Posted on 09/21/2015 6:14:44 AM PDT by BJ1
"I know lots of single men," Cara, 26, a resident of Brooklyn, New York, told Mic. "It's just... most are of little or no interest to me as anything other than a hookup."
Tired of old ways: The somewhat revolutionary notion that women are actually deciding not to marry is something that wouldn't be possible if the value of marriage itself hadn't changed drastically over the years.
"When women's life choices were highly constrained, they had little negotiating power," Pepper Schwartz, a sociology professor at the University of Washington, wrote for CNN. "They had to marry or were seen as damaged ... It's different now. While most women still want marriage, they don't want it at just any price. They don't want it if it scuttles their dreams."
That, in part, is due to marriage no longer being a must for women's social and financial standing. "I don't think hookup culture is damning for long-term commitment," Lisa, 27, said. "I think it's a response to the large obsolescence of marriage as an institution for women. We don't need to be economically or socially dependent on men."
That carries out through the numbers. Compared to their grandparents' generation, millennial women are significantly more likely to have a bachelor's degree and be a part of the labor force.
"I think a lot of us just don't think marriage is that important because it doesn't offer the security it once did," Norah, 27, told Mic. "It's not as necessary anymore because I can work. I can support myself."
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It's not that there aren't enough men to explain waning marriage stats — there also aren't enough women who want to walk down the aisle.
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Eventually, they want kids. They all do.
At bottom, they are narcissists, and they need someone in the house to worship them. Men won’t do it. Kids have no choice.
So, they adopt, or they go in-vitro. They have their kid, and the poor thing grows up so screwed up they don’t know what normal looks like.
However, there are women who are single that tried, and the guy was an overgrown video game enthusiast who didn’t get the whole daddy thing.
Bottom line - take Church out of the marriage equation and the institution falls apart.
Nobody has said it yet, but without God, matrimony is just a corporate structure; a financial arrangement.
I started dating my wife in 1988 just before I turned 16. I graduated in 1990 and we were married in 1992 just before I turned 20.
I never thought about a strategy to stay married or paid any attention to what everyone else was doing. We had a real rough spot about two years into our marriage but divorce was not an option to me. I am so thankful because my marriage now is better than anything I ever imagined before.
God’s design for marriage and family is best. I suggest reading the Bible and know what He says about it.
Right, and after 40, the women have self programmed themselves into the thinking that every future "relationship" is going to fail just like all the others so they become a self fulfilling prophecy. Very hard to get off that merry go round. They don't have a clue about how to manage the first few dates, the getting to know you phase, the "discussion" phase where you both decide on the future. They've never done it that way - its just "well, we hook up, we have sex, we move in together, he does my girlfriends and then we break up!"
That's their model for a "relationship"
Now women can support themselves, and pay into a 401K. Thus, they can be very picky, and have the option of staying single.
The Bible says everything can be forgiven, except one sin - and no one I have ever talked to can even explain how you commit that sin (blasphemy against the Holy Spirit).
You are being a bit too cynical. The women I am talking about don’t go around mentioning their income. It just so happens they live in a nice neighborhood, own their own home, and drive a good car. The only thing missing is the man.
Definition of a slut:
A girl that will ‘do’ everyone but you.
I don’t follow. She is tired of waiting for a man, so she is quitting her six figure income job and going to SE Asia? What is the connection? Is it a church mission, charity work of some kind which is drawing her to Asia? Is she just wanting to do something else in life and not worry about meeting a man here at home???
she is quitting her job in 2 weeks and going to SE Asia for 6 months or more.
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Is that supposed to help matters?
Gay men trapped in women’s bodies.
Honestly, most women have been ruined by feminist dogma, and don’t know how to relate in the most basic way with men... they are so busy being offended by every little thing, or worried about proving they don’t need anyone they are literally impossible life partners.
That’s my take.
"I get older, they stay the same age."
I notice women like to mention their education and career when it is impressive. But do men really give a damn about that?”
Regardless of whether or not it’s impressive, why would a man not give a damn about a woman’s education and career if he’s interested in her?
Until they realize their youth is gone, their fertility is nearly over, and by then they are so stubborn and set in their selfish ways they are impossible life mates.
I know a mid-20s bartender who is getting her teaching degree from the nearby college. She is shacked up with an older man who has a daughter from a previous marriage. She’s incredibly happy (although has a few issues with her boyfriend’s ex) and when folks ask her why she hasn’t married she says she’s happy now and doesn’t want to do anything to screw it up.
I see her point but I wonder if that will change once she gets into her 30s.
Spoken like a complete millennial ignoramus. It is greatly responsible for the lack of long term commitment.
"I know lots of single men," Cara, 26, a resident of Brooklyn, New York, told Mic. "It's just... most are of little or no interest to me as anything other than a hookup."
And I can guarantee you, those men who you easily hook up with, think that you are certainly no prize (low SMV) and not worth long term commitment. Who wants to marry a woman with a history like that?
How one person regards marriage really should have no affect on how YOU regard marriage. Individuals are completely capable of adopting and living to high moral standards regardless of the containing society.
Sorry but the truth is there is a difference between whoremongers and whores.
Every whore I have known turned out to be terrible wives but many of the whoremongers made great family men after they were married. It may not be fair in a PC world but it is no less true.
Does she always work to make those 6 figures? Why give up that to go to Asia for 6 month ,because she is fed up of waiting for a guy to marry?
Sorry , but I am confused.
I don’t think a persons history is going to keep them from finding a mate, love is love.. I’ve seen more than a few party girls settle down in my day.
I do think however that women just don’t know how to understand or relate to men at all anymore, their mothers don’t explain the basics to them and so they pick up what they know from bitter feminist crap... so they have long strings of failed dating because they ruin ever long term potential by trying to hard to be the “independent” woman and offended by anything they remotely have been brainwashed into being patriarchial which of course causes more of their relationships to fail and makes them more bitter.
Dating some women today is literally like trying to live the taming of the shrew and most guys aren’t going to bother with that.
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