By the 30-year-old Alaskan’s own admission...”
Well...just “doing the numbers”....this gal is starting in, shall we say, a pretty disadvantaged position....
“People are seen as commodities, as opposed to individuals.”
2a: something useful or valued
b: convenience, advantage
3 : a good or service whose wide availability typically leads to smaller profit margins and diminishes the importance of factors (such as brand name) other than price
4 : one that is subject to ready exchange or exploitation within a market
5 obsolete : quantity, lot
I have no idea how today’s dating “market” is ... my wife won’t allow me to date. ;-)
Rollo Tomassi’s book “the Rational Male” would explain a whole lot to these authors of this Atlantic article.
Two concepts these authors do not seem to understand are: 1) sexual market value, and 2) hypergamy. While these concepts don’t reveal all about modern dating, they go a lot further than this shallow article did.
They tossed true love out the window in the late 60’s. Its only a sex game now. If you can find a Mrs Cleaver these days count yourself as being very lucky! My dad once told me, “true love comes once in a life time, if you are lucky you will marry her and be happy, if not she will be on your mind forever.” I’m on #3, and damn if he wasn’t right. But #3 has been with me for 40+ yrs. and she’s Mrs. Cleaver. She’s a keeper!
I agree. Treating other people as commodities to be manipulated to meet one’s consumption goals is unworthy of human beings.
Why is she having a problem? The men to women ratio in Alaska is heavily tilted toward women. If she doesn’t look like a yeti she should be flooded with dates.
‘If this doesn’t go well, there are 20 other guys who look like you in my inbox
Well that is her problem, she keeps going for the same type of guy and expect that this one is going to be different.
She crawls over to his place for “netflix and chill”, he gets what he wanted and moves on to the next tinder twat.
Plus she doesn’t realize she is 30, she hit her wall, guys are lucky, they can date into their 50’s if they keep their looks up and have good jobs/careers going for them.
Its different for women, but they have been programmed to believe they are the same as guys by radical feminists and don’t realize their looks fade, their eggs shrivel up and any pregnancy beyond 30 is considered “high risk”. Men looking for wives are looking for younger, and the tinder bangers are getting any lady they want for the night because of their looks.
This woman is just pissed that she missed the husband boat by a few years and realizes she is going to have to get a cat soon if she doesn’t have one or two already.
Has she tried looking around at a church? Or are the types of values she’s likely to find in a church deplorable to her?
Ed
People don’t want romance. They want sex. They want money. They want someone to take responsibility for their mistakes.
If you actually romanced a 40 year old divorcee, they wouldn’t know what to do about it.
Tinder is nothing but a whore house without the madam
Liz you are not going to find a long term relation via Tinder
I am in my 70s and I am retired. I have discovered YouTube and the magic of being able to explore many strange (and sometimes wonderful things)
I recently discovered some channels that deal with woman like Liz and her problems. Girls have a window of opportunity to find and marry a good man. That window is between 18 and 28.
The choose is between marriage and a family or a career. To many young girls have chosen career (and multiple partners).
By the time they get to 30 they realize they want a good husband and a family but none are available. You hear “all the good men are taken”.
The second thing they learn is if there is a man in their age group, good job, fairly good looking, a good prospect for marriage, he is not interested in her. He is interested in the young 22 year old version of her. Even men much older then her will be looking for someone in their low 20s and will find plenty of young things to date.
So Liz, you bought the feminist lie that you could have it all and is just one more woman being tossed aside with little hope of happiness.
As a complete failure on the dating scene, I can give wisdom for my mistakes as well as those who were successful. Online dating works if you don’t worry about the twenty and focus on the one in front of you. Those that I know had successful relationships from the electronic scene met very few people.
The second big one is to rely on people you know: coworkers, friends, family, church. A lovely couple a church point blank asked me if I was interested in meeting someone. I’m not, but the offer is open for them to look around their social circle.
I think part of the problem is that older people asking this question is increasingly rare and others meddle less than before in getting couples together.
I have two friends who, once you go below the surface, have arranged marriages. The marriages a recent. Both couples are flourishing thanks to a couple of enterprising moms in one case and a dad and uncle in the other.
A: I'm holding my own.
By the 30-year-old Alaskan’s own admission, however, it hasn’t been going great.
I see the problem. She’s “old”. She took to long to get serious about life. The pool of likely mates, at 30 is faaaarrrr from what it is at 20. It will only get worse.
Go Asian young man, Asian.