Posted on 11/04/2015 3:40:17 AM PST by heartwood
My son is 19 and has struck out on his own for the big city. He is not prepared for this; he has no experience with the city, is young for his age, and has not made plans. He figures he will find work and a place to stay and has no idea how hard this will be, or how expensive things are.
He has been without direction and he felt as if he had to take a drastic step to achieve independence and his own life.
He is staying in touch, checking in with us. He has the Covenant House number and address. He says he will ask for help and come home if he needs to.
I don't fear that he's planning suicide, drugs, or to join the gay community. Just that he is way, way over his head. And emotionally fragile.
Please pray for his safety.
And please pray for me: I am so scared I want to cry or vomit. I want to launch him into the world - I have launched older children - but not like this.
Yes sir!
Great Post!
I left home at 16, didn’t know “giddy up from whoa”, but I’ve done real well.
I’m proud of this boy to have the initative and courage to take this step!
Praying for you and your son.
I am sad for you....and him. I will pray for you both.
I once asked my mom as our son entered the Army; “When do you stop worrying about your kids?” She answered; “I’ll let you know when I stop worrying.”
Let your boy climb the tree and maybe fall and break his arm. The ink on his cast will be an indelible fact of his past one day. If he crashes, he’ll get back up and move forward. Experience includes tons of mistakes. It’s how we learn.
And prayer is what is ALWAYS needed. You’re on track and it’ll be OK.
Awe. Don’t cry. :( I’m around his age and I’m also living in the city for the first time. Granted, I’m in college, but it can be scary nonetheless. We young people are pretty tough and resilient, though. :) It is admirable that he wants to be independent considering how most people in our generation don’t desire it. I’ll be praying for you and your son. I can only imagine how it feels to launch your child out into the world.
Prayers for your son’s safety and success. I hear your concern but something tells me he is stronger than you think..and think of this...there are parents out there wishing their son would get out of the house and make their way in the world. He’s motivated...and that’s half of life.
I am very familiar with the type of anguish you are experienceing. I think you have the right plan.
Pray and ask others to pray with you.
My Son hit a deer last night. Thank God no one was hurt, just some damage to his truck and bonus, he can still drive it.
Dear Lord, watch over each of your children both young and old. Bring them all safely home to you.
I think we who are parents have a child like this. Prayers up he makes the “RIGHT” decisions. And he stays safe until he does.
Time to cut the apron strings.
Prayers for your son.
Entering the “War Room.”
Thank you so much, Guenevere. My heart goes out to mothers of sons. It seems it takes them so long to finally mature. The early twenties are such a dangerous time for young men. And the college life certainly isn’t much help. I think God tries to keep us Mothers uplifted during these turbulent years, if we turn to Him for our guidance. I give Him all the credit.
I truly appreciate such a wonderful response from you, Bobalu. Thank you.
Very appreciated response, silverleaf.
You have your hands full, ZinGirl. It is a difficult period, especially the twenties, for our sons. Thank you for sharing with me.
Thank you for your response, JohnnyP. You have a kind heart.
Praying now.
I totally agree!!
They certainly do take longer to mature, bless their hearts.
I really saw it happen when he met his future wife!
I think you and I are kindred spirits :)
Your is definitely in my prayers.
I will pray for your son’s safety, but take heart.
I was a little younger than he when I decided it was time to go face the big bad world.
He may seem young for his age as you say, but that may be his love and respect for his mother giving you that impression.
It doesn’t matter where, or how old he is, he’ll always have those “I need to talk to Mom” moments. I still do. I’m 51, and my mom’s been passed since 1993.
It sounds like you raised him right. Have faith in those lessons, and understand that your son’s desire to prove his manhood, and independence, are a direct result of his upbringing, and the instinctual desire to pass it on to the next generation.
My crystal ball says, he’s just as likely to be successful, meet a beautiful girl, get married in a couple of years, and then we’ll get to congratulate you for those cute grandbabies!
God Bless you and him!
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