Posted on 02/04/2022 5:43:31 AM PST by WeaslesRippedMyFlesh
If you want to fathom Russian women you should read Dostoyevsky and Tolstoy. However, you may not have time before your first date to check out at the library. That is why we're here to provide you with some advices on how to successfully court a Russian woman.
All women in Russia are young women!
Never-ever adress a woman with «woman» (zhentshina), «girl» (devotshka) or «baby». Even if your beloved is closer to her 50s than her 40s, she's a «young woman» to you (devoushka). Any other form of adress is not only going to confuse her, but rather even offend her.
Always pay for dinner and drinks on a date!
It's easy — your female companion is always expecting you to pay for dinner and drinks. Even if it was her invinting you. Even, if you've ordered only one cup of tea and she chose five main courses with a dessert. It is common in New York or Paris to split the bill, however in Moscow ladies see this as an act of tight-fistedness. A stylish «devoushka» may reach out to her handbag with the intention to contribute to the bill, but this is only for show. Don't be fooled!
Carry her shopping bags!
Feminism is nice and decent, but it's usually left back at home, whenever «devouski» go to the supermarket. If there's two bags, a small and a large one, lying in front of you at the cash desk, then you totally should take both. If then your female companion is carrying only her handbag, then you've done everything right.
Be vigilant!
Russian women value a courteous attitude much more than their western colleagues and their expectations of you are even higher. Open the car's door, help her with her coat, leave her go first through doors, to name but a few tricks how to earn her sympathy. There is, however, one special rule you should ultimately keep in mind — never let a lady to go ahead, when it's an elevator, for if the elevator isn't there at all you would save her from falling into the hoistway.
Let flowers speak for youself!
Flowers are always well receipted, but there's another special rule. A bouquet has to consist only of an uneven number of flowers. Even numers are for funerals. Nevertheless, this may be disregarded, when there's a bunch of more than 10 flowers. It's easy — just buy an uneven amount of flowers, or take so many, that she simply won't be able to count them in an instant.
Wait for her!
There is an unwritten law, that states, that women have the right to be late. She's right on time, if she arrives 10 or 15 minutes later, than it has been appointed. There may be reasons for being late — traffic jams, official meetings, even indecisiveness on whether her shoes really fit her dress. It may even be amusing — the lady could have been there right on time, but she preferred to wait another 20 minutes somewhere behind the corner in order not to make you think she's curry favoring you. Young ladies have to know their own worth and never be right on time — this is something even her mother has been teaching her. Defer of asking for the reason of her being late — this is useless and even improper. Just keep smiling and tell her you're happy to see her, even if it's already dark and if you're feeling cold for a long time already.
Don't ask!
«It's okay» (vsyo normalno) — this is something no guide can help you with. For hundreds of years Russian men have attempted to fathom a womans' thoughts, whenever she's mentioning something like this, with no success at all. Does this imply there's no need to worry? Or should you already be on your way bying chocolates and flowers? If the latter applies — what was it, that caused her displeasure? Understanding can be only reached on the way of countless attempts and even more mistakes. There's no alternative. And even such an approach isn't reliable. There's even a popular joke among Russian men concerning this matter: «Are you mad?». «No». «Very mad?». «Yes».
Actually, this guide may be continued even further, but this would deprive you of the thrills of trying to establish common language with a Russian woman. And the thrill is absolutely going to be there. Still, if fear is something you don't know and if you've decided to marry her, you should definitely read Tolstoy and Dostoyevsky. This is gonna prove useful.
One thing I have learned during my travels and where I lived (and it applies to Russian women as well as Native Alaskans): If you want to know what your (Russian/Alaskan) girlfriend will look like in 10 years...go visit her mom.
24 years and two kids later, still marital bliss.
Regards,
Many years ago hen I was stationed in Germany, I had a troop who had joined the NATO shooting team. They traveled to Prague for a meet, and boys being boys...wound up in a brothel (all Russian controlled with Russian ladies in attendance). He fell in love with one of them and spent a lot of time (unbeknownst to me) making trips to see her. Her bosses did not like the fact she was spending a lot of time with him, so decided to teach her a lesson with a beating and broken arm. He was furious, and decided he was going to go with some buddies and “rescue” her. I put a stop to that right quick (probably saving his and her life in the process). He was a total idiot for one - supporting human trafficking by even going there, and two - thinking he was going to take on the Russian mob.
Bring lots of money with you. Delete credit limits on your cards.
Don’t tell her your real name.
Don’t take her to your house.
Don’t use your real car (has license plate).
Do use a burner phone.
Don’t carry your charge card when with her.
Do always pay with cash.
Don’t introduce her to your friends.
Don’t do Facebook with her.
Do use throw-away email address.
Do, when done with her, go to the restaurant bathroom...and sneak out the back door.
Meh - Sounds like too big a PITA.
I’ll stick with rural American chicks - at least they speak some English.....
I know many men who married Russian women through church. I’ve seen two primary relationship types:
1. The Russian woman just wanted to come to America, and doesn’t respect her husband. She goes to church and acts like a “good Christian” not understanding that serving and loving her husband is part of being a “good Christian” (and likewise a man serving and loving his wife). In these cases the wives are usually much younger than their husbands and not equivalently attractive.
2. The Russian woman is attracted to and loves her husband. She treats him respectfully and vice versa. They may have “marriage issues” but not apparently more than any other couple. In these cases, the women and men are approximately the same age and at equivalent attractiveness levels. The children are typically well-behaved.
If you want to be with a Russian woman, choose one your own age. Church ladies will likely be less dramatic (maybe)...
Was it five filipina wives all at once or serially??
The fundamentally biggest issue with Russian women and American men is the misunderstanding of the Americans that Russia is not poor.
Russia is not Ukraine. Ukraine is poor. Russia is very rich. Rural Russian women, like rural American women, may be poor, and Hollywood may have led them to think a single waitress in NYC can afford an apartment. But the truth becomes clear very quickly.
The US has a debt to GDP ratio well past 100%. Russia is 20%. Far, far superior. If they want to borrow money, people line up to lend it because they have actual collateral in the form of oil and gas. The US has to borrow from its own central bank, the Fed, in the form of QE.
So that’s the fundamental issue with US men and Russian women. When they get here, they are faced with the shock of discovery that they are the rich one in the relationship.
Short version: Grovel
The US has a debt to GDP ratio well past 100%. Russia is 20%.
How did Russia?
We woke up one morning, read the internet and learned the soviet union was kaput. It happened that fast.............
A smart rule for all dating situations (which is why most young males disregard it).
That’s actually very good advice no matter what the nationality or whether it’s a man or woman.
For women, look at their mother.
For men, look at their father.
That said, it is best kept in mind that whatever you are looking at in 25 years, they are having their own “Oh crap!” moment.
Nobody stays young forever. Time ravages us all and don’t demand from others what you excuse in yourself.
Men who demand perpetual youth and beauty should take a good long look in the mirror and see what it is they have to offer.
They aren’t the only ones who want to like what they see when they wake up in the morning.
Boy did you get that right. People have no idea...
ANY woman who does not love God will not love you.
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