Posted on 03/22/2014 10:32:07 AM PDT by fredhead
I don't how much more I can handle. I pray every day that things will get better, and they just get worse.
Yesterday, for example. It started with a hearing related to my on going divorce. A divorce I never wanted. The judge awarded my wife temporary support in the amount of all money I have after my bills are paid. Prior to that my attorney had his law license revoked, and I have no money to retain another attorney. My credit is wrecked, my family is gone.
And last night, my old dog died in my arms. I am so alone and don't know how much more I can take.
It seems that God has lost track of my soul, that he has forsaken me. All that is left is my work, and I no longer get much joy from the job I love to do. I need encouragement. Any Freeper friends out there?
As the old bronc rider says: it’s not how many times ya get thrown, it’s how many times you climb back on.
Realistically, your job (work) is number one.
Spiritually, let Jesus take the wheel. We’ve got your six.
Matt 18:20
Prayers do get answered, and all God asks is a little faith on your behalf. It will be tried and tested. Ironically, a lot of people seem to most want to surrender their faith when it's the only thing they have left. Hang in there.
"We are, not metaphorically but in very truth, a Divine work of art, something that God is making, and therefore something with which He will not be satisfied until it has a certain character. Here again we come up against what I have called the “intolerable compliment.” Over a sketch made idly to amuse a child, an artist may not take much trouble: he may be content to let it go even though it is not exactly as he meant it to be. But over the great picture of his life—the work which he loves, though in a different fashion, as intensely as a man loves a woman or a mother a child—he will take endless trouble—and would doubtless, thereby give endless trouble to the picture if it were sentient. One can imagine a sentient picture, after being rubbed and scraped and re-commenced for the tenth time, wishing that it were only a thumb-nail sketch whose making was over in a minute. In the same way, it is natural for us to wish that God had designed for us a less glorious and less arduous destiny; but then we are wishing not for more love but for less.”
― C.S. Lewis, The Problem of Pain
Take care, the Lord will see that the light at the end of your tunnel is NOT an oncoming train.
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Very, very sorry about your dog. You didn’t need that to happen, no, no, no.
Obviously I don’t know what happened to cause your atty to get his license revoked, and maybe you don’t either, but I imagine it must have been extremely serious.
It might be that you are due a refund of any money you paid him, especially any unused retainer funds. Perhaps his taking money from you was fraudulent, whether intentional or not, because of whatever issues he had that led to his license being revoked.
Many states have some kind of fund that compensates people who are defrauded by lawyers. I would call the state bar association and see if they can give you any help or guidance.
Also, I think you are a veteran, correct? Perhaps the VA could help you out in some way, or even the VFW or something like that. You might be able to find a fellow vet who is a lawyer who could help you out pro-bono.
Good luck and don’t give up, although I know it is very hard sometimes.
I’m coming through some tough times myself and while things are far from perfect at this time they have improved and I am grateful for that. Whatever is wrong or lacking in my current circumstances, I am not complaining about it, because things are better than they’ve been in a while.
Your faith is a shield. You must wear it like armor, FRiend. Reject the turmoil in your life and cast it out in Christ’s name. Don’t just think it; say it out loud and believe it. Then it will be so.
Psalm 91:9-16 NIV
If you say, “The Lord is my refuge,” and you make the Most High your dwelling, no harm will overtake you, no disaster will come near your tent.
For he will command his angels concerning you to guard you in all your ways; they will lift you up in their hands, so that you will not strike your foot against a stone.
You will tread on the lion and the cobra; you will trample the great lion and the serpent.
“Because he loves me,” says the Lord , “I will rescue him; I will protect him, for he acknowledges my name.
He will call on me, and I will answer him; I will be with him in trouble, I will deliver him and honor him.
With long life I will satisfy him and show him my salvation.”
Do a Google search for free divorce services. Try several different searches. You don’t dare go in front of a judge without an attorney.
I don’t know what your profession is, but you might try barter.
Best of luck.
Incidentally, several of my male friends ended up in this situation and years later their former wives wanted them back. But they’d moved on in other relationships. I think it’s called something like “the Cinderella syndrome.” They’re taught from birth that they’ll live happily ever after and the reality is there’s just more life and none of it involves princes, romance or being awesomely satisfied forever and ever.
“It seems that God has lost track of my soul, that he has forsaken me.”
This is your first mistake. God has SAID He will never forsake you. Believe Him.
