I have no idea who confronted you and made you uncomfortable. Sit back look up and ask, “Did I deserve that? Am I avoiding an issue I should be confronting?”
No matter what the situation, I’ve found that taking the High Road is always the best solution to Life’s annoying problems involving other human beings.
And, it annoys the HELL out of the person that’s currently being a JERK to you! Jerks don’t know they’re jerks and you’ll never convince them that they are, so don’t bother. :)
There is a time and a place for everything. Maybe that was the time ... maybe not. Without details, I’m not sure whether he was out of line or not.
Either way, you could’ve told him to stick a sock in it, or asked him to step outside to continue the conversation in private.
Sorry about your mother ... hope she feels better. God bless.
SnakeDoc
I told my kids years ago.
This might be your Ma,,but she’s my wife..
you take it from there.
Not knowing a darn thing that we’re talking about, other than the involvement of pizza, I do know that when times get tough, even people who love and respect each other can say and do some stupid and destructive things.
Anger to the point of being confrontational means courtesy flies out the window for some. For others, the effect is more one of a deliberate attempt to embarass. Only you know the answer as far as this other individual’s motivation. If this is out of character, chalk it up to emotion and deal fairly. If it’s completely in character, take care of what needs taking care of, as far as your own reputation, leave it at that and then cease being concerned about or with this person.
Perhaps take a look at this. Or do some web searches for the same type on your own.
http://www.humanpotentialcenter.org/Articles/IStatements.html
“Should” is a killer word. It denies reality. A psychotic killer of a word.
In a time of overstress — that’s what you seem to be caught in — hang onto that wee little quiet sane voice inside. The one that says — walk away, take a walk, look for the nighttime stars.
Look up into the blackness of the cold night sky and take it in.
What kind of pizza?
Pizza? You’re in the drivers seat, man. Take a huge bite and don’t explain anything. Wing the crust at her if she persists.
I completely understand your feelings. Your aunt was way off base here. It is YOUR home and you are taking on the burden of caring for your dying mother. Don’t allow your aunt to make problems for you, you have enough already and are responsibly confronting them with no help from her.
I hope you get your problems worked out.
God bless.
Nickel Creek - The Hand Song
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j3MwvG7tmpo
Whoever confronted you probably should have done it in private and not in front of your family. The tongue is indeed very heavy; there are so few people who can hold it. Regardless, the best way to get even is to forget and forgive! Prayers for your mother. God Bless.