My dad died yesterday.
I don’t feel sad, because he had a good long life and everybody loved him.
Is that normal (the not being sad part)?
Sometimes. Be open to the good grief that may yet come.
God bless.
Sometimes.
I’m sorry for your loss. A life well lived can be celebrated when it ends, especially if you are confident that he went to be with the Lord.
“My dad died yesterday. I don’t feel sad, because he had a good long life and everybody loved him. Is that normal (the not being sad part)?”
There is “normal” behavior, and there is “healthy” behavior. The two are not the same. Running a few miles a day and exercising regularly is healthy; most people don’t do it. Eating McDonald’s is not the healthiest behavior, but most people do it.
I think, if the passing of a loved one is expected, and there is time to prepare for it, and if there is gratitude for the blessings and wholeness of the deceased’s life, then I think there is not much room for sadness, and that is a healthy, albeit, not necessarily normal behavior.
If on the other hand, one is actively repressing the grief and sadness, I would contend that’s not the healthiest of behaviors, and if that’s the case, you ought to share your grief.
Only you can know which of the above applies...
I think it’s ok not to be sad after someone you love has had a long and happy life. We all must go at some point. I know you will miss him and think of him everyday.
“My dad died yesterday. I don’t feel sad, because he had a good long life and everybody loved him. Is that normal (the not being sad part)?”
We all grieve in our own way. It took a few months to hit me after my mom died back in 2012. Her birthday had been Dec. 21st. That year it was tough at Christmas time.
My condolences to you and your family.
Yes, it’s normal and it’s OK. My MOM just died at 87 years, she was tired and just decided it was time.
doesn’t mean I don’t love her and miss her; it was just time.
Blessings to you, I cared for my dad until he passed in March of 2012. It still hurts to remember but I am thankful I could be there for him.
May the Good Lord comfort you in this time of your loss.
>>> “My dad died yesterday.
I don’t feel sad, because he had a good long life and everybody loved him.
Is that normal (the not being sad part)?”
I dunno, it sounds like an especially long run wouldn’t be much of a shock once it came to an end. Or one preceeded by much suffering in which death comes as a relief.
It’s an appointment we all must keep.