So basically don’t act like a big Hollywood democrat supporter/donor or a muslim...
STFU, Kaitlin.
57 items? My whole repertoire for interacting with women can’t have more than 8 or 9 items to it that covers the whole gamut of treating them or ignoring them - and I’m 65....everything is so dang complicated these days.....
Great advice, but the last line of the article sums it up perfectly.
Did this happen in Naples?
How about just act like a conservative. I met my wife at work and darn if I didn’t have to pursue her every day to finally catch her in a place where I could ask her out. Over 20 something years ago.
57?
Geez. At least condense your list of demands to 50.
Final line of the article: And if she wants to f#@k you, she will tell you.
Aside from that, I don’t engage in any of the behaviors the author rails about. In fact, I take pains to keep things non-sexual with co-workers.
The flip side is that women DO use sex (or the hint thereof) to get what they want. Or to get help. That often includes flirting or dressing the part (in a subtle way). I’ve also heard women talking about men in pretty graphic terms (when they thought no man was in earshot). Lastly, not so long ago, women were complaining that they were not part of the “boys club”. The price of admission there is some degree of raunchiness which women will no doubt find offensive.
I’m glad to be retired.
It’s a minefield out there.
I.e., if you detect that a woman has these 57 rules, and that she has her radar on you, looking for creepy things, have as little to do with her as possible and never treat her the way you would a person you actually like. Treat her with suspicion at all times.
Yes, there are lines, boundaries. Every person is entitled to those boundaries. You ought to be able to assess them early on as you get to know them, and observe the boundaries she gives off. But if they have a mindset like the one described here, detect that there is a chip on her shoulder and avoid her like the plague she is.
I know there are people who are as cut-and-dried as this witch; and I know there are guys who are boorish. But, as a man, I hate to be held in such low contempt as this snoot has described. I avoid such people whenever possible. And if she ever asks me if I’m avoiding her, I’ll be horribly offended.
A person who has a list of 57 things on any topic isn’t doing anything useful with his or her workday.
>>But the fact is, it’s you. It’s men. The social ill that we can’t quite put our finger on is men.
Because no woman ever has been a sexual aggressor.
Because no woman ever has been a sexual predator (against women or men).
She’s a sexist writer.
Go flaunt your pipe dream that a woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle. But then wonder why NOW was founded by a bunch of lesbians and miss out on how they pushed for sexual impropriety and defended Bill Clinton when he engaged in workplace sexual affairs (some consensual many were not, all were one time considered verbotten).
“I need you to stop doing that” is something a parent or kindergarten teacher would say. I guess she thought it was cute instead of bossy. Totally annoying.
>>Yet another example: A friend’s boss once noticed aloud her new hair color. “I like the blonde!” Then, instantly, he backpedaled: “I mean, I liked it before! I mean, wear your hair however you want. I mean, your hair is up to you.” He clearly understood that it was inappropriate to comment on a female coworker’s appearance, for better or for worse, and bumbled through the awkwardness. He’s not a creep. He just said a dumb thing.
It can be quite alright for your boss to comment on your appearance “for worse” if you come in wearing wrinkled clothing, torn or otherwise ill worn clothing. Especially if you meet with the public, but even for appearances. Not every place has “casual Friday” rules all week but some people like to drop into an office in shorts and flip flops.
Before PC worship, it used to be fun to go to work.
What the hell kinda men is this woman hanging around... or does she just have an axe to grind. Here’s a one liner item for women like her... STAY THE EF OUT OF MY OFFICE, MY WAY, AND DRESS LIKE A WOMAN... NOT A SLUT.
Keep your hands to yourself.
ironically, if a woman likes you or finds you attractive nearly all of those items are ok.
Any woman who would make such a list I would avoid like the plague she is.
If a woman has a list of 57 things to not do to offend her, I guarantee that you are already on that list. She is also telling you to leave her alone, unless she finds you attractive.
Do not engage her. I repeat, do not engage!