I think what you are describing is more of an “ideal man” than a “real man”. Real men are human, and humans all have shortcomings. Men also are only usually inspired to achieve their best self when they have a good and understanding woman supporting them, so expecting a fully mature and self sacrificing man “off the shelf” isn’t necessarily realistic, unless some other woman has already done the work of helping motivate the man to achieve that already.
Ah but, the “ideal” is what everyone should strive for. I certainly strive to be the ideal woman, wife and mother. You may not achieve every article all the time, but to ignore most of those criteria would certainly eliminate you from the “real man” criteria in my book.
I do not expect perfection, but I know what I consider perfection. Faith is the substance of things hoped for and the evidence of things not seen. I can tell the difference between lip service and action, stumbles and forfeit. That is all I’m saying. If we don’t have a yard stick, how then can we measure? I would apply it to anything and everything in my life. I certainly fall short, but I know what I am striving for. Is that not important?
She is on the sixth floor of the husband store.