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I Had a Carefree Sex Life. The Next Generation Will Have Fear. I had the privilege of coming of age when sex-positive women had more options. That’s why we need to fight the movement that equates “sex” with “shame.” (BARF)
Daily Beast ^ | Rebecca White

Posted on 07/26/2022 3:09:44 PM PDT by Morgana

I’ve never had an abortion. But I’ve had a lot of sex. And when I’ve been asked what my “number” is by friends or lovers, I laughed it off because I hadn’t ever considered counting a complete tally of partners.

But today I realize the privilege that comes with not really knowing how many different men I’ve slept with. That’s because I lived during a time when I was lucky enough to be able to separate my sex life from the rest of me. To put sex into a little box that I only accessed when the time was right. I was not weighed down by fears of pregnancy. I was bolstered by rights that I knew would protect me should things not go as planned.

Now, I recognize that the number of sex partners I’ve had defines an era and a mentality that we are all at risk of losing. I’ve been lucky enough to have slept with at least 17 men in my 41 years of life, and I think it might mean something positive that I’m not sure if there were more.

Why keep track? Because if it doesn’t matter to me, it shouldn’t matter at all. That’s the freedom and privilege of having had access to abortion and contraception for my entire adult life.

Talking about abortion access must come in many forms. This has now become a war, and battles for regaining our constitutional rights as women must become manifest on the streets, on the page, and in conversation.

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TOPICS: Chit/Chat; Health/Medicine; Society
KEYWORDS: abortion; donetodeath; myob; prolife; roevswade; whybarf
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To: Morgana
Slanks 'n" Sluts 'n" Stuff.

121 posted on 07/26/2022 5:46:45 PM PDT by Governor Dinwiddie (LORD, grant thy people grace to withstand the temptations of the world, the flesh, and the devil.)
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To: MeneMeneTekelUpharsin

You folks are too judgmental. 17 partners in 24 years amounts to less than one per year average. One at a time is not a slut. A slut will do it with anyone BUT YOU. I see too much anger here. What’s wrong with enjoying life? She’s not alone in those numbers. Granted it can be dangerous but too many of you think they’re guilty of engaging in behavior you’ll have to clean up.

Any woman who puts herself out there will find plenty of takers. The men? You have to buy the cow. Milk is not free and even then you won’t get it. Sad state of affairs. Don’t get so angry.


122 posted on 07/26/2022 5:48:33 PM PDT by DIRTYSECRET
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To: DIRTYSECRET

Nuts! Men or women who live like that are grossly immoral. My wife has met my needs for many years and I have no need to go look for a woman like that at all. The truth is the truth. Get lost.


123 posted on 07/26/2022 5:54:23 PM PDT by MeneMeneTekelUpharsin (Freedom is the freedom to discipline yourself so others don't have to do it for you.)
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To: the OlLine Rebel

“We generally only dry up around 50. 40 is no problem.”

Thanks. That’s good news for women starting families later in life.


124 posted on 07/26/2022 5:58:02 PM PDT by Brooklyn Attitude (I went to bed on November 3rd 2020 and woke up in 1984.)
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To: Morgana

These people just can’t/won’t tell the truth.


125 posted on 07/26/2022 6:06:14 PM PDT by libertylover (Our biggest problem, BY FAR, is that almost all of big media is agenda-driven, not-truth driven.)
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To: MeneMeneTekelUpharsin

Women can do it when they’re dead. If you don’t like going down on one you’ll have think twice about it when you get too old to cut the mustard.

Women like it just as much as men. If it takes 2 men just make sure you get enough. I’ve had 2 that were really into sex. I shoda been more patient as they didn’t turn me on in other areas. Gotta admit the sex was great.


126 posted on 07/26/2022 6:08:24 PM PDT by DIRTYSECRET
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To: the OlLine Rebel

Yes, I look at a thread like this hoping to see testimonies similar to my wife’s and mine. The contentment of being in a happy marriage is priceless! I pity that woman. But I can witness that I was living an unhappy dating life, because I wanted a love that would last, and I knew without experiencing it that a sexual encounter would be over in minutes. And I certainly didn’t want an std.

