Posted on 08/12/2018 9:27:30 AM PDT by Architect of Avalon
Please answer the title question with as many points as you can come up with. What interpersonal dynamics and actions would make the husband the happiest? Additionally, what would the ideal husband be like, and how should he treat his wife?
In the face of massive counter-instinctual, anti-male programming by the educational, entertainment/media, and political power establishments, that is by far the hardest behavior for a young woman to consistently practice in America. Her man may reward her for it, but she can expect brutal ostracism from society.
Kind of a mix of Peppermint Patty, Brienne of Tarth, and Patriot Nurse.
My wife is the ideal wife. Not perfect, not a beauty queen, but she puts up with my B.S and has consistently made sure this family moves forward the best we know how.
I wish I had married a deaf, blind, and mute nymphomaniac.
Always laugh at a man’s jokes. I’ve never understood it, but they really like making women laugh. They’re simple that way.
I already know what I am doing in this regard....I was just answering the question.
I wasn’t implying you didn’t ... just adding on to your comment.
Well duh- I dream of Jeannie
Me and my buddies used to like that show.
And some of my buddies told some off color jokes, about what wishes Tony would command Jeannie to fulfill.
Some things are hard to discuss.
This is one such topic.
And that is, apologies to great women Freepers out there, that in my experience, and talking to many men, we think that women judge us harshly sometimes. They judge us by various criteria, which don’t always seem fair.
For example, when it comes to household chores and tasks, we can have a “to do” list of 50 items, and take care of 47 of them. But the woman will focus on the 3 items that didn’t get done, or didn’t get done to her satisfaction. This satisfaction issue is a big one with men I know, that the woman will say he didn’t fold laundry properly. Or he didn’t buy the right brand of spaghetti sauce, or unexpectedly had to work late, and she gets all bent out of shape.
Another key issue is money, in that, she wants to spend money however she wants, but she is critical of him spending money on sports, or fishing gear, or many other things she doesn’t think are important.
I bring these up to try to answer the questions brought up by this topic. Give and take is essential. Neither man nor wife is going to get 100% of what they want in a spouse, and their lives together will have rocky moments. Give and take, that’s what will smooth over issues.
So wife should not have a cow if he spends money on sports or fishing gear, and husband should not have a cow if she is into designer clothes and cosmetics and wants a kitchen remodel.
Having said that, anything with a price tag on it, needs to fit within the family budget. And the family budget itself is subject to give and take. And neither will get 100% of what they want in the family budget.
Cooperation and compromise, and “letting things go” and not holding grudges, are keys to a happy marriage. In my opinion.
Find a wife who loves you.
What is love? It is the willingness to make an effort to increase the loved person’s happiness and well being. Everything follows from that.
10 Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
13 She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.
14 She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar.
15 She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
16 She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
17 She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.
18 She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.
19 She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
20 She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
22 She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.
23 Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
24 She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
25 Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
28 Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
29 Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.
30 Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.
31 Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.
King James Version (KJV)
Why did this woman bother to put on her pants?
Feed them, do them, love them, make them feel wanted. It’s pretty intuitive and the returns are fabulous.
This is to be said to a Jewish wife every sabbath. I really never felt good enough.
"...Joe Weider’s wife..."
Jordan Peterson asserts that a “perfect" couple is one in which neither party is perfect, but in which the imperfections of the two people are complementary.
For me.... respect between us and trust between us. we’ve been married a long time- but i know if the day comes that i no longer trust- it’ll be over for me.
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