Posted on 11/04/2015 3:40:17 AM PST by heartwood
My son is 19 and has struck out on his own for the big city. He is not prepared for this; he has no experience with the city, is young for his age, and has not made plans. He figures he will find work and a place to stay and has no idea how hard this will be, or how expensive things are.
He has been without direction and he felt as if he had to take a drastic step to achieve independence and his own life.
He is staying in touch, checking in with us. He has the Covenant House number and address. He says he will ask for help and come home if he needs to.
I don't fear that he's planning suicide, drugs, or to join the gay community. Just that he is way, way over his head. And emotionally fragile.
Please pray for his safety.
And please pray for me: I am so scared I want to cry or vomit. I want to launch him into the world - I have launched older children - but not like this.
Prayers up!
My prayers go out.
How far is he? What city?
I know venturing to NYC, where I live can be a struggle but is definitely a learning experience.
As long as he answers the cell when you call, you can have some kind of peace.
It will work out. I made my mother gray by 50 and I and she are still kicking.
I will pray for strength, wisdom and discernment for both of you. A big part of me is really glad to hear about a 19 yr old leaving home on their own :| Most either stay or get thrown out!
Have faith. God reminds us that if you see what you want, then who needs faith? Faith is the evidence of things not seen.
I have offered prayers. While my own children are not old enough to try something like this, a number of my peers have. Mixed results. Some really take to it. Others have struggles.
Prayers up, right now - but something tells me this is going to end up just fine. My son is 19, and he’s in Kilamanjaro Tanzania doing the Lord’s work and speaking Swahili like he was raised with it. I bet your son surprises you. I hope this encourages you.
Prayers on the way.
Prayers up! I worry about my “adult” children constantly, too.
definitely.
also he will be fine, you brought him up way better than you are giving yourself credit for.
Prayers for him.
When they are of this mindset you have to step back and let them make their own mistakes. But as much as you are able to covertly watch him, do so. Seriously. Just don’t get caught.
Is he close by? Is there someone from the past he is close to?
Does he know you use this forum so that he could read the comments?
Could he have met someone online?
I am praying for your wonderful son!
He is braver than I am!
I sense how fearful you are... IMO... this is NOT the normal prayer request!
May God guide your child and ease your mind!
God bless you....
PS..... He has much more than I had...he has you :-)
Almighty Father, we commend this young man into your hands. He has the courage to strike out and find his place in the world, I ask that You guide him, protect him from the unscrupulous, have Your Angels guard him and keep him from harm, and grant him the means to succeed without compromising his morals. Grant, as well, Oh Lord, faith and Your Peace to this young man’s family that You will watch over him. I ask this in the Holy Name of Our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ, Amen.
He’ll sink or swim.
There is no other way. Just saying.
Just be there for him when he needs it. Hopefully he’s prepared.
Just be there. Always.
May God bless your son with growing wisdom, strength from his new independence and protection while he grows. May your mother’s heart be calmed with God’s peace.
Your prayers and those of us praying for your son and you ....do not go out void.
They go to our Heavenly Father....and Jesus is our intercessor.
Many prayers and years I have prayed for my son.....
Like yours, he had to make his own journey.......to become a man.
God heard those prayers.....he is happily married and strong in the Lord.
Even Billy Graham’s son, Franklin, departed from the fold, but God brought him back, strong in Him.
God hears the broken in spirit......
He hears your humble prayers...
Our son was 19 when he left home and we felt exactly as you do. Though he did struggle for awhile . . and though we did help him quietly from the sidelines once or twice . . he is now 30 years old and is happily married and has a great job history for the last 7 years. Many times I would sneak into his apartment while he was at work under the pretense of gratuitously cleaning . . washing filthy sheets . . getting his laundry caught up . . and quietly and without fanfare, carting liquor bottles and beer cans to the trash can. I never openly confronted him about his sloppy lifestyle, mostly because I didn’t feel compelled to do more than PRAY PRAY PRAY. During those hours alone in his apartment, I would heartbrokenly appeal to God for my son. I felt defeated every time I opened the door to that little apartment and saw the total disarray of a life that I felt was in danger. And every single time I closed the door behind a sparkling clean environment for ‘my boy’ . . I had the inherent and heartfelt assurance that my son was also ‘God’s boy’. Each and every time, God gave this hurting Mother a determination to not give up . . to not preach to him or confront him . . but to pray quietly, continue to love him unconditionally, to always believe that ‘our boy’ would not be defeated by Satan’s power. I always left feeling God’s Presence had somehow been restored to that little apartment that Satan had claimed as his own. I wish I could tell you that it didn’t take long . . but it did take years before our son finally matured enough . . found the right girl . . and most important of all . . he found his way back to God. Of course, that wasn’t hard for him, because a Mother’s prayers had helped to keep God’s Presence in our son’s environment. I am empathetic with your heartbreak . . but there is hope on the horizon because God is more transforming than is Satan. The Bible is so true when we parents have the reassurance that if we raise our kids in the right way . . when they are old they will not depart from it. I will pray for you and your son. Please keep us aware of his progress and please feel free to private message me if you feel the need to ‘talk’ at any time.
Yours is a sweet, honest and precious encouragement letter!
What a wonderful Mother you are :-)
If only everyone had such a Mother as you......
Prayers lifted up for your son and you!
Keep your arms open and make it easy for him come back home when he's ready.
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