Why Male Pansies Can’t Attract a Good Woman

A while back I received several e-mails from guys requesting my advice on how to attract a female like me. You see, they seem to have a hard time attracting women that are into shooting and the outdoors… and I understand this.

Being that we humans aren’t whitetail deer and you can’t rub your scent on a tree to find yourself a mate, it makes things harder for guys.

I’ve decided to throw these guys a bone, and any others who need help, on how to attract such a lady. Here are essential points to follow in attracting the Katniss Everdeen for your life:

Now, I know I said we weren’t whitetail, but since you did mention you wanted a woman of the outdoors, I will use an analogy that caters to this community.

Women want the stud buck, bear or lion in their life. They want the alpha male, the one who walks out into the field and you know… he’s the man. However, don’t confuse this with arrogance; that is one thing women can’t stand.

The woman who is into shooting and the outdoors is usually someone who is confident in herself. Knowing that, she will never choose a man who carries himself with “swag” and treats women as objects. A hundred times over …and over, they will choose a man who has “class” and treats them with the respect they deserve.

Living a life of virtue is much harder than living a life of vice. Showing that you are virtuous in your actions will tell a woman that you live to a moral code, you have discipline and you aren’t easily influenced by weak and petty people.

Never need someone. Always be content with the thought of being alone, that way you won’t fall for the wrong woman. Also, if you do appear desperate, that’s usually when women run for the hills… and I think it’s true for men too. However, when you do find the apple-of-your-eye, don’t ignore her.

ZZ Top knows this and so should you; every girl goes crazy for a sharp dressed man. Guys, please put an effort into your appearance. We females aren’t shallow because we overlook the guys in sweat pants or who do the tube-sock/flip-flop combo… you look like a slob, that’s why we overlook you. If you want to attract a woman, be attractive.

Now, keep in mind this is strictly my opinion and the games of love are never set in stone. Nevertheless, these generally seem to be traits the majority of these Katniss Everdeen-like women are attracted to.

Also, take note of my use of the term “man”. The type of woman you want to attract isn’t going to be into a 30-year-old mama’s boy, who still lives at home and wets his bed. She is looking for a leader, the stud of the herd; she is looking for a “man”, not a “boy”.

Hello Regis:

Just wanted to write to you 5 points in response to your ‘unhelpful’ ‘wish list’. What do we look for in a woman?

1. Submission is key

I know I’m going to get flamed here. Are you willing to submit to your church? To your husband? When it is called for are you willing to sit down and say, “I might not agree with this - but I will do this because this is the right thing to do”. Submission to proper authority is hard. It requires someone to come down and say, ok, you are my husband. Am I willing to trust in you enough to follow along with the decision that you made? Gut check time. Easy enough to demand confidence without the concamitant exchange. What makes a guy confident? Knowing that his woman has his back. What makes a guy insecure? Knowing that his woman isn’t willing to do what it takes in the crunch. Want a guy who’s confident? Don’t undermine him to ‘get your way’. Why are you not getting confident men? Probably because you aren’t giving them support. Really easy here - If a guy asks you out - and shows you a good time, do you take the time to thank him for asking you out? Or do you cancel on him just before the date comes. Would you put up with the guy cancelling on you? Then don’t do that to the guy if you want a confident one. Showing guys respect is really super easy.

2. Respect

This gets into point number 2. Look at CS Lewis and what he says about, “there are no ordinary people”. Do you live that way in your own life? Or are these just ‘guys’ out there that come and go as you please? Gut check time - we look for respect - to men and to what we do in life. Sure, we work hard and earn money. Do we get much respect from society for it? No. Are we going to put up with lack of respect from our wife/girlfriend for it? Also no. Respect is earned, not automatic. Earn respect by showing it.

3. Be a woman of virtue:

Do you have kids by another man? See, here’s the thing I see all the time. Women expect that their business is just that their business. When it comes to the men - they expect and demand someone who puts them first, after having already had the party scene for, say 10+ years, they ‘go straight’ and then decide this is what they want from a man. Well, that doesn’t work that way. Have you waited until marriage? I’m waiting. Are you? If not, why not? Do y ou think it’s fair to demand someone who’s ‘morally upright’ while turning a blind eye to you and what you’ve chosen to do? Now, maybe you aren’t like most women out there. Maybe you don’t have a history 10 pages long, wonderful. Some of us *are* willing to look past these things, but here’s a clue - most of us who have waited aren’t really happy with the whole situation of being asked to look after someone else’s kids because you think we’ll make a good husband.

4. Rightly ordered priorities.

I’m putting this one up there. If you want something you go get it. I want to be married. Am I looking? Hell yes. Do I make that clear? Hell yes. Does that save me enormous amounts of time? Also hell yes.

See, many women like to play around and keep ‘options’ open. This way they get to do plenty of things without commitment. It’s a great strategy - except for when you hit 40 and can’t have kids anymore.

You want something - go get it, simple as that. Should I apologize for being blunt about what I want and being direct about it?

I see this many times. Many women don’t understand what’s the most important thing in their life, and the first thing that they should be working on. So they spend their time working on things that aren’t directed to what they want out of life and then putting the time in towards it. What are your priorities? How are you going about and accomplishing these things?

5. My final note is, look sharp.

We men aren’t shallow because we overlook the women in sweat pants or who do the tube-sock/flip-flop combo… you look like a slob, that’s why we overlook you. If you want to attract a man, be attractive.

As am I. I’m tired of cauldrons of swirling emotion in perpetual need of attention and little to no skills being offered except looks and getting laid. I don’t have issues with getting women so that really doesn’t appeal to me.

It’s the same old pattern. Woman has nothing to offer but her physical attributes, has ridiculous or screwed up expectations, no emotional stability, always wanting something more but can’t define ‘more’, self-centered, or has to be in complete control over everything. And of course you better be able to make and fork over the money, or mama ain’t happy.

It’s like being normal, balanced and all-American is a sin today. I guess I’m just a holdover from past times, but whatever happened to working hard, acheiving something, living life, and taking it in stride? I will not live life at the extremes cuz some woman needs a perpetual rush to make her feel alive.

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