Posted on 04/18/2019 9:34:05 AM PDT by rickmichaels
When the media “reports” that men are “afraid” of commitment, it’s a continuation of a 50 year trend to mock and disparage men for their reproductive choices.
Men aren’t “afraid” of commitment. When men walk away from “commitment” and marriage, they are making intelligent choices. Fear doesn’t enter into men’s minds when they walk away from women in our “modern” culture.
There was once a time when marriage was an honorable institution. It was not that long ago.
As mankind rose from primitive savagery, to civilizing the world, men were able to bring art, beauty, truth and goodness to the human condition. Marriage was vital to the stability that permitted these advances in humanity.
Marriage was a balanced set of cultural traditions and values in which men and women supported each other, assumed gendered roles that encouraged them to support each other, and, provided a means for men and women to enhance their lives through the synergy of mutual care, respect, responsibility and knowledge for and about each other.
Those days are long gone.
Marriage is no longer an honorable institution. It is simply a device of the neo-Marxist state to exploit men.
Do you think that is an exaggeration?
Let’s ask some straight questions.
What benefits does marriage offer a man?
The answer is that marriage offers nothing to men. At one time, men could enjoy trusting a woman with his love and sexual feelings. Current government regulation, however, has, virtually demonized and criminalized every aspect of men’s feelings and sexuality in, and outside of marriage.
At one time, Men could count on marriages lasting a lifetime. This gave him, his wife and his children stability and the incentive to work together, as a family, for long term benefits and gains.
Now, women file 80% of divorces, within about 8 years of marriage, use the biased and oppressive family courts to strip a man of his children, his life savings, and leave him to twist in the wind without a support network of any kind. Our laws and family court judges are designed to encourage women to get a divorce, alienate the children from their Father’s protection, and, exploit men for the convenience and enrichment of the neo-marxist state . . .
Men are dying from suicide at six times the rate of women in some age categories. We know that one of the reasons is the man-hating (misandry) that saturates our institutions (law, education, military, religion, etc.), and, that the other is that a man loses everything in most marriages. To meet draconian government regulation of marriage, a man must abandon his personal support network of friends, and, when he is divorced, and impressed into the service of the state to pay child support, he no longer has the time or energy to form personal support networks of friends.
Men walk away from marriage and commitment with women out of intellect and common sense choice. “Fear” has nothing to do with it.
And my comment had to do with the quality of dating material these days. You are pointing your sons in the right direction.
Why can't your ex-wife's subsequent husband "step up to the plate" and handle things?
Regards,
I can attest to that.
More Redpill with the Red Man Group on you tube as well.
Don’t judge us all by that original comment. Thanks.
She never remarried. For her, my SS benefits would be substantial, relatively speaking. Just boyfriends. And all abusive at that (according to my daughters). But then, also according to my daughters, so was she. She needed someone that would fight with her. I, on the other hand, needed an adult that I could reason with sincerely. We both got our wish.
I don’t judge “all.” But I do judge the He Man Woman Haters Club that resides here. Comments about gang rape straightening out Norwegian women, for one.
You should call your ex and ask her if she still remembers all the good times you had.
If she answers yes then tell her that by this time next year she won’t.
That’s most women... They don’t want solutions.. they just want to have someone listen.... and commiserate with.
Men are problem solvers, (generally) if you bring us something we perceive as a problem, we will try to solve it... But that’s not how women tend to operate, they aren’t telling you about it because they want a solution, they are telling you about it because they want you to acknowledge their downtrodden plight, then get angry when you point out an obvious, and usually simple solution.
As I said they know NOTHING about male psychology etc... They expect me to be their girlfriends, its insane.
I literally had an argument once, My mother had asked me if she could use the kitchen to make cookies for Christmas while she was in town with my kids... I told her no problem. When I later informed my wife this was to occur, she went off the rails as though I had somehow undercut her authority because I didn’t consult her first. I told her flat out, its family, I don’t ask you to approve with me first when your parents come to visit, which they do regularly, as they live much closer.... Its MY house as well and I am not going to ask your permission for my mother to use the kitchen to make cookies with her grandchildren when she is in town.... its FAMILY, period. I am not going to consult you on something so trivial as this, and if you think I need to, then that’s your issue, not mine.
Surprisingly, she actually realized how stupid and irrational she was being... it was a control thing with her.. they usually are. Funny thing is, like most women, she bitches about her mother, but she is just like her... I on the other hand am NOT her father... I won’t sit quietly by when she pulls one of these tantrums.
There is a sub-theme on K-Dramas about Korean young women who go away to America for college or otherwise grew up partly in America, and what happens to them.
Usually they are portrayed either as very spoiled and demanding, having no respect for the husband’s/boyfriend’s family, or they are promiscuous and deceptive, always pretending to be good and trying to hide the real them while hoping to latch on to a Korean man from a good family. I have a name for them, which is “Evil Girlfriend.” (Actually, through, Evil Girlfriend can also be totally Korean.)
That would be mean. ;)
I actually have completely forgiven her, but sometimes the “serves you right” gene comes out and I need to apologize to myself and anyone who heard it.
I really do feel bad for the woman and, truth be told, she was a victim of the “Learning to Live, Learning to Love” seminar and its teaching as well as the “false memories” craze, and then a government that allowed her to throw her family and life away. She admitted to my daughters just a couple of years ago that it was a mistake. Sadly, I was unable to ever convince her it was so, well, the only person you can change is yourself, and I found marital bliss. I found someone who’s goal is to serve me and who it is my goal to serve. It is really an awesome life living with your best friend.
“Comments about gang rape straightening out Norwegian women, for one.”
He didn’t say any such thing. It’s a nuance but he said Swedish society is run completely by and for women. THEY decided to import hundreds of thousands of psychos from a culture famous for rape. At the same time anything masculine is beaten down.
He said in that case it is hard to imagine Swedish men being eager to “do something”. And anyway, what the hell are they supposed to “do”? I haven’t heard of any Swedish men standing idly by as a rape occurs. Are they supposed to attack moslems at random? Are the supposed to speak out about it? You do that and you literally risk arrest.
I think his comment was on cause and effect, not saying it was a deliberate plan. But fulminate away on emotion.
Yup.
My first wife decided it was time to cash in.
I found 3 vultures: her, her laywer and MY lawyer treating me as though I were a criminal, negotiating amongst themselves how MY money and lifelong possessions were gonna be split by them.
That was the bottom line of the whole thing.
Go visit YouTube & search for MGTOW. You’ll be shocked at what’s there.
Oh, the Vice President of the He Man Woman Hater’s Club shows up! Must be slow over at Q Anon.
Anyway, I bow to your superior knowledge of what your fellow member meant.
Because most women are at least occasionally bat**** crazy, and “Why buy one cow when you’re already getting milk from a small herd?” It is not really all that complicated.
Anyone that I have ever come across that behaves that way has always been very self centered and disinterested in the feelings of others. It’s all about them. I have an older brother that is that way.
Those you must run from...
I recently had some friends over, there was this cute chick I didn’t know. She asked allowed, “This house is really cool, who’s house is this?” I said that it was mine. She immediately said “Do you have a girlfriend?”
Ha, no thanks...
LOL, you’re cute :) Ever try actually hearing the truths being spoken? It’s not from hate, it’s from hurt — emotional, financial and social hurt. Maybe you think men cannot be hurt and women cannot do the hurting?
“Alex...I’ll take “alimony” for a thousand.”
...said no woman ever. (That’s not enough, she screeched.)
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