I didn’t change my name when I married, but not as an ‘ideological’ choice; there very practical reasons for it at the time.
I don’t understand why that or a joint bank account makes a woman ‘subordinate’. It seems to me that it simply makes of two people a functioning union.
(My husband just said, ‘You don’t like one of us, anyway’.)
:-)
Exactly right — union and team and partners through life.
I didn’t legally change my name, either, also for practical reasons. But I used my married name socially.
However, having a different legal name than my children always caused some confusion.
As for bank accounts, I now see the wisdom in keeping money separate. One woman told me her husband left without warning, but not before emptying all the accounts.
Wish I’d kept money separate. Then I would’ve had some money in savings when the divorce happened.