Posted on 04/26/2017 6:18:53 AM PDT by BJ1
Fast forward to my 38th birthday. I was still single, and the world of dating had changed significantly in the last eight years. Tinder and Bumble, the dominant dating apps, offered countless options for single men and women, but made the experience of dating entirely impersonal.
Dating amounted to small talk with a stranger, who you had briefly interfaced with online because you each thought the other attractive. The small talk was a prelude to hooking up, and there were no expectations even of a text the next day.
It was brutal. And after trying my hand at it, I was no closer to finding the love of my life or starting a family. If I needed statistics to back me up, I had them. In 2014, marriage was on the decline, as was the fertility rate in the United States.
I had one real option left -- and that was to attempt to get pregnant alone.
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This is a great thread, but I liked your post extra.
I don’t approve that. The reason is that our society suffers when that happens.
If anything, I got new bumpersticker statement from this thread:
“Statistics doesn’t care about your Feels”.
There’s wisdom in that.
PS: My wife is 41. We have a 10 month old baby, and we just found out she is pregnant again. I have no idea how that happened, but I’m pretty sure I’m never getting that boat I wanted.
Thanks. I wish I’d known this when I was a kid.
Bottom line is:
1. You can’t love someone that doesn’t love themselves. It’s self-loathing that drives women to the stupid things they do, and to the destruction (ultimately) of the culture.
2. Never, ever seek affirmation from a woman. Ever. This is one of the major reasons why men have sex with women. If you want sex with a woman, do it, but just know it says zero about you. You have to like yourself because your a responsible man who works hard, loves God, and does their duty to their kids and their community.
By the way, 2 is contagious. When you like yourself, she can see that, and she may end up aping that behavior. It’s OK to point out that, ultimately, she doesn’t like herself and its effecting everybody - including the kids. You can ask her how you can help, but she won’t know.
The answer is therapy. The issue with that is there are so few competent therapists.
So brevity is your only objection I guess, because you read the whole thing and seem to only disagree with the style, not the substance.
I skipped right over it.
Yesterday’s argument.
ever the optimist LOL
I am a sucker for a happy ending.
You and your kids can build one in a few years.
They’ll have a blast.
Congratulations!
Tinder and Bumble are a sign of the end of days. Online Sodom and Gammorah for male and female genital-centric whores.
“They said a vasectomy would prevent pregnancy, but turns out it just makes the baby a different color”.
OOPS.
A pet child can be enjoyable at times.
They are called grandchildren...
She was a lead researcher on some book Mitt Romney supposedly wrote. Feeeeeeeelings.......I am woman and I can have it all, be as nasty, capricious, vindictive, needy, self-reliant (I don’t really NEED a man) as I want to be and you ‘gotta love and adore me’.....blah, blah, blah.
That's truth right there. Babies were intended to be had by young and inexperienced parents, certainly not middle-aged single or married people. Young parents are the ones who have the energy.....Old people want to think parenting to death..reason with a fussy two-year old, etc....
They did.
They were sued.
From what I hear the men have a hard time also
The young men an women of today have been trained by the adults in their lives to behave the way they do.
It is all home and school training.
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