Ditch the self pity and start digging out of where you are. When I recall the days I felt as you feel and was talking as you are talking I wonder at the fact that I had years to go yet before I got out. And I did get out. God WILL LIFT YOU IF ONLY YOU WILL LET HIM!
Prayers up to the Holy Spirit for you!
Praying for you, bro.
Had a friend that when he first found out what was coming, early before any paper started to fly, he did just that. . and booked a flight to Vegas. Got to Vegas, went to a casino, bet everything within a couple of hours (and lost), and flew back dead broke.
(That's what he said happened to his money).
She got nothing because he had nothing to share. He is living okay. . .don't know how come he has extra cash, but he does. . .
She got nothing because he had nothing to share. He is living okay. . .don’t know how come he has extra cash, but he does. . .
Sounds like a happy ending.
The answer for me was volunteering at a veteran's hospital. You will not believe how much better you feel when working with others to help our amazing vets.
I also want to tell you a story about my dog-loving friend, a woman who is older and divorced and who has valiantly struggled with the challenges of living alone. Her dog died, just as she learned her beloved sister, who lived 3,000 miles away, had developed a terminal illness. She was distraught at two losses at once; but as the situation rolled out, she traveled to see her sister, and ended up being able to stay until the sister died. The Lord had taken her beloved dog, but that enabled her to spend several weeks with her adored sister, and to help her sister's family, not having to worry about her dog, a kennel, the separation, etc. etc.
I'm not trying to be cruel to point out to you that the Lord has removed a burden of vet bills and pet mainenance from you just as you need to cut your expenses and recover from a financial squeeze.
Like my friend, you might look into fostering dogs through your local shelters. Sometimes dogs need temporary homes, and you can provide one for periods of time without having the expense of vet care, until you are solidly on your feet again.
We will pray now for your well-being.
I am an attorney but not licensed to practice in Virginia. Perhaps I may help with some general questions.
Rachmaninoff’s piano concerto number two.
Read the book of Job. We all suffer to varying extents, and it is all for some reason unknown to us.
For a long while in my life, I became quite acquainted with a biblical guy named Job.
It seemed that ‘the word from on high’ was:
Y’all kin mess his mind up, make his body go all cuckoo, make him lose all d’at d’at he dun did git an’ begit, BUT y’all ain’t gonna put one scrawny finger on him, ya dig? I know da man, y’all don’t! I’ll be a-watchin’ y’all, to make sure y’all end up lookin’ da fool.
Might want to drag that part out and read it some, no?
(In that time, he became, ‘my buddy Job’.)
(That's what he said happened to his money).
She got nothing because he had nothing to share. He is living okay. . .don't know how come he has extra cash, but he does. . .
I knew a guy who gambled it all away, or so he said. Went to the race track and picked up all the loosing tickets on the ground to "prove it"
There is a dog waiting for you at the pound to come rescue him/her and provide him/her love. Love that that the dog will return 10 fold. So my first words of encouragement are to visit the pound and bring home someone to love and love you back. While that dog will never replace the dog you just lost, it eventually will become a new member of your family. Also remember there are a lot of women who are also in need of a good man to love and share life with. Do not hesitate in seeking out another woman to share your life with going forward. While things may indeed look bleak at this moment, time has a way of soothing things.
One positive you mentioned is that the end of your rope is 6 feet out of your reach. Keep it at that distance and continue to expand that distance. In a later assessment you may come to say it was the best thing that could have happened to you. The other positive is that you have a job even though the joy of it seems to be eluding you at the moment. Build on the positives and realize you can only do what you can do and do not stress over doing it all at once. Keep a positive attitude and positive results will occur. Saddle yourself with a negative outlook and negatives will continue to plague you.
My prayers are with you that the above scenario plays out and the rest of your life is full of joy and love.
God bless you man and feel free to contact me whenever you feel the need.
Bob
My job, doing tech assists for the Navy, can involve trips overseas, where I can get substantial per diem. Other than the overall situation, my old dog was preventing that. I was also having to impose upon my neighbors to watch her when I went on overnight inspection trips on the ships (good overtime). The bright point of her loss is that I am free to work as I want. I think I’ll be grabbing all the overtime I can handle.
If this is true, and there were children involved, this is hardly a great example of how to be a man in tough times.
If this is true, and there were children involved, this is hardly a great example of how to be a man in tough times.
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