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Posted on 06/03/2011 5:44:43 AM PDT by 4Runner
Dr. Neil Clark Warren, former dean of Fuller Theological Seminary and founder of eHarmony.com, the dating website, has spent most of his life promoting "family values". A run through Dr. Warren's "29 dimensions of compatibility" however left this conservative befuddled. Reminiscent of the standardized personality inventories used by employers, eHarmony's screening session told me what I already knew about myself. What I didn't expect, however, was the notification at the end of the session that eHarmony had determined that, based upon my responses, I would NOT be a successful candidate for their product. What then followed was a free "personality analysis" describing my personality traits. It read like the biography of a conservative had it been written by a member of the New York Times editorial staff. You know the style: "Mr. (blank) is a strong believer in self-determination and is compassionate. He will help you in your time of need. However, he will fully expect you to pick up the slack and improve your circumstances on your own after he has assisted you." The implication being that there is something inherently "un-Christian-like" with Mr. (blank) and his policy of "tough love". Indeed. What is really wrong with eHarmony is if you happen to list the U.S.Constitution as one of those things you most value (as opposed to, say, the Koran), as I mistakenly did, you will fail the personality inventory. Thus, according to Dr. Warren, you will never be able to find female companionship or sexual fulfillment in this life. Okay. Go ahead Freepers, prove me wrong. Tell me all about the thousands of you who met your politically and economically conservative future wives and husbands through eHarmony. Now I understand why the flagship musical theme chosen for eHarmony was Natalie Cole's rendition of "Everlasting Love", a paean to liberalism's supposed monopoly lock on love and pop culture and minority "values".
You can hear it at: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lswB6q2t_6c
There isn't much difference between any of the sites, Match.com, eHarmony, Christian Mingle, et al.
The question is did it cost you anything to find this out? If so I’d say you ought to get your money back.
As someone with VAST experience on the subject (married for the first time at 57, in Feb.), E.H. “conservative women, will NOT have photo’s......for a good reason!!
Leni
The only preson I know who has tried E-Harmony was an attractive blond female friend of ours. She is a conservative Christian and they dropped her as well.
Anything online that would cost me money, I would run from. 99 times out of a 100 it is a scam. Instead of getting something for nothing, one ends up with nothing for something[your money].
Maybe you should put her in touch with 4Runner.
I was very disappointed in eHarmony, they sent me “matches” that always were way outside my distance limits, or were in some way or another “flex” matches that didn’t conform to my “must haves” or “can’t stands.”
Since I was not too worried about ever remarrying (I’m a widow) it didn’t matter too much. But it was a waste of money. When I gave them that feedback, they offered me a free month. Nothing changed. Feh! If I meet someone right for me on my own, fine. If not, fine.
Eharmony’s personality profile is a bit on the ‘lite’ side so if your answers aren’t in line with previous answers it will bounce you. My impression is that it has a rather weak lie scale built in. Go back, get a new email address, login, etc and try again and go slowly with each question. I bet you will get a different result. Also, have you been divorced more than twice? if so that will get you an immediate bounce.
I am getting married tomorrow. We met via eHarmony.
Are you saying the conservative women are not attractive?
What about the liberal gals? Were they attractive?
Dr. Warren is a wonderful man, strong Christian, thoughtful and with a great deal of integrity. Don’t forget - eH lost a lawsuit by gays, who also wanted great ‘marriage partners,’ and has been sold, and it is a second-generation site. I think it also discounts you if you are not working.
Isn’t this part of the quiz free, though? So, don’t let an online quiz define you.
Ya. I’d rather be single the rest of my life than do any kind of online dating. I hear about all the romances people have had, but something about the internet leaves me cold.
Guess I’m an old fashioned 5 senses guy. Just don’t see how you can really fall for someone online without any kind of sensory input except maybe a picture - assuming that IS their picture and not a model from the Walmart ad.
The most recent one of these I took was very revealing of the mindset of the developers. I darn near gave their computer a nervous breakdown.
One of the categories was openness to innovation or a different way of doing things, or from the other perspective, stick in the mud-ness.
About half the questions in this category were on willingness to develop or accept new ways of doing things but with morality not involved, the other half what I would consider "values" questions (morality, etc.).
I scored WAY over to the left on the first half, and WAY over to the right on the second half.
The program scored them all as part of the same trait, as if belief in traditional moral values could only exist because a person was afraid to experiment or frightened of change in general.
Very enlightening on the liberal mindset.
Congratulations and best wishes!
Scout out the next Tea Party meeting.
A female friend of mine had the same experience as you. She ended up getting a refund. She’s really cute and doesn’t need to do online meeting but she just wanted to try it.
at EH.....sad but true
Keep in mind my the age group they constrained.
Plus or minus 5 years, 52-62.
Conservative women were likely home, having kids....not working out at the gym.
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