Besides, friends don't let friends marry badly...
I just started dating a chick I haven’t seen since high school. We hooked-up via Facebook.
We joke that it’s good we never dated in school because if we did we may not be doing it now - LOL!
So, what’s their supposed compatibility?
This statistic is misleading I think. They should account for people that meet on via websites that put people together who have the same interests or faith. I met my wife 10 years ago (married for 8) on a Christian dating website. My brother met his wife 5 years ago on the same site. A dear friend of my wife met her husband 11 years ago on the same site as well. Anecdotal evidence suggests to me that if people share a common world view, it doesn’t matter where they meet. Did they check the divorce rates for people who meet in bars? I bet that would be even worse.
Makes you wonder who funded that study? Could this seemingly negative outcome be promoted by some industry that would benefit from face to face dating vs online? Could the restaurant industry or the live entertainment industry be complicit. I know it sounds overly suspicous, but I do wonder. Nowadays, with less single adults attending church on a regular basis, it’s not so easy meeting new people when you’re ‘on the market’. Bowling has about disappeared from most big cities. Not everyone wants to go to sporting events to see or be seen. Oh, but then there is always pistol range training, although that too tend to be a solitary sport.
My wife and I met on True and we were the top ranked match across the country. I met the second highest lady, and she was a really nice lady, too. The third best I talked to multiple times, but never met.
All three women were intelligent (each had gone to school through full-ride scholarships), Christian, and conservative.
Meeting on “things in common” is, at best, only a quarter of “what matters.” So you both like U2, BBQ Ribs, and working out. What does any of that tell you about how you both will relate and work with each other in the ways that most matter? The answer is, “it doesn't.”
The personality-based matching is best. Combining it with the other provides icing on the cake.
Correlation != Causation
No matter how you meet, the odds are stacked against you in the long run. People expect perfection in their partners today. Good luck with that.
Interesting post/thread/study. (who paid for this “study”? M$YOU?)
More apt if they used time from first meeting until time of marriage as a calculation - many jump into the sack and hit the wedding hall in such short order they never really know each other but consider the orgasms as proof of their love and compatibility.
Met Mrs L online. 16 years married.
My daughter has met a few real losers on line. I wish she would quit doing that.
Basement living ain’t for everybody I guess.
Maybe people who “met” online were desperate losers.
Dang - well there goes that ....
My first two, started the “old-fashioned way” were disasters.
Met the Mrs on match.com. Been married 11+ years and going strong.
Her Free Ad...Yahoo...16 years married. It’s your Faith stupid! It always is. For the Greater Glory of God.
The problem with these stats is they’re blaming the medium when the problem is who comes to it. Folks who resort to online dating tend to have issues building relationships, it’s a desperation move. And whatever baggage they had in relationships that started in meat space doesn’t magically go away if they meet online. That being said I know 3 married couples that met online, no divorces yet, we’ll see how it plays.
They must not be using e-Harmony.com...