Every guy should have a mom like I had. In that talk to me, she stressed that I respect myself AND the young lady I’m with. To not let myself get talked into something I would regret later. She was VERY emphatic that I not take advantage of a girl, saying if she found out, she would slap me HARD!


127 posted on 07/26/2022 6:17:32 PM PDT by Zuriel (Acts 2:38,39....Do you believe it?)
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To: Ruy Dias de Bivar
I met a girl who was 22 years old and she admitted she had bedded over 40 men in 8 years.

Had a coworker years ago who hooked up with 2-3 a week, and this before internet sites. She was into party drugs and clubs of different types to expand her "market".

She herself was surprised that she wasn't dead.

128 posted on 07/26/2022 6:18:38 PM PDT by T.B. Yoits
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To: DesertRhino

I’m betting the 17 number is from 1 night of drug/alcohol fueled partying, that someone told her about the next day.


129 posted on 07/26/2022 6:18:52 PM PDT by Fireone (When they pry them from my cold, dead, unvaccinated hands.)
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To: Morgana
Why keep track? Because if it doesn’t matter to me, it shouldn’t matter at all. That’s the freedom and privilege of having had access to abortion and contraception for my entire adult life.

No one has even talked about anything to do with contraception. No one. Typical hysterical over-reaction. And as for the author.... well, she has gotten around.

130 posted on 07/26/2022 6:19:30 PM PDT by Rummyfan (In any war between the civilized man and the savage, support the civilized man. )
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To: Morgana
This has now become a war, and battles for regaining our constitutional rights as women...

Ms White, please show me where in The Constitution it states you have the right to an abortion.

131 posted on 07/26/2022 6:20:53 PM PDT by Rummyfan (In any war between the civilized man and the savage, support the civilized man. )
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To: NorthMountain

An Eye Hoe.


132 posted on 07/26/2022 6:24:03 PM PDT by Texas Fossil ((Texas is not where you were born, but a Free State of Heart, Mind & Attitude!))
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To: Zuriel
Then at 23 I was rewarded with a 21 yr old virgin, who made me wait until wedding night. We both awkwardly started learning about sex that night, and 44 yrs later (this Aug 12th) we still smile about our joint learning experience. The way God intended it to be.

God bless you and your wife.

133 posted on 07/26/2022 6:42:18 PM PDT by thecodont
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To: ClearCase_guy

That was a hilarious conversation.


134 posted on 07/26/2022 7:49:06 PM PDT by NorthMountain (... the right of the peopIe to keep and bear arms shall not be infringed)
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To: thecodont

Feminism. They wanted to be like men. Think Mary Kay Letorneau.

If they want to be bad they should stick to shoplifting.


135 posted on 07/26/2022 7:51:47 PM PDT by DIRTYSECRET
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To: DIRTYSECRET
She’s not alone in those numbers.

Indeed. The world is filled with proper garden tools.

136 posted on 07/26/2022 7:53:53 PM PDT by NorthMountain (... the right of the peopIe to keep and bear arms shall not be infringed)
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To: DesertRhino

And 45 that she remembers - double that and you are likely close. But she misses the point - women still have complete control over their pregnancy - just get on one of the dozens of options for contraceptives as directed. Really not that hard. That cuts down on pregnancies by 99-99.9%.


137 posted on 07/26/2022 8:00:15 PM PDT by rb22982
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To: jarwulf

Rape and pregnancy aka 18 years of slavery


138 posted on 07/26/2022 8:02:31 PM PDT by rb22982
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To: Deplorable American1776

Sadly, 17 is probably average for the typical attractive female 40 year old,
Maybe lower than average. But he real number is likely far,
Far higher


139 posted on 07/26/2022 8:05:16 PM PDT by rb22982
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To: Morgana

I, too, have had a lot of sex. I know my number. It’s one. Over 50 years with her.


140 posted on 07/26/2022 8:12:18 PM PDT by gitmo (If your theology doesn't become your biography, what good is it?)
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