Kate Hakala
Posted on 09/21/2015 6:14:44 AM PDT by BJ1
"I know lots of single men," Cara, 26, a resident of Brooklyn, New York, told Mic. "It's just... most are of little or no interest to me as anything other than a hookup."
Tired of old ways: The somewhat revolutionary notion that women are actually deciding not to marry is something that wouldn't be possible if the value of marriage itself hadn't changed drastically over the years.
"When women's life choices were highly constrained, they had little negotiating power," Pepper Schwartz, a sociology professor at the University of Washington, wrote for CNN. "They had to marry or were seen as damaged ... It's different now. While most women still want marriage, they don't want it at just any price. They don't want it if it scuttles their dreams."
That, in part, is due to marriage no longer being a must for women's social and financial standing. "I don't think hookup culture is damning for long-term commitment," Lisa, 27, said. "I think it's a response to the large obsolescence of marriage as an institution for women. We don't need to be economically or socially dependent on men."
That carries out through the numbers. Compared to their grandparents' generation, millennial women are significantly more likely to have a bachelor's degree and be a part of the labor force.
"I think a lot of us just don't think marriage is that important because it doesn't offer the security it once did," Norah, 27, told Mic. "It's not as necessary anymore because I can work. I can support myself."
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It's not that there aren't enough men to explain waning marriage stats — there also aren't enough women who want to walk down the aisle.
(Excerpt) Read more at mic.com ...
I was raised to be a man, not a rutting dog
for a good video blog on subject.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=rlvMAS_20K4
Karen Straugn
>>I notice women like to mention their education and career when it is impressive. But do men really give a damn about that?”
Regardless of whether or not it’s impressive, why would a man not give a damn about a woman’s education and career if he’s interested in her?<<
If I was still single I’d rather marry a waitress than a successful career roman if the waitress was 1) prettier. or 2) had a better personality. I never thought to look at a woman’s earning potential. It’s just not on my radar of things that make a woman wife material. Does it affect your thought process?
I am not saying its impossible, but the truth is that a womans SMV is related to how selective she is.
“and no one I have ever talked to can even explain how you commit that sin (blasphemy against the Holy Spirit). “
It’s denying the work of the Holy Spirit. It was originally a condemnation of those who returned to Judaism.
Oh and I agree with you about how feminism has ruined American women. They can’t relate and get bitter when red pill reality appears. Take a look at eastern European women or Asian women. Their mothers still explain the basics about men to them, and such, they have more success with men.
“I do not know the women that have made the decision to forgo marriage but I will predict a long, lonely and difficult life for most of them. Life is simply easier when there are two to carry the burden or share the joys over the long journey we call life.”
Spot on, and bears repeating. Careers are finite, and there is always someone gunning for you out in the world. If you base your entire life on career, to the point that you don’t ever start a family, it is highly likely you will regret it one day (male or female). We’ve lost perspective.
That may be true, but my statement was that women like me don't want that trash. I'm not saving myself for some guy who has been catting around with every woman out there. I won't be special to him.
Dated a woman who had bags of money , parents were millionaires , and she had her masters etc.
While she treated me OK, she did not treat others good at all and she was as thick as two short planks.
I married another woman with no college, has a sense of humor, good moth and we have been married for 20 years .
Most successful women care more about themselves and their careers than actually caring about others and they have a bad attitude.
Combined PING! and DANG!
If I ever find myself becoming like that dude, hopefully I’ll have the good sense to kill myself.
Amen.
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Kate Hakala @explikateme · Aug 14
Good sex is like Cheers: 1. Everyone knows your name. 2. Always glad you came.
Kate Hakala @explikateme · May 27
“Your mom didn’t teach you to take a compliment.” Ah, it’s summer in NYC as a woman.
Kate Hakala @explikateme · Mar 17
My phone autocorrected ‘female orgasm’ to ‘Pegasus.’ Sorry dudes, only one is mythical.
As if Cara would know what a man wants. She thinks if a guy flirts with her, that he's only interested in a "hookup" - baby, that your narcissistic personality talking, right there. Wait til he gets to know you with your Hep C and herpes - he may not be as interested in a "hookup" as you thought he was.
It's not that men don't give a damn, but rather that it's not the most important criterion for most men. Or even the second-most important.
For me, a woman being interested in sex on a frequent basis, and being chronically happy and affectionate, is far more important than what her education level is.
Kate Hakala @explikateme · Mar 11
“Imagine if men were as disgusted with rape as they are with periods.” http://mic.com/articles/112390/this-woman-is-combating-sexism-one-menstrual-pad-at-a-time …
Education and career don’t just take the path to income/earning potential. And that’s why your post confused me. One draws a fair amount of their life experience from their education and career. Or lack thereof. It ain’t all about the bucks.
So if a guy is out there, looking to find a wife, I’d personally hope he’d care about his potential mate’s choices in education and career. Not because of the income, but because, hey, it’s a reflection of who she is overall as a person. A high school dropout who waits tables is probably not going to be a stable spouse. A high school grad or college grad who has focused on a career she enjoys (waiting tables or being an engineer) and made an effort through hard work and dedication to get where she is would probably be a better choice.
But more than that, work and education (or lackthereof) are a part of almost everyone’s life. And life history. Why wouldn’t you give a damn about how a potential spouse got to where she is?
Kate Hakala
I spoke of my 23 year old daughter and 21 year old son looking for spouses. The general idea of marrying before 25 or even 30 horrified my young compatriots at work. Stupid women.
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