Thank you, Captain Obvious. LOL!
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So, if you do have an argument, never, ever, skip the make-up sex.
Does this mean Boehner and Barry are married?
There’s still an open cause/effect question. Does lovemaking make for more happiness or does happiness make for more lovemaking?
I keep extra locksets in stock. ;)
/johnny
I tried to show this study to my wife and she argued with me.
Acceptance.
Since I’m pretty anonymous:
My first marriage lasted 20 years. Although in the beginning I wanted sex every day, she was fine with twice a week. And it trailed off from there. It produced three beautiful daughters, but back to the subject...
The last year we were married we went 14 months with nothing. And to be clear, she was a BIG arguer and I’m a Mr. Spock when it comes to arguing.
Being a Christian couple, I figured divorce was not an option and I continued to work on it. That is, until, completely out of the blue, she exercises her “no fault divorce” rights.
Not two months later, and completely done with women, I go to my 25th High School reunion and meet a female class mate who had just been through the same thing at the same time (though it was a second husband as her first, and the father of her three children, died of leukemia). She was so done with men that she told her sister to shoot her if she even thought about it.
So, we were both smitten and got married a month after my divorce was final. Frequency? Roughly 13 times a week. Sometimes more. Eventually it slacked off to 7. It’s only about four now. But then, it’s been 15 years and we’re just shy of 60.
And the only thing we ever fought about was sometimes me over-appeasing my ex when dealing with events involving the kids. I honestly can not remember the last time we fought. Our respect for each other is so high (and we both know it) that it is beyond my ability to imagine fighting.
Frankly, I did not know, in my wildest imagination, that it could be this good. It really is like a fairy tale, exept it really does happen.
I also confess that as I look around at young family men I can see it in the men’s eyes and demeanor. I feel bad for them. What I went through is a VERY common tale.
This sums it up:
http://www.fredoneverything.net/Divorce.shtml
What if you argue about sex?
In a related study on personal happiness they found that they could accurately predict happiness by measuring the frequency of smiling minus frequency of frowning.
The story does not say that the sex had to be with your spouse. Maybe that is a reason for increased arguments!
Some temperaments are naturally antagonistic to each other and some are naturally compatible. Two cholerics paired together will result in a situation where both are both going to try to boss the other around.
Celibate here and quarrel all the time. Still married and will be until death.
There was a statement on FR some years ago regarding marital bliss that has stuck with me.
For a long marriage, a husband needs to listen, really listen, to his wife for 15 minutes a day, and a wife needs to have sex with her husband at least once a week.
I think the first would tend to keep the number of arguments down to a level where the second would keep things well positive under the math in this article.
Pornography wrecks marriages.
There is a very big difference between loving making with someone who loves you and someone for whom one is merely and extension of their porn addiction.
Make love, not war....and bring money.