Just seeing if you agree (personal matter)

vanity

[se_ohio_young_conservative]

Look I know problems can not and should never be ignored. Often that becomes a bigger problem that the original probelms problem.

However, isn't their a proper way to confront someone ?

I don't think I need to go into specifics about this right now. It is personal. My mom is very sick and it is a very stressfull time. And I know im not alone. I know everyone reading this has had rough times in life and im not looking for some kind of special sympathy or platitudes although a simple prayer would be very nice.

But I don't think a man should be confronted about something in a vicious way in the same room in front of his wife or mother and young daughters there. Especially when the person confronting me didn't have their facts straight and didn't understand the context of the issue.

I don't think it is right to rip into someone when they are eating a slice of pizza and watching the news. Isn't the proper thing to do.. to find another room and confront someone ALONE and leave them some personal respect dignity ?

Sorry if im going on and on. But this was very hurtfull to me as a man. and although I have my family in my side. It didn't feel good sitting there and trying to explain things that were better handled in much more private way. Infact, I wish it would have stayed between myself and God but that almost never works out that way.

I would like to hear opinions and replies..

thanks in advance

[Domestic Church]

You are right...sounds like she is displacing her own guilt on se_ohio as she was an adult when se_ohio was just a kid.

[bannie]

You were a kid. It wasn’t up to you to take charge. Once you got older, due to time and guilt/shame things may have become too difficult to bring up. If whatever-it-was happened TO you, it’s YOUR business as to when/how/if it comes out.

Tell the biddy that she obviously has her own problems to deal with, so she should butt out of yours unless she can be gracious and constructive AFTER she’s asked how you feel about her involvement.

[My hearts in London - Everett]

To bring it up in such a public way says something about her character as well. I do not abide people who embarrass and humiliate people at family functions. Had something similar happen to my daughter at a function I was not attending. I chewed out the two family members who hosted the event and should have stood up for her. They don’t speak to me anymore and it hurts my feelings not one whit.

[texas_mrs]

I completely understand your feelings. Your aunt was way off base here. It is YOUR home and you are taking on the burden of caring for your dying mother. Don’t allow your aunt to make problems for you, you have enough already and are responsibly confronting them with no help from her.

[B4Ranch]

I was sure hoping that wasn’t the problem. Tell your aunt that kids don’t make the same decisions as adults do and not all adults are considered to be wise.

[cracker45]

Re: “I never said that”, heck man, you’ve not said anything specific yet so quit whining and deal with it, or if you can’t, then ‘splain yourself with enough details so someone can offer appropriate advice without having to guess at the problem!! SHEEEESH

[patriot08]

I hope you get your problems worked out.
God bless.

[Liberty Valance]

Nickel Creek - The Hand Song
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j3MwvG7tmpo

[Gerish]

Whoever confronted you probably should have done it in private and not in front of your family. The tongue is indeed very heavy; there are so few people who can hold it. Regardless, the best way to get even is to forget and forgive! Prayers for your mother. God Bless.

[Diana in Wisconsin]

“...just because they are family doesn’t mean they have to be friends.”

I think ‘divorcing’ his family is the hardest part...but it must be done for me to keep my sanity. I mean, really. THAT is the family that raised him without a Moral Compass...even though a few of them seem to still have one. ;)

What possible good can that clan be to me in the future? I’m thinking - not much! :)

P.S. Crying in the car is the best release I’ve ever found, other than whining to my FR Friends about my current/temporary/transitional lot in life, LOL! Onward and Upward! :)

[KYGrandma]

Will say a prayer for you and your family. My situation has gotten better now that one sister-in-law left. Christmas this year might even be enjoyable.

[Diana in Wisconsin]

“Christmas this year might even be enjoyable.”

Mine is going to be FANTASTIC this year. I can actually go to church without ridicule! A small miracle. I’ll take it! :)