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Farewell my friend.
10/25/2019 | rlmorel

Posted on 10/26/2019 2:03:56 PM PDT by rlmorel

I had to put my cat to sleep today, he was suffering. What a good boy, I shall miss him. I know he was only a cat, but I sure did love his company. He was an unusual and interesting cat. He worshiped my wife and followed her around as if she were some kind of feline deity, but would deign to spend some time with me as well.

Damn. I sure will miss him.


TOPICS: Chit/Chat; Pets/Animals
KEYWORDS: catbuddy; kittyping; prayers
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To: rlmorel

It hurts more to lose a pet than it does some humans. They are thew one thing in our lives that will love us unconditionally for the entirety of their life. Even if you treat them bad.


181 posted on 10/27/2019 3:45:18 PM PDT by OneVike (Just another Christian waiting to go home)
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To: spacejunkie2001; guitar Josh; Chode; crosdaddy; SkyDancer; mabarker1; sauropod; mountainlion; ...

I just wanted to tell every single one of you something: I am astonished, gratified, comforted, and humbled that all of you would take a moment out of your lives to come onto a thread like this to help a fellow Freeper deal with the loss of a pet. It honestly brings tears to my eyes.

My wife and I left the vet yesterday, and drove up to a overlook that looked out from Eastern to Western New England. It was a beautiful, sunny, warm day with a blue sky and feathery cirrus clouds. The New England foliage was at its peak. We took some folding chairs out of our car and sat there for an hour or so. We both thought that if there had to be a day for a person or an animal we loved to leave this world, it couldn't have been a more beautiful day. We held hands and thought of our friend who was gone.

There is something about a pet. They give us unconditional love in a way that humans sometimes have difficulty doing. It is a free love they give you, and as a reward, you get to return that love. You come home, and when you open the door, your pet is often there waiting for you. (If it is a dog, that is a near certainty!) A cat is often there too, but...sometimes you get in the door before you see them trot briskly around a corner to you, tail and ears up I the air, their pleasure at greeting you is unmistakeable.

Sometimes you have to call out their name as you enter the house, and they respond by greeting you with a wonderful look, sometimes a vocalization, and they are happy to see you. If you have had a difficult day, that little encounter is often enough to take the edge off.

If you are lucky enough to have time to relax, your pet will often join you. My guy would circle around me looking at me, until I pat my lap and he would jump up and lay crosswise in my lap, his muzzle pointed straight up, eyes closed with pleasure, and all I would have to do is scratch his ears or chin to make him purr like mad.

If I got up at night, he was often sitting in the doorway watching me. He was an indoor cat, but any time the outside temperature was above 50 degrees, I would make sure all the bedroom windows were open, and while I slept, he would be sitting in one window or another looking at all the night life that exists outside the sight of us humans. I would wake, open my eyes, and see his silhouette in the window as he gazed out.

We love our animals, their habits and idiosyncrasies are as rich and varied as our own, and it is those little things that linger long after they have gone. I had one cat who fetched for me, plastic straws were his favorite. I had another who actually drooled when you gave his head a good rub. Odd things that made them stand out.

One of the most endearing oddities for me was stabbingly painful this morning in a way I completely did not expect, and in retrospect, it made me chuckle a little bit after the fact.

We cat owners know that one of the things cats enjoy is getting at head level with you. They like it when they can be eye to eye with you. I have chronic back problems, and a while ago purchased an inversion table which can really help out. So, I have this inversion table in my garage, I strap into it and flip upside down to stretch my back.

Comically (for me at least) my furry guy figured out that when I was inverted, I was a captive audience. It became a custom-when I went out to invert in the table, as soon as I was upside down the flap on the cat door to our garage would open, and he would briskly walk over to where I was helplessly suspended. Purring loudly, he would circle around and around my upside down head like some Shark of Love circling a bloody heart! From my inverted perspective, it was impossible to ignore him, so I took that ten minutes to give him rubs and scratches.

He occasionally came out the garage when I was out there doing things, but he seemed to know when I was getting on the table and would always come out...:)

This morning, when I inverted, there was something just terribly painful about not seeing that cat door flap open.

From reading all of your responses, I know for a fact all of you know exactly what I was feeling. Exactly. And I simply cannot tell all of you how comforting that was to me.

