Posted on 01/28/2022 9:17:27 AM PST by CondoleezzaProtege
Men are increasingly anxious, depressed, and struggling with suicide 1 . They are dropping out of school and opting out of the workforce, instead choosing to live in a virtual world playing video games and watching porn. A masculinity crisis is on our hands.
Growing up as a boy is hard. You experience bullying at school and rejection by girls, leading to hurt and heartbreak. 1 in 3 boys grow up without a father, and for those of us lucky enough to have one, we only spend 30 minutes a week in conversation with them, compared to 44 hours we will spend in front of a screen 2 . Without the tools and guidance to navigate our painful emotional states, we resort to escape.
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What makes young men strive to be high earners, is from thinking this will get them an attractive young woman to happily spend his life with. If not for a desire for female companionship and becoming head of a family, a guy can satisfy his basic needs without that much effort.
They see too many of the older men they know get divorced by their wives, and financially raped, alienated by their kids who they only get to see on weekends, etc.
What this is, is guys looking around and deciding the dating/marriage game is something where there only way to win, is not to play.
TigerClaws, If I get together with a friend and play chess is that acceptable or is it a time waster? How about if I play chess on-line? Is it now evil? Would playing World of Tanks be evil? How about if I play chess against a computer? Should I be worried it will lead to porn?
Please tell us what you like to do in your leisure time. Then we can mock you and tell you how bad a person you are. Lighten up Francis. Think. Don’t jump on a bandwagon do to a biased blog’s rantings.
Yes this, feminism has turned men off of relationships and having a family.
The internet and the advent of contraception have added unprecedented factors to the consumption and practice of sex.
Porn is where they can find women who aren’t shrews.
If you have to resort to porn to find non-shrew women, them maybe you should consider looking at women who are not perfect 10s.
I think what you are describing is more of an “ideal man” than a “real man”. Real men are human, and humans all have shortcomings. Men also are only usually inspired to achieve their best self when they have a good and understanding woman supporting them, so expecting a fully mature and self sacrificing man “off the shelf” isn’t necessarily realistic, unless some other woman has already done the work of helping motivate the man to achieve that already.
I’ll give up Total Annihilation when you pry the mouse out of my cold, dead fingers...
An odd side to this phenomenon is the younger women marrying older men. Not just dating them but marrying them.
A young lady I know married a guy her own age back in 2014. They were a postcard perfect couple.
But he was not up to the responsibilities of marriage so the marriage ended in divorce.
A year later the divorce is final and she marries a manager from her workplace who is about twenty years her senior (late forties). He’s widowed, has two kids of his own, owns a house, and has a great job.
They now have two more kids.
I feel bad for the younger guys because the schools and society are pumping out young women who are shrews regardless of how they look. And too many of the pretty girls turn woke and then go to great efforts to make themselves into ugly harridans by piercing everything, getting noxious tattoos everywhere, shaving their heads or doing the Kool-Aid hair colors, and then hating men as the lesbian feminists told them they should.
Well, that touches on how people are getting married at higher ages than in the past, and how many more people nowadays never get married at all. And how even when they do marry, women end up having fewer children in their lifetime than in past decades. There are various cultural and social reasons for that.
I'd add financial reasons as well. It costs over $200,000 to raise a child to adulthood, not including college tuition. Giving birth alone lands you a five-figure medical bill. How many Millennials have that kind of money just lying around? The elites will always have enough money to raise their kids and the poor have welfare. Everyone else is screwed.
How much does it cost to raise a child?
Not at all. My adult kids have seamlessly fit their gaming into well rounded lives. And have friends all over the world.
Ah but, the “ideal” is what everyone should strive for. I certainly strive to be the ideal woman, wife and mother. You may not achieve every article all the time, but to ignore most of those criteria would certainly eliminate you from the “real man” criteria in my book.
I do not expect perfection, but I know what I consider perfection. Faith is the substance of things hoped for and the evidence of things not seen. I can tell the difference between lip service and action, stumbles and forfeit. That is all I’m saying. If we don’t have a yard stick, how then can we measure? I would apply it to anything and everything in my life. I certainly fall short, but I know what I am striving for. Is that not important?
I feel bad for the younger guys because the schools and society are pumping out young women who are shrews regardless of how they look. And too many of the pretty girls turn woke and then go to great efforts to make themselves into ugly harridans by piercing everything, getting noxious tattoos everywhere, shaving their heads or doing the Kool-Aid hair colors, and then hating men as the lesbian feminists told them they should.
FRiend, where do you live? I live in Commiefornia and even here, that makes up maybe 5% of young women.
I have no real skin in this game because I married an Asian and have no kids, but it does interest me how conservatism has gone from being the ideology of personal responsibility to it being everyone else's fault when a young man decides enriching an exploitative industry is acceptable to satisfy his short term desires. That's kind of why I married a foreigner in the first place: if I am going to work outside the home and do the majority of the housework I don't want to hear about what a big, bad feminist oppressor I am. I gave up trying to figure out how to make the American man happy years ago.
Blaming everyone else for your mistakes is the culture now. I would like to think I am immune, but taking responsibility for your own mistakes is emotionally painful.
She is on the sixth floor of the husband store.
Not to mention the ‘modern’ woman who doesn’t cook, clean, want kids, and is looking at a man as a meal-ticket to easy street.
I’ve seen it, as a widower, where women are looking to me as “Mr. Moneybags”, even though I support my entire family - and then some - on 1 salary, mine.
There are few traditionally valued women left in the US.
Sure, I agree we need to have an ideal to strive for, and not enough men nowadays strive for the right ideals. But when you say men who don’t achieve this or that aren’t “real men”, well it smacks of the kind of castrating language that feminists like to weaponize against men, and men are just plain tired of hearing that stuff. Men need encouragement from women to reach these goals, not antagonization.
Our society is very divided on basic moral fundamentals now. So there are moral men and moral women, and amoral men and amoral women. Of course there are plenty of people in the middle that might go one way or the other too. But the amoral men can get whatever they desire from the amoral women with very little effort. The men who would rather be moral aren’t given any easy rewards, they have to put in more effort to begin with, and the moral women they might hope to attract instead can sometimes set what seem to be impossibly high standards. So a lot of those men just give up and say “well I’ll just stop playing the game entirely so at least I don’t lose”. I’m not sure what the answer to that problem is, but nobody is winning in that scenario.
Don’t forget young women have been told their whole life that not only can they have it all, they deserve it all. And if they don’t get it all, there is hell to pay.
I believe you misread what I wrote. I thought I’d cleared that up in my response. Nobody is perfect, no not one. But I still believe that those who strive for at least those things I listed are “real men”. I have noticed a tendency in the commentary to blame women for men’s shortfalls (if they exist), how “Adam” of those who do. We are to love as God loves us regardless of the actions or inactions of others. We are each responsible for our own choices.
“FRiend, where do you live?”
Sacramento.
And to clarify I am not endorsing the pornography industry that is the backbone of the economies of Chatsworth, Newhall, and Santa Clarita. Not at all.
I’m just noting that the reasons why young men seek their solace online (in video games or porn) go deeper than what the author of the article said.
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