Posted on 09/07/2013 1:13:55 AM PDT by MacMattico
I know this isn't Syria or anything of that much importance to anybody but my family. But as a Conservative I think it's important to talk about kids and how they're treated and what we expect of them.
Honor roll niece is a member of an undefeated team in her sport. We go to watch her games, she is in HS and has been a Varsity starter for 3 years since 8th grade and was made a Captain this year.
After she started seeing a little less playing time, she respectfully (I watched her do this) asked if there was something she needed to do to improve, a certain skill she needed to work on. Nope, everything was fine, just getting some other girls some playing time against the "easier" teams.
Then suddenly an e-mail from the coach saying she lacked in every skill area, listing all skill areas, performed horribly in tryouts, has been a negative for the team as a whole (scoring wise not attitude or effort), and more negative comments, I can't remember them all, the e-mail was on my sister's phone as we were in the parking lot going to nieces game. Obviously the coach sent it out during the school day, so much for teaching! I asked if she (niece) had seen the e-mail, or if the coach had said something. Not that my sister knew of. So we approached the field thinking niece would be unhappy and on the bench. We got there just as the game was starting and niece is in there, starting. Plays 80% of the game and contributes much. We read the e-mail again. All we can figure out is this coach went off because niece asked "how can I improve" as if questioning the coaches coaching ability. My sister says she needs to think about what she's going to do, and doesn't even want to show her daughter the e-mail it's so negative. The coach also plays favorites and likes to have their ass kissed. Niece is friendly and good at the sport so has been able to avoid having to ass kiss or hang out with only certain girls.
....meaning sent it to the wrong person.
Why doesn’t your Sister just ask him about it.
Don’t tell the niece and don’t involve yourself.
The only way this deserves to be discussed is if the niece is angling for a college scholarship in this sport and the coach is holding her back from it.
Otherwise, coaches are allowed to make decisions without helicopter family members rushing in everytime something happens their little darling doesn’t like.
If it’s a misunderstanding, it will work itself out. If it’s a matter of being in the right “clique”, winning will expand the clique.
Is the niece good enough to get scholarship offers in this sport? If so, this might be worthy of some conference. Otherwise, I’d drop it and tell the sister not to be such a jealous drama queen.
People fumble the “to” field all the time. I once got an e-mail from my buyer’s agent intended for the selling agent of a property for which I had made an offer and received a counteroffer. He had been showing it to other people, thought he could get a better price. Very unethical, borderline illegal. The turd denied it even after I copied him back on his own errant e-mail.
Your niece was not he player he or she was discussing, imho.
Then tell my sister she sucks, not her daughter!
And the two things my sister spoke out about had to do with legitimate concerns held by a group of parents. Everything seemed fine for a while after that. She didn’t take it past talking to the coach. Sorry if I gave the impression she was complaining to the school, she hasn’t. And her big mouth comes in handy when organizing and fund raising for camps and travel. Other years, or so she thought, she and the coach had a good
relationship.
People that say parents shouldn’t be involved— coaches almost demand it, fund raising, transportation to distance camps and tournaments, hotel rooms, all are done by parent volunteers. When I was young we played local, now there’s interstate travel, Club, private lessons, all to remain competitive. All done per coaches request by parents like my sister, while
he collects the paycheck. And the kids just want to play and win. And my sister has never made an issue about anything directly related only to my niece.
Actually a former teacher, taught analog and digital electronics, computer repair and networking and changed hundreds of lives. Started the first computer and networking courses in the state. Started the program off of grants I wrote. Won rookie of the year and teacher of the year a couple times.
Trained the teachers in technology. Taught hundreds in short ‘build your computers’ classes. Taught principles and along computer repair. When I started my adult vocational training classes contained students that wanted to change their lives. Most lost their jobs or became disable and couldn’t do hard labor anymore. Several students started their own companies. Hundreds of others had solid careers because of my training.
Why did I quit? They introduced High School children into the program that didn’t want to learn. Children thrown into the program because they were undisciplined but intelligent and they didn’t know what to do with. Children their parents expected me to raise but could not discipline (terrible attitudes, disrespectful, no work or personal ethics and I could not fail or remove from class because of the their parents). It ruined the program for the adults and high school children wanting to learn. The easily butt-hurt parents broke my spirit in the program I created from the ground up.
But yes, due to parents complaining about the slightest insult and unable to take responsibility for their children’s misbehavior I quit and doubled my salary in the real world. All the good I could have done for others wasted. And I was a good teacher, a damn good one. I have students 15 years later running up to me to shake my hand thanking me for changing/saving their lives.
OOPS!
The most dangerous key on a computer is the "SEND" key........
You’re right, its not important. This is about a game..... a game.... team sports, and sports have little value. Sorry... no value.
I learned about the same amount on my sports teams in HS as I learned in actual HS. Competition, giving it your all, getting up after falling down, teamwork, time management, leadership, commitment and about winning and losing. Throw in some college scholarship bucks and sports were well worth it.
Good best to wait till the passion is a little less.I have a 3 day rule.Makes it harder when your on the internet:)
From elementary school my son was a self-motivated “Mr. Sports,” playing soccer, basketball, baseball and football. In HS he played varsity baseball and football. In football he was team captain and MVP for his senior year. Went on to play division III college football. He probably had 15 or 20 different head coaches through the years and almost all of them were douches. One baseball coach even accepted a vacation trip from a parent desperate for his mediocre kid to play. And the kid played!
Ha! Good for your son!
That’s what I am wondering. Did the niece rebuff the advances of a lesbian coach?
But did you have your mommy ready on the sidelines to run in and pounce/berate the coach when you played poorly? My coach kicked me in the butt, slapped me across the head, yelled to motivate me, and even cursed. My parents would laugh if they saw it.
My Marine Corp drill instructors fresh from Vietnam were not nice either. I don't know how I survived before the wussification of America.
sounds to me like the coach is the one with the ego or drug issue
If a person is working with kids, they better behave
some of them are sadists and stupid too
You’ll never get it. Argument is over.
How do you know for sure that the couch actually sent it? Maybe someone used his computer???
The coach's rant wasn't directed at your niece, but your sister.
A 3-year varsity starter and captain?
My guess, your sister or sister in-law pissed off the coach.
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