Posted on 10/15/2022 9:53:44 AM PDT by aquila48
Kelly Chang Rickert rose to TicTok fame by giving pithy advice so you don’t end up in her office asking her to litigate (or better yet, mediate) your divorce. Happily married herself, she reveals the top 5 questions you should ask before marriage so you don't end up divorced:
1. What is your credit score? (And ask to see recent credit report)
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2. Children
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3. Household chores
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4. Sex
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5. Health
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These questions are just the starting point. It is much better to have an awkward conversation now than having this conversation in front of your lawyer, or the judge in your case. Divorces and reveal embarrassing personal information, so if you cannot bring it up to your fiancé imagine how you will feel in a deposition.
(Excerpt) Read more at forbes.com ...
Unless she checks ask the boxes, it’s a no-go and I share the list right up front, early on...
[] know and love our Creator and His Son and attend church...I do
[] be NON GMO...I am
[] be close to my age...I’m 59
[] be in good shape/tone/low fat...I am, be close to that.
[] hold fast to conservative values and principles...I do
[] be kind to all, loving your neighbor as yourself...I do
[] be drug free...I am
[] display mercy, forgiveness and humility...I try my best
[] do not have facelifts, botox, fake body parts...be natural...I am
[] give to full access to your phone...I will
...filters out the nonsense very fast.
In fact an unscrupulous wife can file a lawsuit, take at least half of everything her husband accumulated and take off with her long time lover even if it’s his BROTHER
“God does say a lot about staying single.”
‘Like what?’
“ Read the Apostle Pauls’ letters.”
I might have known you would give a ridiculous answer.
Don’t talk to me
Piss poor advice in my opinion. Credit score???
I got married at 18, 4 months out of high school to my high school sweetheart as they say. We eloped. Didn’t have kids for almost 5 years. On year 50 now. I didn’t know what a credit score was, we figured kids out, sex is what you make of it, household chores have always been 50/50 because it makes sense and health wise we never got the jab so we’re good.
Divorce is the result of not caring enough to figure it out.
If so you can bet your sweet bippy your love will be too. Just a matter of time no matter how svelte she is now. Ditto for he and his father.
Had a guy get married at my house. His 3rd marriage. 7 groomsmen, the groom and me, I was the best man. We all went to a local bar before the ceremony for a quick shot in honor of the groom (Vietnam Vet).
I did a toast then asked one question. How many times have each of you been married?
I’ve been married once, still am and on year 50. Total marriages between the 9 of us.... 27. One guy had 5.
One divorce is understandable.
Two or more is a red flag.
Home exercise is as good as gym, try to get in 150 minutes every week, with 4 weeks a year vacation lol.
Ay carrumba!
Congratulations to you and your wife though and may you have many more blessed years together.
Religion, what and how much? It leads to lots of terrible hangups.
Family, like a job, if you don’t like the people you work with and they don’t like you, move on. Most families don’t raise children that are outsiders.
Just say no. Walk away now. It is so much easier than later but no young buck in rut or doe can possibly see that. Sexual tension can cause a lot of misdirection. Fall in like and love and not in just lust. It will take a heck of a lot more than that to make it through certain times.
Ambition, needs to be at least close. Oxen not equally yoked are both miserable. The stronger of the two is most miserable of all.
Wait until the setting is not so intense as being a youngster or being in college and that is all you really have in common. Most people just are not fully formed before they really go out on their own. Some periods of life are tough enough alone.
Political stance says a lot about a person.
Crisis reveals character. Watch for it.
Moral and ethical positions must be compatible.
Look for someone who can reason and be reasonable. Being pouty may be cute sometimes but it isn’t ever pretty at all. When only one party gets their way there is no relationship.
Never having to say you’re sorry is BS. Good people make mistakes and big people admit them and change them for others.
Some of my thoughts on the matter.
Maybe don’t reply to my posts in the first place.
Lol
That’s really good advice. If you can’t afford the kids you’re popping out, that’s neglect.
My sister was in a blind date years ago. When she found out he had voted for Clinton she excused herself to go to the restroom. Then went home.
Agree. Pool the finances. Both of us hate shopping, and that’s a positive. Some couples we know have a shopper and a shopping hater, and there are constant issues.
We used to go to dinner with another couple. When the bill came, Hubby paid ours. Both of them would pull out their wallets and pay separately. Not saying it was wrong, but it sure was weird.
The vacation savings account has been raided by the cost of living account, thanks the economic wrecking ball, aka, the demoncrat party.
Relax, Buzz, and take a second to reconsider my point. In no way did I question the value of a credit report; rather, I just found it curious that the subject of children was not the first consideration. This is not a hard thing even for you to figure out, and to do so without being snide, if not unnecessarily condescending. Cheers!
I look at it as tough love. 😆
At 59, you're going to start seeing artificial heart valves, replaced joints, and similar ... Jus' sayin' ... pretty sure that's not what you meant.
Watch the documentary “Divorce Corp”. Its free on youtube.
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