Posted on 10/10/2014 8:13:15 PM PDT by Morgana
Today, Jennifer Lawrence’s exclusive cover story with Vanity Fair hits the stands. The popular Hunger Games’ star speaks openly about the internet scandal involving the stolen nude photos of her. She calls it a “sex crime,” and says that anyone who purposely looked at the photos of her is guilty.
Lawrence is right that, just because someone is a public figure, it doesn’t give the general public – or anyone in particular – a right to view stolen photos of them.
But Lawrence also got it deeply wrong. In explaining why the nude photos were taken of her in the first place, she said:
I was in a loving, healthy, great relationship for four years. It was long distance, and either your boyfriend is going to look at porn or he’s going to look at you.
Whoa, whoa, J.Law. Wait a minute, there. “Either your boyfriend is going to look at porn or he’s going to look at you”? And this is a “healthy” relationship?
This is an absolutely terrible standard to set for today’s women, and for today’s men as well. And it’s about as anti-woman as you can get.
Men do not need to look at porn, and contrary to popular opinion, not all men do. To read about the devastating consequences of porn, check this out, and this, too.
But really, how demeaning. Women hate to be classified and boxed in. Yet here Lawrence boxes in all men, proclaiming that they are definitely going to be looking at some naked woman.
Of course, if we were talking about a marriage relationship here, a husband and a wife have every right to look at each other naked. And they should. But we’re not talking about a marriage here; we’re talking about the supposed need for men to always have some naked woman to look at and the supposed duty for women to provide that to them.
By insinuating that women ought to “pay up” and provide naked photos of themselves to whatever man they’re in a relationship with at the moment, Lawrence objectifies women. She degrades them as little more than sex objects, designed to satisfy the appetites of men.
I can’t even express how wrong this is. No, young woman, it is not your duty to take and share naked photos of yourself with your boyfriend. If you believe he’s either going to look at you or find other naked women, find a different man.
You deserve better.
There are men out there who actually respect women and their bodies. They would never expect their woman to text naked photos of herself. Objectifying – and all too often humiliating – yourself in this way is not what a good, respectful man expects.
If you’re with a man like this, dump him. Wait for someone better. Wait for a real man.
Real men can wait for marriage. Real men want you to respect your body. Real men don’t demand everything you have before they’ve even committed to you.
Unfortunately, it’s these kind of objectifying attitudes that wage a real War on Women in our nation. When women feel like objects and things that men can own, it sadly follows that they view their own children as objects and things that they can freely discard.
It’s a tragic cycle. Women are viewed as property. They are soon cast to the side. Children are viewed as property. They are thrown in the trash.
Honestly, I like Jennifer Lawrence. I like that she eats food. I like that she’s clumsy. I like that she stumbles over her words. (And of course, I love Katniss Everdeen.) But it’s my hope that young women who look up to her can reject this terrible statement that she made.
Eat hamburgers like Jennifer Lawrence.
Laugh at yourself like Jennifer Lawrence.
But do not believe that you owe naked photos of yourself to a man like Jennifer Lawrence.
Be a respectable and respectful woman, and demand that any man you are with conducts himself in an equally respectful way. And whatever you do, don’t contribute to this horrible cycle of objectifying human beings.
the real problem is women are so ingrained that they have to play the playboy role for men and WE JUST DO NOT HAVE TO GO IN THAT DIRECTION at all....
women should have more self esteem and pride in themselves but I look around and I see so many pandering to the lastest easy sex platitudes.....
Thanks--I thought I was the only one.
She sounds hideous
“”Real men can wait for marriage”
“Wait for what?”
Dude if you have to ask, you’ll never know.
Well, she’s a guy so....
( Sorry. I couldn’t help myself. That State Farm commercial immediately came to mind. )
They’re not going to wait unless they’re strictly religious.
Men want one thing and if you decline because you’re a self-respecting woman who doesn’t freely give it away you’ll get dumped.
If my wife wouldn’t have made me get it....
How on earth can they live normal lives? When you’re having money thrown at you and you become a huge star there’s no way you could have your average day-to-day life.
I’ve been abstinent for a decade and I am thankful for it. A cold bed is sometimes better than a romp and then a fever that signals the setting in of an STD. Or being used and then dumped. Men dump women they sleep with just as much as they do with the ones they don’t sleep with.
I see all around me the effects of the sex crazed culture and I thank God regularly that I have only one real regret. That was my ex-boyfriend and I dropped him in the late summer of 2004. I’ve changed and evolved and gone way beyond my expectations. All without a divorce and no kids and no major anchors keeping me attached to an unhappy past.
As for sex, porn, women need to become realists about the nature of men, the unpleasant side. Men need to get it into their thick skulls that women who do ANYTHING are the types that are dangerous. Teach them about Jodi Arias. Teach them about the stuff Jodi did for Travis Alexander and what happened to Travis as a result of diddling a crazy woman.
That’s the point I was trying to make. They have a skewed view of how life truly works. Some have been in, “The Biz” since childhood.
Lol
You deserve better.
If your willing to preach self-esteem while being willing to kill the baby that results from this "relationship", why do you deserve better?
As my grandmother said “Don’t do anything that you wouldn’t want to see on the front page of the paper.”
I commend her for trying to take care of her man. That’s rare these days. For that she gets a pass from me today.
Ok. I wish I was her man.
:-)
Remember, this is a Woman that told the world that she has a collection of “Butt Plugs” when she was being Interviewed on a Conan’s Late Night Talk Show.
She is also a bit confused. Her Boyfriend looking at Her “or” Porn is a silly assumption. I’m sure he is able to Multitask with the best of them. LOL
“Remember, this is a Woman that told the world that she has a collection of “Butt Plugs””
Context is everything:
“Conan asked if Lawrence is ever worried that maids snoop through her stuff when she stays at hotels. That’s when things got weird—and amazing.
“This is actually really funny,” she said. “Somebody as a joke bought me a bunch of butt plugs. It’s a long story,” Lawrence said. “A really, really long story. Just trust me that it’s normal—this story. I had a copious amount of butt plugs. Tons of butt plugs. All different fits and colors. A huge amount of different-colored butt plugs. So the maid was coming so I was like, ‘Well I’ll just shove this under the bed so she doesn’t see all these butt plugs.’ She might not know they’re for a joke.”
Oh, there’s more.
“Then I came back and all of them were brought out of the bed and were in this beautiful display on my bedside table,” she added. “I think she knew what she was doing. They were under the bed! I wanted to leave a note like, ‘not mine’ or ‘bought as joke.’”
“When he finally realized I that wasn’t, he said “Jesus knows I’m only human, He has forgiven me for watching porn.” “
Only if he is resolved to never do it again.
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