Posted on 09/08/2019 5:54:09 AM PDT by rickmichaels
Edited on 09/08/2019 6:04:34 AM PDT by Admin Moderator. [history]
I knew a woman who was married to a professional man. He worked hard, long hours, was always inventive, creative. He was a dedicated father; she demanded it, for sure, but even beyond that, he was all in and was an extremely active dad. She didn’t like to cook, didn’t think it was her job, so he learned how. She didn’t like to tidy up, and he was no Mr. Clean, but he gave it a go. She wanted him to be compliant, yet resilient, and he tried to be all of the things she wanted. He even pretty well achieved it. He’d come so far that he sent us all a poem about how to appease the women in his house, who wanted him to leave the toilet seat down, he learned to pee sitting down. What a mensch! Only, in the end, she tired of his acquiescence and left him for a belligerent roofer 10 years her junior.
The New York Post took aim yesterday at a study called “Mismatches in the Marriage Market” in the Journal of Marriage and Family, that explains that women often don’t marry because there is a dearth of marriageable men. Apparently, the definition of marriageable is “makes 58% more money than any of the dudes available right now.” The “patriarchy” used to keep men and women in their places, and now that women are achieving at higher rates than men, it’s still the “patriarchy” that is keeping everyone from being happy.
In the old system, women went to college to find husbands or got jobs as receptionists at law offices to marry an esquire before quitting the job market to take on the dual roles of housewife and mother. This imbalance in earnings and status was deemed to be just no good for the female half of the species, who ended up poorly educated, often jilted in middle-age, and back in the workforce without even a pretty face to get by.
Plus, men were not great. They lacked emotion, they were too focused on careers, ambition, status, fulfilling the role of provider. The patriarchy had done these dudes a bad turn, had made them so concerned with achieving the masculine ideal that they didn’t measure up to what their women wanted or needed. And women were stuck with the status quo.
A big push was made for women to go get more from life, husbands, love, family, all that stuff paled in comparison to what was achievable if women buckled down, hit the books, and entered the capitalist machine as worker bees eager for their own honey. Great, why not? Go get it, girl.
And they did get it. Under equity feminism, more women have college degrees than ever before, more women are successful in their fields, yet more women are unable to find suitable matches because men, it turns out, just can’t measure up to women’s expectations. Again.
If you’re one of the single ladies out there, this will not be a surprise. I cannot count how many intelligent, independent, attractive, [bleep] women I know who can’t find a guy they want to spend more than one night with, and even that is a stretch.
For a while, women were complaining that guys were afraid of commitment, that women couldn’t find a man who wanted a real relationship, babies, the works. But somewhere along the line, when the college degrees were awarded in greater quantity to the fairer sex, ladies began to have a different complaint. I started to hear friends carp about guys who wanted more than a hook-up, guys who wanted their time and attention when not rolling in hay as well. Why, just last night, a good friend, independent, hot, confident, all of that, told me she had to cut a guy loose because he was texting her asking how her day went instead of simply reaching out to find a suitable time for sex.
Is it any wonder that women out there who want to get hitched can’t find anyone suitable to hitch their wagon to? Guys have been overtaken by female accomplishments (kudos, ladies), and still have no idea what women want. A hookup? A commitment? A high earner? A hard worker? A partner? A housewife?
Women didn’t like how men were, so they demanded they change. Men changed, and now that they have, women don’t like what they’ve changed into. Women want soft, emotional, high achieving, career focused tough guys who don’t get angry, remember anniversaries, bring flowers, and can splurge on expensive meals and trips, without working all weekend, and still make it to little Johnny’s ballet recitals.
Contemporary woke feminism doesn’t care about equality. It demands that men strip themselves of their toxic masculinity, their desire to compete and achieve, to become more stereotypically femme, so that women don’t have to do all the emotional heavy lifting. Okay. But on the other hand, women want men to be high-achieving, breadwinning earners, who are professionally successful, and, if Tinder is any indication, taller than them as well.
The only problem is that these toxic characteristics are essential for success in the marketplace. When men let them go, all those things that these traits facilitated fall by the wayside as well. Men are emasculated for not achieving just as they are demeaned for those attributes that enable achievement. Wtf, yo?
Why not just let men be men with all of their bumbling, masculine, competitive energy? The truth is that most women want the opposite of a woke Gillette ad. They want high-achieving, strong men to be partners with. Even if they don’t know that they want that, or don’t want to admit to it, reality reveals they sure as hell do. Otherwise, no intelligent woman who got her man to do everything she claimed she wanted, including coming up with an ingenious way to make sure the toilet seat was permanently in her preferred position, would leave him for someone who promised nothing but stereotypical masculinity.
