Now here you have hit on it. I haven't really dated in years, because I found that working a job I like (most of the time) and coming home to a clean house (and not having to pick up after someone else) is enough for me. Having complete control of my money is also a massive relief after some of the experiences I had when I was married. At this point, it would take a British movie star (that accent... mmm...) to lure me out of the house. And even then I'd be nervous.
Same here. My ex drove us deep into debt while I scrimped and penny-pinched, but now I'm stuck with his debt. Yet he and his buddies claim to be victims - "Oh, the courts are so unfair to us men," yada, yada. LOL. Really? I'd like to write a long article warning engaged couples before they take the leap.