So we had to have him put to sleep. It was an awful decision.

I know there are people who think you shouldn't do that, and should let it play itself out, but my wife and I couldn't do it.

We had another cat (our first cat after we were married) who had kidney failure, and we were (on our own) injecting saline under the skin in his back to keep him going, but seeing him day by day get thinner, and thinner, his fur losing its beautiful gloss and his eyes sinking into his head as he became more and more listless. We forced pills down his throat until he couldn't fight back anymore. We realized one day with a startling awareness we were keeping him alive out of selfishness because we couldn't let go of him, we loved him so much we couldn't let him go. We both work in medicine, and while neither of us would ever euthanize a human, we both feel the same about stopping certain measures on a fellow human we love, because we don't want to make them go through it just so we can spend a few more days with them.

In the case of our cat, we were both distraught, realizing that in front of our eyes, he had turned skeletal. He was spending all day on our bed on his blanket, not moving, simply staring at the wall. When my wife called to him, he struggled to his feet and gamely tried to walk to her, but he couldn't disengage his claws that had gotten caught in the blanket, and when he finally did with difficulty he could barely walk. My wife covered her face with her hands, and we both knew.

I made an appointment and took him to the vet for an examination and blood test on Friday. I fully thought we were going to have to put him to sleep that day, but we wanted to see what the vet had to say and if we did some blood tests, what that might show. We said no extreme measures, no ultrasounds or CAT scans or exploratory surgery, but if the blood tests showed hyperthyroidism we would treat that. If his kidneys were gone, the blood test would show that as well, and we were not going to put him through dialysis.

As it turned out, the tests showed normal kidney function and thyroid function, and his abdomen was showing signs of fluid (ascites) collection and the test showed indications of pancreatitis. She said we could treat the pancreatitis aggressively, but when cats get to that stage, recovery is doubtful, and we would have had to force pills into him, have stays in an animal hospital, but it seemed most likely he had a tumor and was not going to recover.

We couldn't do that. We didn't want our last time with him to be spent forcing pills into him or taking him back and forth to an animal hospital. He was suffering.

So we had him for one more day.

There was a book some years ago by Mitch Ablom "For One More Day". I thought of all the people in my life who died before I could spend that last "one more day" with them while they were still able to communicate. The book left an impression on me, and when we took our cat back home, I spend that night with him. I stroked him, and brushed him, and even though he was still able to purr, his purr had an unnatural quality to it that indicated pain more than pleasure. Those of you who are familiar with cats know this type of purr, and even a severely injured cat, if conscious, can purr like this.

It broke my heart, but I had that one more day, and I took advantage of it. I put his fur-covered shelf up near the window as the beautiful sun came in, where he loved to lay on sunny days, and my wife and I brushed him and talked to him in the way that non-animal lovers find completely useless and silly. He was able to see the birds in our back yard as the sun warmed him. When the time came, I put him on the ground near the cat carrier, and...he slowly, and without protest, walked into it on his own and lay on his familiar blanket as we closed the door.

He didn't meow in protest as we drove him to the vet.

When the time came, before they sedated him, I got face to face with him as he lay on his blanket that was his own, looked into his eyes, spoke lovingly to him, and brushed him with his brush he loved so much as the drug took effect and he peacefully left.

God. This is hard to write. I have tears streaming down my face.

But I do believe in God. And I do believe animals have souls, and God loves their innocent animal souls. So I know he is in a good place now.

God bless our pets because they are sometimes the closest thing we can get on this earth to unconditional love apart from our immediate families, and even then.

If one of my wife's carefully placed plant protectors couldn't prevent him from chewing on her plants, I doubt a Pearly Gate is going to keep him out if it isn't open for him just to stroll on in as if he owns the place!

Thank you to all of you for your kind thoughts, from the bottom of my aching heart...thank you. God bless all of you.

