Posted on 08/22/2011 3:27:43 PM PDT by decimon
COLUMBIA, Mo. – A new University of Missouri study finds that boys feel that discussing problems is a waste of time.
“For years, popular psychologists have insisted that boys and men would like to talk about their problems but are held back by fears of embarrassment or appearing weak,” said Amanda J. Rose, associate professor of psychological sciences in the MU College of Arts and Science. “However, when we asked young people how talking about their problems would make them feel, boys didn’t express angst or distress about discussing problems any more than girls. Instead, boys’ responses suggest that they just don’t see talking about problems to be a particularly useful activity.”
Rose and her colleagues conducted four different studies that included surveys and observations of nearly 2,000 children and adolescents. The researchers found that girls had positive expectations for how talking about problems would make them feel, such as expecting to feel cared for, understood and less alone. On the other hand, boys did not endorse some negative expectations more than girls, such as expecting to feel embarrassed, worried about being teased, or bad about not taking care of the problems themselves. Instead, boys reported that talking about problems would make them feel “weird” and like they were “wasting time.”
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Let’s just leave it at that.
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WTF cares...
Depends on the problem and the less time spent yapping about it, the faster it gets taken care of.
Agreed, there is nothing to discuss here!
Apparently the writer has just met males for the first time. We all already knew this.
You can waste time talking about problems, or you can try to solve them.
Although, sometimes solving them involves talking about them. Someone might have a useful idea, or know where to go/who to talk to to get the problem solved.
eff this, I;m outa here
And where is the Capt Obvious logo when you need it?
“But their partners may just not be interested and expect that other coping mechanisms will make them feel better”
... like finding a broad who isn’t always yammering about sharing.
To the headline: I agree (and am not a guy)
It took a PhD to figure this out. I go comatose discussing ‘problems’ with women.
Well, maybe not. There is a feller at 1600 Pennsylvania that considers dialog in the US House and Senate to be nothing but “ bickering.” He routinely calls for talking to stop so that he alone can fix the problem. Yep, I said that nasty sexist word “he.” So in this ONE exceptional case I find myself in agreement with the pointy-heads in Ivyland: “Just shut up and do it MY way!”
Unless one is seeking a solution, typically all this does is cause you to dwell on the problem and re-create it.
Speaking into existence, to go all kabballah.
Bad news for psychotherapists. But then, they’ve known it for a long time.
“On the other hand, many girls are at risk for excessive problem talk, which is linked with depression and anxiety, so girls should know that talking about problems isn’t the only way to cope.”
Is it only me, or has modern psychology become extremely weird? Maybe because the lack of males in leadership has taken away any balance in the group ...
‘Nuff said.
I asked my husband and he feel asleep.
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