Perhaps oddly, my go-to quote and guy on this subject is Divine's director, John Waters. To wit
Have you ever done drag? I was only in drag once, and that was as the Wicked Witch at a birthday party when I was 8 years old. That ended my drag career. You have to be so careful of what you say. My friend told me this story, “You know, every gay man once tried on their mother’s shoes.” You did it once; you never did it again. But now, if you have a very liberal mother and they catch you, you have sexual reassignment lessons at 8 years old. And you might not really wanna do that.
John Waters is a smart guy. He’s not quite “normal” but he’s not a total weirdo. He’s just different.