182 posted on 10/27/2019 8:07:23 PM PDT by rlmorel (Trump to China: This Capitalist Will Not Sell You the Rope with Which You Will Hang Us.)
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To: rlmorel

That was beautiful......our furry friends complete us, comfort us and love us unconditionally. We have been married 53 years and have never been without a pet or pets.Our heaven on Earth is our 2 Pugs, 1 Chug, and 1 Beagle.....with us every moment of every day and we thank God for them. Again, I’m so sorry about your loss and pray for comfort. It’s the missing them that’s so hard....;(


183 posted on 10/27/2019 8:32:37 PM PDT by Dawgreg
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To: rlmorel

Very touching post. Thank you for it.


184 posted on 10/27/2019 8:34:48 PM PDT by fieldmarshaldj (Who will think of the gerbils ? Just say no to Buttgiggity !)
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To: rlmorel

You did the right thing for your beloved animal. When my cat was fading fast from FIV and lost 2/3rds of his weight, I felt I had to wait until after Christmas, so that Christmas wouldn’t be a sad reminder. Of course, that means that every Boxing Day I remember Jean-Marie, but it’s not as bad, and enough time has passed, that I know he wouldn’t have lasted that much longer anyway.


185 posted on 10/27/2019 8:36:22 PM PDT by Dr. Sivana (Sutor, ne ultra crepidam--Appelles of Kos)
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To: rlmorel

You have an awful lot of love to give to a pet AND right now as I write this there is a kitty at your local shelter that would give ANYTHING to have yourself and your wife such wonderful kitty parents come in to that shelter and take him / her out of their cage and bring them to your wonderful loving home!!! You can never replace what you had HOWEVER the love you had for that kitty should definitely be given to a kitty just begging to have you two as parents!!! It won’t be the same BUT how grateful that homeless kitty would be to have the two of you!!!


186 posted on 10/27/2019 8:39:21 PM PDT by Trump Girl Kit Cat (Yosemite Sam raising hell)
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To: rlmorel
2 Samuel 12:3 "But the poor man had nothing, save one little ewe lamb, which he had bought and nourished up: and it grew up together with him, and with his children; it did eat of his own meat, and drank of his own cup, and lay in his bosom, and was unto him as a daughter."God knows precisely what you're going through FRiend and one fine day He will make EVERYTHING right!
187 posted on 10/27/2019 8:40:27 PM PDT by mitch5501 ("make your calling and election sure:for if ye do these things ye shall never fall")
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To: Trump Girl Kit Cat

Amen well said!


188 posted on 10/27/2019 8:41:49 PM PDT by mitch5501 ("make your calling and election sure:for if ye do these things ye shall never fall")
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To: rlmorel

Beautiful. Thanks for sharing.


189 posted on 10/27/2019 8:46:14 PM PDT by Southside_Chicago_Republican (The more I learn about people, the more I like my dog.)
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To: rlmorel

Thank you for sharing. You put into words so well the bittersweet and deep love you have for your sweet cat.

Sammy, our 20 year old cat who we had to euthanize in July, had chronic renal failure. We gave him daily subcutaneous saline IV treatments for almost a year. He did well with those treatments until about the last 10 days.

He had so much personality when he was a younger cat! He was a wiry little guy, never weighed more than 10 pounds. But he was was the boss of the other three bigger cats, he was the alpha.

As he aged, he became more and more of an affectionate lap cat. When I had cancer surgery (hysterectomy) last year, I had to take off work for 3 months, spent almost all waking hours laid back in a recliner chair. Sammy slept on my lap all day, every day, he was my little nurse companion and heating pad.

It still hurts so much to think about Sammy and our other two cats who just died. But sometimes I want to feel the hurt, I guess it’s my way of holding on to them.

Peace be with you.


190 posted on 10/27/2019 8:49:39 PM PDT by RooRoobird20 ( "Democrats haven't been this angry since Republicans freed the slaves”)
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To: rlmorel
Awww nice looking kitty. So hard to lose our fur family members.

If it's any consolation, I have read of some near death experiences where people said they saw not only family and friends, who had passed, but pets as well.

191 posted on 10/27/2019 8:54:24 PM PDT by Pajamajan ( Pray for our nation. Thank the Lord for everything you have. Don't wait. Do it today.)
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To: rlmorel

“When the time came, before they sedated him, I got face to face with him as he lay on his blanket that was his own, looked into his eyes, spoke lovingly to him, and brushed him with his brush he loved so much as the drug took effect and he peacefully left.”

