Posted on 09/19/2015 7:32:43 AM PDT by SeekAndFind
It’s a complaint at least as old as “Sex and the City”: Where are all the good, dateable men? Why are there so many amazing women and so few acceptable mates for them? For a long time, the conclusions drawn were that women were doing something wrong. Too aggressive, not aggressive enough, not putting themselves out there, putting themselves out there a little too often.
A new book “Date-onomics: How Dating Became a Lopsided Numbers Game” by Jon Birger sets out to show that women aren’t doing anything wrong: There just aren’t enough Mr. Rights to go around.
Birger explains that this is the experience nationally, not just in oft-mentioned dating wastelands like New York City. With more women going to college than ever before, there are only so many baccalaureate bachelors for them to meet and marry.
That seems reasonable at first glance. Hey, if a woman is looking for someone with her level of education, and this is a deal-breaker for her, then sure, there’s a serious shortage of suitable men.
Birger points out that a woman who was 34 in 2007 began college in 1991 when women outnumbered men on college campuses by 10 percent. He notes that “in 2012, 34 percent more women than men graduated 4-year colleges.”
The numbers are indeed daunting. But they obscure a question all of these unmarried college-graduate women should be asking themselves: Why does a degree matter so much, anyway?
In his book “The Higher Education Bubble,” Glenn Reynolds quotes statistics showing that the cost of college has increased 439 percent since 1982. Reynolds’ book discusses the crippling debt many college graduates carry and how many of their degrees make the debt nearly impossible to ever erase.
(Excerpt) Read more at nypost.com ...
I thought modern women hated men.
I know a lot of men believe this, but the fat, balding Viagra spokesman is actually not as cute as he thinks he is.
That was true many, many years ago. According to what I'm hearing, the typical young woman of today is much more forward.
Winner, winner, chicken dinner!!!
Well, there's one problem right there.
A woman does not want her sole purpose in life to be to *make a man happy*. If that's what you're looking for, you can continue to expect to have trouble finding someone.
If men are just looking for someone to wait on them and cater to them, they they ought to just hire a housekeeper. That just sends a signal to women that the man is selfish and self-serving. No woman wants to wait on a man who sits in front of the TV vicariously living his dream life with a beer in one hand, a remote in the other, and yelling at the stupid referee who's blind as a bat.
Does it ever occur to men that THEY aren't Mr. America's either? THEIR appearance plays a role in it as well.
For all the complaints about how women look and let themselves go, and are fat, men ought to take a good hard look in the mirror and check the belt size.
Many women have trouble with their weight as a result of child bearing.
I don't see that as an excuse any men can appeal to. So what is their excuse except for too much beer?
And when did men get this mentality that they can have the free and easy life while the women cook and clean for them are are expected to be ready to hop in the sack any time the man wants?
How many men give women a reason to WANT to have sex with them?
Marriage is not a one side or the other relationship where one does all the heavy lifting and the other goes along for the ride.
BOTH sides need to be more realistic about what it takes to be in that kind of relationship.
And again, that goes both ways.
older Americans have no concept just how slutty women have become. think sandra fluke and her need for hundreds of condoms.
When a woman is like a man and thinks they can sex with whoever they want, they're *slutty*? And just like men?
Then why do men think they can do it and not have the same label?
Wow, you just condemned the male of the species in one fell post.
That was excellent advice once upon a time, but nowadays, men can escape.
I first heard that joke with Dr. Laura.
Perhaps the whole problem is the dating scene anyway.
That’s certainly not the best way to get to know someone as there is a lot of pretense and fakery going on.
Everyone is on their best behavior in situations that are not going to be the norm for their married lives.
And a man asking a woman out shows initiative, and I for one, would not want a man who I feel more assertive than. I’d hazard a guess that most women don’t want to be the man in the relationship and don’t want to be stuck with a man who is barely more than a little boy who just wants a mommy with privileges.
Marriage should be a partnership, now a one side does it all scenario.
Now here you have hit on it. I haven't really dated in years, because I found that working a job I like (most of the time) and coming home to a clean house (and not having to pick up after someone else) is enough for me. Having complete control of my money is also a massive relief after some of the experiences I had when I was married. At this point, it would take a British movie star (that accent... mmm...) to lure me out of the house. And even then I'd be nervous.
LOL! An awful lot of women don't actually know what their butt looks like in action. They look in the mirror when they are standing still and think, "Yeah, that looks okay." They don't know what happens back there when they start moving.
When I used the term ‘Real’ I should have said “tangible”. The dearth of men after WW1 was ‘Real’ in that sense.
I get your point that ‘Expectations’ care also real. Except that they can be changed.
It’s an oldy, but goodie.
Since most women view being approached by a guy as some kind of insult/assault, small wonder guys cease bothering.
All he has to do is flash his salary, and that will take care of that.
wow!!....well said...women today dress like sluts, and then think every man that crosses their path is frothing at the mouth to have sex with then....for me, I would have sex with a women, if she meets my standards, and for the express propose of procreation.....
Same here. My ex drove us deep into debt while I scrimped and penny-pinched, but now I'm stuck with his debt. Yet he and his buddies claim to be victims - "Oh, the courts are so unfair to us men," yada, yada. LOL. Really? I'd like to write a long article warning engaged couples before they take the leap.
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