?
Sorry for taking the topic there, but I have my suspicions a good portion of the judges wont see it that way even though they usually do when the genders are flipped.


14 posted on 12/27/2022 11:11:42 AM PST by z3n (Kakistocracy)
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To: DesertRhino

He’ll always be her bit@h. And submissive. He isn’t the man of the house.
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Is that because he’ll probably spend his time wanking off instead of the watching the kids…?


15 posted on 12/27/2022 11:11:44 AM PST by dragonblustar (If you watch porn then you are a pedophile and a supporter of rape. Repent and be saved! )
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To: AlaskaErik

A stay at home mom is even better.

Having a mother and a father is best. Doesn’t matter which one is getting the income,


16 posted on 12/27/2022 11:13:54 AM PST by drSteve78 (Je suis Deplorable STILL )
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To: AlaskaErik
a father is not a mother....

shame on daddy that he didn't have valuable work skills so he could provide the nest for his children and their mother....

that's the point....traditional men's roles were to provide the home environment.....

too many men seem to think they can be flunkies and dabble at their work and then just abandon it all together....

this is not the way society should be headed....

we need traditional marriage roles....

I can guarentee that in a couple of yrs when the kids are in in school full time there will be growing resentment....

17 posted on 12/27/2022 11:14:18 AM PST by cherry
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To: grundle

Was this article written in 1980? There’s absolutely nothing new here. Maybe the author dusted off a 1980 article and updated it.


18 posted on 12/27/2022 11:14:44 AM PST by ProtectOurFreedom (If you're not part of the solution, you're just scumming up the bottom of the beaker)
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To: humblegunner
He’s going to join the HOA and start writing blogs next.

Then your future as an internet troll is bright!

19 posted on 12/27/2022 11:15:29 AM PST by BlackbirdSST (Trump WON!!! He will win 2024!)
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He’ll always be her bit@h. And submissive. He isn’t the man of the house.


20 posted on 12/27/2022 11:16:03 AM PST by bagster ("Even bad men love their mamas".)
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