After the agony of choosing to euthanize my last dog, and the awful drive to the vets, I was surprised when the doc’s 1st injection to relax her made her more at peace than she’d ever been in life (rescued from abuse). So that last unforgettable minute with her, for the 1st time, she looked into my eyes with such serenity, and I into hers. I held her head close to me so we could breathe one another. It was pure love, abiding love. And in that moment I knew I had chosen to do the right thing.

Your beautiful eulogy touched my heart bringing back memories I’d forgotten. For now I own cats who have a secret, silent language which only their owner understands. How special we feel to be included in their half-feral world. As you’ve said, they are gods unto themselves who allow us to worship them and in return, we are given the gift of their soft fur, their (oft) gentle presence, their tolerance of our moods, and a loyal friend in need. It warms my heart to know my words comforted you, as yours comfort me.


192 posted on 10/27/2019 9:12:28 PM PDT by The Westerner (Protect the most vulnerable: get the government out of medicine, education and our forests)
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To: rlmorel

Beautifully written. True. I know. Blessings they are and we suffer when they are gone. Love to you.


193 posted on 10/27/2019 9:16:53 PM PDT by fullchroma
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To: rlmorel

Thank you for sharing. Love is never wasted. He was loved and knew it. God bless you. I believe you will see him again.


194 posted on 10/27/2019 9:20:16 PM PDT by MHGinTN (A dispensation perspective is a powerful tool for discernment)
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To: rlmorel

A post for the ages, rlmorel.

God’s comfort and blessings on you and yours!

Meow.


195 posted on 10/27/2019 9:24:36 PM PDT by grey_whiskers (The opinions are solely those of the author and are subject to change with out notice.)
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To: rlmorel

Best tribute EVER.

Lucky, lucky cat, having you to appreciate him so profoundly..

Warmest best wishes to you and your wife.


196 posted on 10/27/2019 9:35:47 PM PDT by b9
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To: rlmorel

What a beautiful tribute to your friend - he had a good life with you and your wife. I’m crying...for you and for the friends I’ve lost.


197 posted on 10/27/2019 9:44:51 PM PDT by Aria
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To: rlmorel
We can't keep succulents in this house. They get chewed to the rootballs with these five. Our cat, Speedy, doesn't 'vocalize' - he seems to have a particular language known only to him. When he has an inquiry, or sometimes decides to announce his presence (he does this a good deal coming into my den), he'll stop, sit in place, and say "Muh-cow". LOL It's like Norm in Cheers - We'll all say, "Speedy!" and he'll come bopping in, sniffing around, and finding the softest spot in the room to occupy.

You'll adopt another cat. (Or, as with cats, they may well adopt you first.) But they will be of their own spirit and free will. You'll love him (or her) just as much, but they'll only be their own cat, not the one you've just lost. That's the hardest part and the steepest hill to climb. I have been there thrice in ten years, and there will always be a little bit of pain to go with the memories. It's just something we have to deal with that goes with the teritory of having a four-legged companion. My mother, who is almost 80, has seen us lose a family dog to renal failure, one who was almost 20 when she died (and not of natural causes - they bought her as a pup when I was a toddler), one cat to post-surgical complications, and one to old age. She swore after that she'd never go through it again and would never have another pet. Guess who has a little mixed breed mutt from the animal shelter in her lap now. They think she was living in the woods for over a year when she got picked up. She has no lower front teeth from rooting in the dirt and breath that could knock a buzzard off a shit wagon, but she's the the most loveable thing in the world and has a home that's 180 degrees from where she could have ended up cold and alone.

It'll be OK.

198 posted on 10/27/2019 10:08:44 PM PDT by Viking2002 (WARNING: Eating too much oatmeal can make you look like Wilford Brimley.)
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To: rlmorel

Well, I have tears in my eyes along with you, r. Go ahead and sob, because he earned it, and you need it. Sending you love from Balt-Wash.


199 posted on 10/27/2019 10:18:10 PM PDT by Albion Wilde (It is fatal to enter any war without the will to win it. --Douglas MacArthur)
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To: rlmorel

Amen


200 posted on 10/28/2019 4:24:26 AM PDT by Chode (Send bachelors and come heavily armed.)
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