What I meant was that, once this skank tells her husband the truth, he may well decide to end the marriage, and that leaves the children with a broken home and broken hearts.
As others have pointed out here, it sounds like her only reason for wanting to tell her husband the truth is that the guilt is making her miserable.
Well, that is a possibility, of course.
I have seen it happen in my family.
However, it is my view that the best interests of the child is justice between the parents. As of now, the husband is being denied his right to make an informed decision.
He may well choose to leave. I read a couple of years ago, or so, about a man in his late eighties who found out his wife had had an affair in WW2, and left her despite her wails for forgiveness.
Adultery is strong stuff, with bad consequences. But whatever they are, they fall on her head. A marriage without honesty is no marriage at all, IMO, and unless confessed will always stand between them.
I realize that others have different ideas. They are wrong, IMO, but they certainly have the right to have them. And who knows, there’s always a faint possibility that I might be mistaken :)
Still, it’s a moral issue with me. She should confess and seek forgiveness.