By the 30-year-old Alaskan’s own admission...”
Well...just “doing the numbers”....this gal is starting in, shall we say, a pretty disadvantaged position....
In my experience, dating 30+ year-old women has advantages and disadvantages; if you're aware of them and are OK with them, good for you. If you're not aware of them, well, you're in for a surprise.
30+ year-olds know their clock is ticking. They start to realize that if they ever want start a family, they'd better start NOW.
But 30+ year-old women have been around the block a few times; they have a long list of experiences and traits against which you will be compared. They'll be scrutinizing you as marriage material from the get-go. You'll be analyzed like a lab experiment, and you'll be dropped at the slightest perceived flaw. They know what they like and what they don't like. They'll be quite experienced sexually, which may be good and bad. Dating a 30+ year-old woman is about the goal of marriage and family, so if you don't want that, let her know early and be done with it. Move on.
p.s. Dating women who are 45+ years-old is a very different experience, especially if they've been previously married or have kids of their own. They're looking to upgrade their financial situation, or looking for companionship.
It gets worse for women as the population ages. That's just fact.
The ratio of available men vs. available women skews heavily in favor of men as we age. Fewer men available due to a number of factors, primarily because (a) we tend to die sooner than women and (b) men who opt out of dating after divorce.
I divorced four years ago this coming July and getting dates hasn't been an issue. Getting quality dates was the issue for me. Of all my divorced friends, I'm the luckiest as I've been seeing the same woman now for 18 months and she's fantastic. Yes, she has her "batshit crazy" moments but they're pretty few and far between. We're in sync together on about 80% of things and the other 20% we're both very flexible on. I don't think either one of us ever wants to get married again and honestly, I like having my own place where I can retreat, recoup and recover when I need to. As best I know, she feels the same way (yes, we've talked about it.)
My boys (22, 24) both like her very much and her daughter has expressed her feelings of approval towards me to me. I think we've both done good jobs with our kids. All three are fine young people, working hard to make their way in this world and they're all very responsible.
What more could a 57 year old guy like me ask for at this stage in my life? I didn't want the divorce even though I was miserable in my marriage to a very cold woman. In hindsight, I'm not "glad" that it happened, I'm glad however that I found this wonderful woman.
The old way was to buy the chick dinner and many drinks and later she felt would put out.... : )
Is that not the proper way it is down now? : )
I think she is not disadvantaged. I went to the internet when I was in my late 50s and early 60’s. I met wonderful and fantastic men. No man less than 50 was ever even considered even after a wonderful dinner and time spent getting to know each other such as that short period allowed.
It may be that mature men with a vast worldly experience are exciting to older women I certainly found that to be the case.