Perhaps the whole problem is the dating scene anyway.
That’s certainly not the best way to get to know someone as there is a lot of pretense and fakery going on.
Everyone is on their best behavior in situations that are not going to be the norm for their married lives.
And a man asking a woman out shows initiative, and I for one, would not want a man who I feel more assertive than. I’d hazard a guess that most women don’t want to be the man in the relationship and don’t want to be stuck with a man who is barely more than a little boy who just wants a mommy with privileges.
Marriage should be a partnership, now a one side does it all scenario.
“I’d hazard a guess that most women don’t want to be the man in the relationship . . .”
I’d hazard a guess that is exactly what the liberated feminist ladies (?) want. To them, any man that is assertive is too male.
“And a man asking a woman out shows initiative, and I for one, would not want a man who I feel more assertive than.”
Post 95 puts it quite well.
It used to be that guys could get to know women at school and at work. Now, with any relationship going bad potentially leading to an accusation of sexual harassment (with subsequent loss of job or expulsion), that venue is much less attractive.
I met my wife at work. Got to know her for a couple of years as friends before the first date.