Posted on 12/01/2015 7:00:33 PM PST by rickmichaels
Men are often advised to stand out from the crowd to attract women - there can be only one alpha male. Women, on the other hand, are told not to be too weird. This advice has sunk in: a 2006 study found that when in a mating mind-set, men become less conformist and women become more so. A paper in the June issue of Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, however, reports that we have it all wrong.
In the new work, which studied subjects who identified as either heterosexual or bisexual, both women and men preferred nonconformist partners - those whose clothes, opinions or life decisions broke the norm - when selecting from online dating profiles, describing ideal partners or picturing dates with people they had just met. Men showed just as much interest as women in oddballs (and in one experiment, in fact more interest), even though subjects predicted women would like misfits more. Further, independent-minded people - in the U.S., the U.K. and India - reported more success in both short- and long-term dating. Other research has shown breaking rules to be a good indicator of status and power, which may explain part of its appeal for both sexes, but gender role expectations have yet to catch up.
"The old-fashioned gender stereotype - that men go for conformist, submissive women - has been slow to die," says lead author Matthew Hornsey, a social psychologist at the University of Queensland in Australia. "I'm intrigued by the notion of the 'girls' night out' and how many women feel as though they can be more unguarded without men around - more relaxed, more crass, more honest, more funny. And I keep thinking, 'Why are you keeping this good stuff to yourselves? Men would love it!'"
That should have come with a warning! Eek!
That would depend on the party, don't you think? Are not acceptable girls allowed to go to parties in your world?
“Nonconformist Women”
Or, in the nomenclature of my generation: psycho girlfriend. And man, I do know of what I speak.
Rick, outside of your asking FReepers for your advice on anything.....I would call this your best post of all time.
I'm reporting you to a war crimes tribunal somewhere.
Going to parties isn’t the issue, it’s how they leave them.
I’m 18 and I like it...
If you are packin’ like me, you better declare it early.
Hi there, big boy.
:)
I woke up with blood dripping down my forehead and don’t remember anything after she head-butted me.
Yes, I guess it would eventually come round to ol’ Bruce. Now that is a non-conformist . . . uh . . . whatever.
I call bullsh*t.
DANG!
I say BS. If men are showing more attention to some oddball girls, it’s because they think they are easy.
“I don’t know the name of that snake”
Pete
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