“A soft landing makes for flabby reflexes”.
So, what are you teaching them really? That the umbilical cord is severed and they are completely on their own? Sorry... but if a child of mine lost his or her job and couldn’t find another one quickly... that is what a parent does. Of course, there are specific rules and guidelines and the invitation can be taken back at any time due to laziness etc... Maybe I was raised differently with respect to family and helping them in their time of need.
>>So, what are you teaching them really? That the umbilical cord is severed and they are completely on their own? <<
You are teaching them to be dependent on others.
Helping family is fine, but shielding them from the lumps life gives out is just the road to neediness.
OTOH, a Man would never ask to move back in so perhaps the damage is done. I assume this is a hypothetical for you so we can hope you won’t get this test.
I’m with you, Mom. My 27 year old son lives with me. He can’t find a good job. He unloads trucks on the night shift. Sometimes his shift is 19 hours long. He has dinner ready on his days off. It wouldn’t occur to me to do his laundry and it wouldn’t occur to him to expect it. He’s good with guns, which helps me to sleep soundly at night. He believes in close family ties.