There are amicable divorces. And I’d rather see people divorce amicably than put themselves and their kids through lifelong hell.
The problem is that people can’t let go of their lower natures to navigate divorce properly, any better than they do navigating marriage.
My issue with SAM is that in my years here, I’ve never seen him miss a single chance to generally condemn marriage as an institution - and women! - whenever he can. That seems like a very unhealthy obsession, and he needs to get over his individual experience, realize that there is more in life than his personal resentments, and GET a life.
As to the point of the thread - I suspect that there are MANY people on this board who started out’living in sin’, and went on to have very long, fulfilling marriages.
I wouldn’t suggest that a young couple do it, but it has worked out fine for many.
(Almost 30 happy years with the same good man, here - and yes, we Did.)
The very few amicable divorces dont counter the massive general patrern of antagonistic divorces, which are the norm. The structure of family court encourages women to be antagonistic to gain the maximum amount of money from the man.
I see you ignored most of what I said, especially my simple statement about selling me on all the bene fits marriage brings a man today.
Maybe its you who are really projecting here, because you certainly have no idea about my life.
I will continue to post my opinions based on reason and facts, and if you dont like them, I truly do not care at all. Truths are often not pleasant. Do you think I am happy about the current situation for men and marriage? I have never ever said that. Its exremely depressing. BUT ITS THE TRUTH. Why you dont like hearing it or acknowledging it could be a whole number of reasons.
The Bezos divorce comes to mind. $150 billion will get ya a lot of amicability.
This November it’ll be 26 years for this couple that “lived in sin” for two years before marriage (so, really 28 years..and still going strong).