Your gayness is showing again.
His post says the opposite of the way you want it to read.
“Your gayness is showing again.”
I am more hetero than you could ever hope to be.
Yeah. Nice scenery, too.
No it won't.
Been there, done that. "Middle age" becomes "Old age" waaaaay too soon. Things look a tad different then.
There are still normal American women
I’m in the south and we have plenty
Set your course properly and be a man
Even fembot women will take notice and be intrigued
Trust me on this
I lived it
I’d opt for southern or rural midwestern girls
Then certain Latino ones
I’m not crazy about asiatic women like many horndogs here
Most euro man asiatic woman couplings I’ve seen involve support expectations
Which I suppose isn’t much different than traditional role models here
I live in a rural affluent county south of Nashville
I’d say half the women at least are stay at home
My wife was for 20 years
Now back working corporate....once we sell our businesses off she may retire
It’ll be her call
Men need to be men
Then it all works
Great.
So stop acting gay by randomly insulting some of our best contributors and long time Freepers.
Maybe start with apologizing for misreading and popping off stupidly.
It’s like liberal Blue Staters who move to red states and start complaining and turning them purple.
I use vodka instead of water to make my jello molds.
Jell-O shots Wahoooooo
My daughter roomed in college with a Christian Nigerian. While my daughter is a serious girl who paid attention to her studies, she said her roomie was so serious that my daughter looked like a party girl by comparison. It seems to be a common thread among Christian Nigerians which I’ve heard about and, I would suppose, why at least parts of the country are the most functional in Africa.
He said he didn’t notice a thing from any woman, so he saw no issue. It was only his wife who later said anything.
He was around both woke and real men and that was his only personal context given.
And fat, ugly men want trim, beautiful women.
Often younger than any women who want them.
The human market is tough all around.
Works best when everyone is still young and appealing and full of potential.
I remember meeting you at the MFJ. I had a different screen name at the time.
Same case here, Christian guy. That’s probably why the Left totally ignores them.
Given 10 divorces, 7 are filed by females, 3 by males. How many of the female filed divorces are biblically justified? How many are brought about by unrealistic expectations due to social media, TV, and movies?
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Women file because men will move out and live with other women while still married. Hell the marriage protects them, stops the wife (or in other cases husband) from moving on with their lives. It is also the way to get a decree for child support.
Men can live without getting a divorce in a broken marriage, women cannot.
But men will ultimately settle for whatever woman wants them, while many times a woman will prefer to stay single than be seen with a guy who is "beneath" her.
Years ago at our old church, we had a tradition of the Nativity.
Angels, shepherds, baby jesus, Joseph Mary Wise Men real animals. It was good.
Mary and all the angels were girls, so was narrator.
Wise Men Jospeh and most of the shepherds were boys.
Then the leftist feminists got ahold of the play and made all the wise men girls. Tried to force the boys into being angels.
I watched those boys on the periphery, pushed aside.
They never came back as adults.
They ended their time in the church right there and then.
Not at all surprising. In the face of danger females gravitate to ‘strong’ men, which today means just normal manly men. When the Mubarak regime was falling and for a time all h*ll was breaking loose there was a flock of Code Pinko females that the Soros people had gotten in country to help organize the ‘Arab Spring protest’. These woman heard that a US oil field service and exploration company was using its aircraft to fly US citizens out along with their own people and valuable equipment. The DoS and the US Embassy were doing what they usually do in the face of emergencies, incompetent panicking and hand wringing. The Code Pinko females couldn’t praise the otherwise hated toxic male chauvinist pigs of a UGH, US oil company high enough when they got back to Italy where a lot of US nationals were refugeeing to. The problem is it will take the sky falling in to wake a majority of American women to this reality. But, the survivors of what ever hell is coming will at least have a clearer understanding of reality for at least few generations after. Unfortunately many will not be among the survivors.
My experience with divorced friends, is that the woman did the divorce because she found somebody she liked better.
Bro, I see this nonsense every day, and I’ve had to auto-adjust my reaction meter to “have mercy on the fools for they do not know” in the past 5 years or so (at least).
People all around are living lives spiraling out of control and they have absolutely no control. Drugs, money, booze, sex, rage, offense, pride - you name it. If they are that dysfunctional, they’ll find any reason to justify their insane life situation on some hapless bystanders.
I think we’re past auto-correct, as you put it. Total destruction might be what we get, and justifiably deserve.
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