Posted on 01/05/2022 4:51:52 PM PST by Trillian
When his girlfriend told him she was pregnant, Jean-Paul Noel-Cephise was elated. Although he was only young and the pregnancy was unplanned, he had always wanted to be a dad and felt confident they would make great parents.
After all, he had a good job, was financially stable with his own home and they were madly in love.
‘I’d had a happy childhood and couldn’t wait to recreate it with my own child,’ says Jean-Paul. ‘I know some young men would’ve been horrified at the prospect of having a baby but I really wasn’t — quite the opposite.’ Sadly, though, his partner wasn’t on the same page.
‘At first I thought she was worried I didn’t want a baby,’ says Jean-Paul, now a college lecturer. ‘So I went into overdrive, reassuring her how much I loved her.’
But after weeks of trying to persuade her, Jean-Paul was devastated when she had an abortion. Years later, he still wrestles with his feelings about it.
‘Ultimately, I had to respect that her decision was final,’ he says. ‘Even though it happened a long time ago, I’ve lived with the guilt and grief ever since.’
Despite the fact that as many as one in three women will terminate a pregnancy, it’s still very much taboo, with few daring to speak out — as illustrated in a recent Femail article where a mother and daughter revealed their differing attitudes to their own abortions.
And it’s even less likely men will dare to open up about their experience of abortion, which is largely considered a women’s issue. It’s often assumed men are either absent or relieved for the pregnancy to be over.
However, Jean-Paul, now 51, is determined to raise awareness of the simple truth that men can also struggle with the experience, even long
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the left doesn’t give a sh!t about men’s rights because ‘toxic masculinity’, or something.
Also patriarchy, and the maleocentric maleocracy.
I recognize the imbalance, and that it makes no sense to hold the father of the baby financially liable for 18 to 21 years by virtue of having been the genetic father since the baby’s conception while simultaneously disenfranchising him from protecting his daughter or son between conception and birth.
However, getting out of the first part in isolation without reversing the second part is a cruel and ugly approach because if that happened the man’s baby would still be murdered.
It is about priorities.
I’m sorry you’re in such pain over this. I’ve had 4 miscarriages and I still mourn them, but I can’t even imagine your pain. I hope you ended up having children later in your life though.
A patriarchy of sorts built this country.
Currently, this country is a matriarchy, as evidenced by abortion being legal as A Woman’s Right To Choose.
cause 75% don’t know...
Right at the top of the list why young single men should refrain from sex is the fact that they have no parental rights. Their partners are free to murder their children.
You risk pregnancy every time you have sex.
Unless you are totally sterile or way past menopause.
April of 1971. We got married one year later (go figure), but because of damage from the abortion my wife could never get pregnant, so I have no children. She died at 45 from aggressive breast cancer that I’m positively convinced stemmed from the abortion.
Men have right to choose.
Keep it tucked in guys.
I absolutely agree
Because they have no legal contract
Abortions hurt guys too...
Ditto this.
How?
No sex
One can forgive but not forget.
“...aggressive breast cancer that I’m positively convinced stemmed from the abortion...”
They’ve medically tied abortion to cancer, later in life. You’re so right. Tears & prayers for your loss...
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