Posted on 08/22/2011 3:27:43 PM PDT by decimon
COLUMBIA, Mo. – A new University of Missouri study finds that boys feel that discussing problems is a waste of time.
“For years, popular psychologists have insisted that boys and men would like to talk about their problems but are held back by fears of embarrassment or appearing weak,” said Amanda J. Rose, associate professor of psychological sciences in the MU College of Arts and Science. “However, when we asked young people how talking about their problems would make them feel, boys didn’t express angst or distress about discussing problems any more than girls. Instead, boys’ responses suggest that they just don’t see talking about problems to be a particularly useful activity.”
Rose and her colleagues conducted four different studies that included surveys and observations of nearly 2,000 children and adolescents. The researchers found that girls had positive expectations for how talking about problems would make them feel, such as expecting to feel cared for, understood and less alone. On the other hand, boys did not endorse some negative expectations more than girls, such as expecting to feel embarrassed, worried about being teased, or bad about not taking care of the problems themselves. Instead, boys reported that talking about problems would make them feel “weird” and like they were “wasting time.”
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One must speak of a problem until the problem is understood. Then one fixes it!
When did this get to be a news flash? I told my fiancee’ that when he dies I’m going to inscribe “I have no idea” on his tombstone which is his favorite answer to any personal question. LOL!!
Shhh! SportsCenter is on.
How many times is one supposed to answer the same question at 3 in the morning, that you already discussed at 6, 8, 9, 10 and 11 pm?
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If you answer it right the first time, you won’t have to repeat the discussion. Most of the time, the woman just wants to know that you treasure her. Let her know that, and she will feel much more secure.
Excellent advice!
We're not fighting, I just don't like to interrupt.
You have a good attitude. Many women take it as an insult that we don’t listen. I can tell you that we are just hardwired that way.
I used to tell people, “If you ask your dog to do the dishes and he doesn’t do them, who looks stupid, you or the dog?”
Aw, shucky darn. I get so embarrassed when -— . Aw -—.
Like all women (according to you), your post was too long and talky for me to read through.
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Excellent response.
Have a good one, MM.
You, too.
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